i'm in pretty bad shape

[me1234]

i feel horrible about my career and social life

 

I just got let go from my second law firm in the past year and also didn't get an offer from my summer job when i was a second year in law school. Granted, i hated the last job i had at a big firm where i worked all the time, and was assigned to this head of the dept who was verbally abusive. They gave me two mos to find a new job and i wonder whether i even want to be a lawyer.

 

I'm 28, went to good schools, was a good student in hs, college, middle of the class in law school. Was a "leader" in college..led some clubs, play the piano. But i always had some shyness/awkwardness. Never had a serious relationship..go out on first date with lots of women but come across as the nice guy too much. I assert myself sometimes but not others. I've been told i'm attractive by many women and feel i'm a good catch but honestly most women where i am (NYC) are snotty and arrogant and i like people that are interested in things...like i am in jazz, art, history, etc.

 

I don't know a lot of people here and the friends i have are people i reconnected with from college with whom i feel like i don't have a lot in common with

 

all of my friends are in stable relationships and jobs at this point and i feel like i'm not even close and i constantly worry that my career is over. I'm also told that i'm well-spoken and i interview well and "present" well, but i feel like i need hand-holding and at my last job i had things thrown at me and told to complete them. anyway, this is kind of a ramble but i just don't know where i'm going and it scares me...i'm not a kid anymore..i'm not 22. i feel like i need to figur emyself out soon and i just don't now if i ever will

[Blue Phoenix]

Its ok me1234 your not alone alot of other people feel the same way. Sounds like your at a impass in your life right now. Take some time to sit back and realy think about what you want most. Far as being a lawer its a realy stressfull demanding job. Maybe even tho you studied for it its just not for you. Far as your personal life goes. Sounds like you just moved to a new place to me. Its always hard to make new friends in that situation. Best I can say is just get out as much as you can. Maybe join a club in your area Nyc is a great place for meeting new people if you realy wanna. Best of luck to you tho

[bab]

Hi me1234, I don't really have any advice for you, but I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone. I'm also 28 (will be next week anyway) and spent a total of 10 years in college and grad school, and now that I have a "real" job, I'm not so sure I want it. I cried myself to sleep last night. I've been luckier in the social environment and have a wonderful H, but since we moved for me to get my "dream job" we haven't made any friends, so it's been just the two of us for 6 months. Like I said, I definitely don't have a solution for you, but thought you'd like to know you aren't alone.

[jmo28]

hey guys--its me1234 again

thanks for your kind words...i've actually decided to go back into therapy and have gotten some interviews..i'm gonna give law one more shot while working with the therapist to work on my profession and personal issues...and hopefully i'll find a girl that appreicates me for who i am rather than where i work

[Blue Phoenix]

Awsome glad to hear things are picking up for you

[Guest]

Awsome glad to hear things are picking up for you

 

right on babe

 

me too

 

see teamwork helps

[chryssy83]

Have you thought about getting out of law firms and doing government work or something? Maybe if you felt like you were doing things for other people you would feel better about your situation. It's not where the money is, but it might help you build some experience and confidence to move back into the private sector later. Just an idea...