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Im in college, but that doesnt mean I dont need a mom still! For as long as I can remember, when I think if my mom, I think of her working. That's all she does is work work work work work. She doesn't go out with friends (she refuses to make any real lasting friendships), nothing interests her but making money and showing off to the neighbors (or whoever she thinks is looking.) Im not saying I want her to make me breakfast in bed, or massage my ego- I just want a mom who will truely care about what's going on in my life, and not act like im just in her way, or holding her back from living her life.

 

For as long as I can remember, she just wanted me to "hurry up and grow up." Well I have, all of her kids have- and she's still living her life on hold. I dont know what she's holding out for, I wish she would just snap out of her funk and be HAPPY for herself and HAPPY for her kids, and stop feeling sorry for herself just because she got a divorce over 10 years ago. She doesnt do herself any favors by dropping by the deadbeat's house to hang out with him.

 

I've told her all of this, but nothing seems to get through to her. Its almost like she's happy to sit in her puddle of mess and cry about it instead of moving ON.

 

She practically begged me to move back into her house with her, and she treats me like a stranger now that I live there. Its almost like she just wants me to be there, so she'll have a security blanket. I clean up after her, there's never food in the house, I never see her, she doesn't even talk to me, she just runs into her office as soon as she gets home. I try talking to her, and I try to give her advice about what she can do to make changes in her life, and NOTHING sticks. She doesnt listen to me, so why did she ask me to move back in here?

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I guess you're half right when u say she wants a security blanket. Maybe she needs have someone there in case something happens to her at home or maybe she just needs another human presence. Maybe she thinks by getting more money, she will get more attention and can fill up that hole she's feeling.

 

Hurt pple hurts pple. Sometimes these pple want others to pity them and sometimes they want the pple around them to feel miserable too. I advise not to let this get you as much as you possible. Show it to her that you can lead a happy life. If u wanna spite her heehee, bring a couple of friends home and let her see what she's been missing.

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Wow, I don't know what to say to that...but if she's being a brick wall, you tried and there really is nothing else you can do, just maybe move out again and live your life...don't let her drag you with her

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