goodguy123 Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 So my ex messaged me this morning to have a happy new year, and and I wrote the same back, and then she wrote back and said she missed me, and I wrote the same back. We've been broken up for 4 months, and I have tried to get her back with no luck. And I never contact her, but she will contact me about once a week. So now that she finally said she misssed me, what is my next move? Please help! Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 You said you wanted her back. Is that how you feel? What were the reasons for the breakup? It is also quite possibly that she was lonely these few days. If you feel the same about wanting her back, go say hi and meet up. Be true to yourself, don't do something you would regret. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goodguy123 Posted January 1, 2007 Author Share Posted January 1, 2007 Ya I still love her very much and want her back. But I also think she is with someone else now. She pretty much left out of nowhere, and we had a few problems which could have been fixed easily. But when we first broke up she would say things like she thinks we'll get back together again someday, and stuff like that. And she knows I want her back. So I still haven't heard back after my last message to her. Should I ask her if she wants to go to dinner or something? Or should I just not say anything else? Link to post Share on other sites
upsetnhurt Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Good Guy, Why did you feel that you needed to tell her that you missed her too? That was your first mistake.......you fed her ego and let her know that she still has the power over you, enough that she can go back to this other guy knowing that anytime she wants you she can have you. Next time, let her do all the talking until you hear what you need to hear, which I take it as she wanted to get back with you. Don't let her know how you feel and simply answer with short answers. Why would you ask her to dinner???? She should be the one asking you.......... Can I ask why it is that you are still pining away for her? What is it that makes you think that she is the one for you? She obviously felt at the time that you were not right together for whatever reason and then chose to begin seeing someone else rather than taking time to herself to figure this whole thing out. Would you not feel like second best here if she came back to you? How would you be able to trust that you would not get your heart broken again? Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Ya I still love her very much and want her back. But I also think she is with someone else now. She pretty much left out of nowhere, and we had a few problems which could have been fixed easily. But when we first broke up she would say things like she thinks we'll get back together again someday, and stuff like that. And she knows I want her back. So I still haven't heard back after my last message to her. Should I ask her if she wants to go to dinner or something? Or should I just not say anything else? I wouldn't initiate the conversation of taking her out to dinner or something. Let her suggest it and take the lead. She didn't retrun the text; well don't follow up or feed her ego as another poster posted. If she wants to get back oneday, that is fine. I've had ex's come back after many years. Situations change over time. 4 months is a short time frame, also means the honeymoon period is over. It also sounds like a relapse on her part. There is no point in being #2 and ex's are ex's for a reason. If she left over easily fixed items then how will she react when the times are harder? If you feel she is with someone, then no point pinning for her or being a rebound with a revolving door. No point letting her leave and enter as she pleases. You two also seem young as in under 30. If so then don't worry and just let it be. Don't initiate unless you promised you'll return her call. Even after this I suggest taking it slow. Trust broken can not be easily mended overnight. Link to post Share on other sites
Lhasa Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 You situation is very similar to mine....It's been around 3.5 months that my ex and I haven't spoken...When she broke it off she told me she was seeing another guy...Over that time, I've sent her voice and text messages as well as email trying to contact her and she has refused to respond to me... A little over a month ago, was my last contact to her and decided to stop...Well, out of the clouds on dec 29th she texted paged me at 1:01a in the morning on a Friday morning and didn't respond back to her and won't until she shows more of an effort... Link to post Share on other sites
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