Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 I agree. I gave birth and i think i look da*n good!! Do you have one or more children? Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Do you have one or more children? Just one, but i gained 70 pounds during my pregnancy, and lost 60 of it! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Just one, but i gained 70 pounds during my pregnancy, and lost 60 of it! Imagine having two or more. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Perhaps not in your case but in many women's case, they are the glue in a marriage, keeping things going for the man and the making certain that all the children's needs have been met. Some of these women also work. Supermom to the rescue. I think there should be some understanding and forgiveness for letting themselves go to an extent. If some of these men would put a little more time into helping out with all the domestic and other needs, their wives would have more time and leisure to keep themselves in good shape. Btw, I'm not in this situation. I work out almost daily and keep myself in decent, if not perfect shape. I still get carded quite often. My dad died when I was 4. My mom raised 6 kids. Want to talk Supermom? She still kept herself in shape. She didnt let herself go. she now looks MAYBE 65. Its just like the Staying for kids, excuses. She is proof!! Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Imagine having two or more. 6 and my mom weighs 105 soaking wet Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Imagine having two or more. I guess it's easy for me to say, but i was determined to look good for me, no one else. With gaining all that weight, i was miserable, so i did something for me, so i'd be proud of myself when i looked in the mirror. It was my choice to have only one child. I see nothing wrong with women who decide to have more. I agree that the husband should help out around the house and with the kids, but i have seen some women act like they are disabled because they gave birth. This, mind you, is not the case with my MM. He does help around the house, a lot more than some other H's i have seen. I just think that some women use this as an excuse to be lazy. I'm not saying that gives their H's a reason to cheat. I have seen men stay faithful to their W's, but are embarrassed to bring them out in public because of their appearance, and i can tell you that i'm embarrassed for them as well! Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 I agree. I gave birth and i think i look da*n good!! SMOKIN!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kymberann Posted January 1, 2007 Author Share Posted January 1, 2007 I have three. All three and a half years apart. I earned every stretch mark I got from those girls. With my first I was 200 pounds by the time she was born. I weighed about 125 when I first got pregnant. It was out of control. Before I figured out I was pregnant I was just on a food eating binge and for the life of me I couldn't figure it out! With the second a little less, but I lost all the weight from both babies. With the third I was much more conscientious and only gained about 40 pounds with her. I was still running up to about 4 months and then I switched to fast walking, or at least as fast as I could waddle. When she was two weeks old I was back on the treadmill with her at my side lying in her baby seat! Now I weigh about 145 give or take and depending on the holiday! I'd like to get to 140 no lower than 138. But it isn't a pressing issue as I lift weights and run. I'd like to drop weight mainly to run and bike faster, but I don't want to lose any muscle i have now! Uggh! Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 I was still running up to about 4 months and then I switched to fast walking, or at least as fast as I could waddle Now THATS dedication Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 SMOKIN!!!! Aaawwww, thanks BH!! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 I guess it's easy for me to say, but i was determined to look good for me, no one else. With gaining all that weight, i was miserable, so i did something for me, so i'd be proud of myself when i looked in the mirror. It was my choice to have only one child. I see nothing wrong with women who decide to have more. I agree that the husband should help out around the house and with the kids, but i have seen some women act like they are disabled because they gave birth. This, mind you, is not the case with my MM. He does help around the house, a lot more than some other H's i have seen. I just think that some women use this as an excuse to be lazy. I'm not saying that gives their H's a reason to cheat. I have seen men stay faithful to their W's, but are embarrassed to bring them out in public because of their appearance, and i can tell you that i'm embarrassed for them as well! Yes, I've seen these women and I'll have to agree that some do this because they are just plain lazy. Most of the time though, I think it's a priority situation. Do I work out or do I get an extra hour of sleep since I rarely get more than 5 hours. Do I work out or do I vacuum? Everyone knows wives who are running from dawn to dusk to meet the needs of her family or meet the image of the perfect mother. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kymberann Posted January 1, 2007 Author Share Posted January 1, 2007 I am right there with you Stillhere. I stay fit for me. It is my therapy and it is a great stress reliever that i get from my "Day Job". I have always been physically fit, I have always been in some sort of sport and I have always been running since I was 10. It's just a habit that I can't outgrow and I don't want to. The only time I gave it up was between my first and second child. My kids know that after their well being, comes my physical health. That does not mean that i haven't had weight issues, that goes up and down of course. Bodies change all the time. Get this, I am 37, people look/act shocked when they find out my age, they usually think I am late 20's early 30's. Whew! Plus I have low blood sugar so working out helps to regulate that. I'll take on growing old gracefully, but there are a lot of things I can do now to slow down the process! Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 I have three. All three and a half years apart. I earned every stretch mark I got from those girls. With my first I was 200 pounds by the time she was born. I weighed about 125 when I first got pregnant. It was out of control. Before I figured out I was pregnant I was just on a food eating binge and for the life of me I couldn't figure it out! With the second a little less, but I lost all the weight from both babies. With the third I was much more conscientious and only gained about 40 pounds with her. I was still running up to about 4 months and then I switched to fast walking, or at least as fast as I could waddle. When she was two weeks old I was back on the treadmill with her at my side lying in her baby seat! Now I weigh about 145 give or take and depending on the holiday! I'd like to get to 140 no lower than 138. But it isn't a pressing issue as I lift weights and run. I'd like to drop weight mainly to run and bike faster, but I don't want to lose any muscle i have now! Uggh! Wow, i give you credit for that!! I couldn't imagine doing anything soon after i gave birth!! I was such a whimp!! See, prime example of a woman who doesn't use giving birth as an excuse to let herself go!!! Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Yes, I've seen these women and I'll have to agree that some do this because they are just plain lazy. Most of the time though, I think it's a priority situation. Do I work out or do I get an extra hour of sleep since I rarely get more than 5 hours. Do I work out or do I vacuum? Everyone knows wives who are running from dawn to dusk to meet the needs of her family or meet the image of the perfect mother. My mom did it. Its a choice. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 My mom did it. Its a choice. Exactly. It is a choice of priorities. This is the type of woman that some men want at home and another type to play with. Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Exactly. It is a choice of priorities. This is the type of woman that some men want at home and another type to play with. But it doesn't have to be a choice of priorities!! What "type" do men want at home and the "type" that some want to play with? A partners come in all shapes and sizes!! That doesn't make any sense!! Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Exactly. It is a choice of priorities. This is the type of woman that some men want at home and another type to play with. and its the type of woman most men wouldnt want at home if they are into fitness. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kymberann Posted January 1, 2007 Author Share Posted January 1, 2007 Not that it is a judgement call, but I think you were wise to have just one. That gives you more time and energy to focus your time on raising one child with love and dedication. Not that I am saying I can't do that with my three, but the energy gets spread a little thin, and it depends on who's crisis of the day is more prevalent! My oldest daughter who is 14 told me that she has decided that if she has kids she is only having one just so that she CAN focus much more on raising one child in a much more effective manner. I think it is a selfless act on her part. I of course love all three, but kids need a lot of work and attention these days! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kymberann Posted January 1, 2007 Author Share Posted January 1, 2007 This is the type of woman that some men want at home and another type to play with. I'm lost what is that about? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 But it doesn't have to be a choice of priorities!! What "type" do men want at home and the "type" that some want to play with? A partners come in all shapes and sizes!! That doesn't make any sense!! The type I'm making reference to is the perfect mother. The one that meets all her families domestic needs, keeping the perfect house, sometimes working versus putting that time and energy towards her personal maintenance. I'm not this type of woman. and its the type of woman most men wouldnt want at home if they are into fitness. Was it part of the marriage vows? To love, honour and keep in shape? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 This is the type of woman that some men want at home and another type to play with. I'm lost what is that about? I just responded to stillhere with my response. Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Right now I feel like I don't look so good, although have the capability to look good....having kids didn't make a difference, but depression has. This leads me to a comment Kym made about the W looking mean, I see a lot of this....angry people....this type of countenance can control an entire room and cause everyone around them to be uncomfortable. My son used to do this, his personality is so strong....I hated to be around him when he was like this. This is a person who is not happy with themselves. I would really hate to be married to a person that is most always like this, or has become this way....sure one could blame it on problems in the M, but since when should we let another control our emotions to the point we drive others away. Never expect another person to supply all of the needs, to make the happiness in oneself....people will let us down and disappoint us, maybe even rip our hearts out....be angry, let it out in a safe place, and then be done with it, don't let it control .... I see the anger in this forum, not in the venting form, but the pouncing...and even though it is in type written form, the constant anger can be felt Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Not to mention the money issue!!! My daughter means the world to me, and i've tossed around the idea of having another. I can tell you that if i do have another child, i'll be happy, and if i don't, it won't break my heart. If my next partner decides he wants a child, then we will make that decision together, but i can guarantee, i won't let myself go!! I still get carded for cigarettes and beer because i don't look 18, and i'm older than these punks ringing me up!! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Right now I feel like I don't look so good, although have the capability to look good....having kids didn't make a difference, but depression has. This leads me to a comment Kym made about the W looking mean, I see a lot of this....angry people....this type of countenance can control an entire room and cause everyone around them to be uncomfortable. My son used to do this, his personality is so strong....I hated to be around him when he was like this. This is a person who is not happy with themselves. I would really hate to be married to a person that is most always like this, or has become this way....sure one could blame it on problems in the M, but since when should we let another control our emotions to the point we drive others away. Never expect another person to supply all of the needs, to make the happiness in oneself....people will let us down and disappoint us, maybe even rip our hearts out....be angry, let it out in a safe place, and then be done with it, don't let it control .... I see the anger in this forum, not in the venting form, but the pouncing...and even though it is in type written form, the constant anger can be felt pureheart, I'm not angry. I'm communicating situations which prevent people from being physically perfect for their mates. It's another side to the story. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 The type I'm making reference to is the perfect mother. The one that meets all her families domestic needs, keeping the perfect house, sometimes working versus putting that time and energy towards her personal maintenance. I'm not this type of woman. Was it part of the marriage vows? To love, honour and keep in shape? See, that right there. " He gave me vows, I can let myself go " Link to post Share on other sites
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