shockandawed Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Thats gonna disappoint most of the red-blooded males on here ;-) How true!! I was looking for employment opportunities in Canada. LOL!! Just kidding, Congrats D!!
Author D-Lish Posted January 15, 2007 Author Posted January 15, 2007 Well, I didn't say I was jumping into a relationship- just finally open to dating again! Dating does wonders for the recovery process! D
jusified Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 But are you dating for the potential of getting into a serious relationship?? I'm still young and would like a serious relationship, I guess thats how I am. So if i was dating a girl I like I would not just continue it as dating for long, I would like it to be a exclusive relationship in the near future. How are you doing with all that anyways D-lish?
Author D-Lish Posted January 15, 2007 Author Posted January 15, 2007 I think everyone dates with the intention of finding the "one". So, yes, I'm open to the idea of something serious, if that opportunity presents itself. But for now? Just dating works. I had the worst dream about my ex last night. It's weird, because I don't normally dream about him. Now that I have finally decided I'm over him- I had this horrible dream that he had been cheating on me the whole time we were together and all my friends knew, but no one told me. Weird... here I am feeling like I am really getting over him, and now I'm dreaming about him.... and I don't want to! Stupid dreams.
Art_Critic Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 I had a date tonight... went well. Guess what? I think I'm moving on! I feel better! ^5 and Hot Dog !!!... Keep it up D-....
Author D-Lish Posted January 16, 2007 Author Posted January 16, 2007 Thanks AC... Now if only my sub-concious would catch up with the rest of me! Then maybe I could stop seeing him in all my freakin' dreams of late! Maybe if I see him in my dream tonight I'l tell him to beat it! Then I'll go and see if I can find Matt Damon... Well, Hello Matt! Hmm, the other night I dreamt that I was on the witness stand being interrogated by Matlock...
magichands Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 Maybe if I see him in my dream tonight I'l tell him to beat it! I've never understood the whole watching someone get off thing. I'd rather get involved first-hand.
Author D-Lish Posted January 16, 2007 Author Posted January 16, 2007 Oh, I dunno, depending on who you're watching....it could be hot.
magichands Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 Oh, I dunno, depending on who you're watching....it could be hot. What's for dessert?
Author D-Lish Posted January 16, 2007 Author Posted January 16, 2007 What's for dessert? Well, if yer lucky, it'll be you!
magichands Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 Well, if yer lucky, it'll be you! Holy Crap... Contact!
Author D-Lish Posted January 16, 2007 Author Posted January 16, 2007 Yeowzers! They don't call ya magic hands for nothing!
pfeif216 Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Wow D-Lish i haven't really posted on here in a year but after reading your story I had to....I got my heart broken last September and haven't really recovered...we both live in NY and run into each other sometimes and we hooked up on Halloween night and he told me he wanted to start dating me but not exclusively right off the bat(i understand he doesnt want to jump into things but also was a warning signal) the big step was I went out to his country house about a month ago to put up his xmas tree..it was so freakin great, we're like best friends when we see each other but of course i didnt hear from him for like a week or two after.....i tried to set things up w/ him to hang out where he replied he had plans and my final time was inviting him to a xmas party which he never emailed me back about..this to me just pissed me off so i decided to go w/ NC AGAIN so i heard from him on xmas but never responded..it HURTS and i just found out a friend of mine hung out w/ him in LA(both on vacation) and I just freaked out....im sorry im all over the place but just need some feedback... i have old postings on here if you feel like seeing my story(the re-connected w/ ex and text from ex one may help).....thank you all for all of your amazing stories
Author D-Lish Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 There's no better recovery than dating others... No matter how much you think u love someone, if they can't give u what u want, it's pointless to pursue it. I still love my ex, but I spent two hours making out with someone else tonight- and it felt great! Revenge is moving on... I'm seeing that now! And guess whose knocking on my door again? Just as I'm getting back on my feet? Yup, the ex. Damage has been done though... I'm not going backwards this time. :-) D
CaliGuy Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 There's no better recovery than dating others... I disagree. Until you are over your ex, dating others isn't always the best avenue. No matter how much you think u love someone, if they can't give u what u want, it's pointless to pursue it. Agreed. I still love my ex, but I spent two hours making out with someone else tonight- and it felt great! Congrats! Revenge is moving on... I'm seeing that now! The best revenge is a life well lived. And guess whose knocking on my door again? Just as I'm getting back on my feet? Yup, the ex. Damage has been done though... I'm not going backwards this time. Funny how they always come around when you've moved on, eh? It's like they can smell it. Best of luck, D.
addicted2love Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Glad you had the guts to see your ex...mine contacted me this week. Must be something in the air!
Author D-Lish Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 A2L: It's funny, I had hoped that meeting my ex would have been an avenue to get back together... it was a secret hope I'd had. I was upset all over again after the meeting. However- meeting him did help me to move on. It gave me the closure I needed. Cali Guy: Remember in your other post I mentioned I had been avoiding men with kids? Well, I've been dating someone with 2 kids... and he's pretty wonderful. He's also a Catholic, and I'm an Athiest- and I had always sworn that would have been a problem for me. SO it just goes to show you- having "a list" doesn't always mean anything! Cheers, D
jusified Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 well D, if you get too serious with him you might be expected to pop out the little ones like there is no tommorrow.
Author D-Lish Posted January 18, 2007 Author Posted January 18, 2007 nooooooooooo. no little ones for me!
Art_Critic Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 nooooooooooo. no little ones for me! Just big ones..
Aldo Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 I know this is going to sound stupid, I know that that people who have answered before me are right, however, I think you should always follow your heart, your dream is to get back together, he wants to see you, if I were you I'd also be kind of hoping this is it. You are a good person, go and listen to him, if it doesn't work out, at least you tried, no matter what, you can always look at yourself in the mirror. Algthough most of the advice here is about not letting people hurt you, I think you should be true to your feelings even if that means taking a risk, in the end, good things come to good people. God will pay us double for our former shame.
Guest Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 D, you mentioned in one of your posts that your ex is knocking on your door again. Have you seen him since a few weeks ago? I've been following your story and and don't want to miss what the final outcome is. I'm curious to see why he was calling you after so long. Do you think that he is feeling regretful now? I know that you're not interested in him anymore but it's interesting to see if sometimes they do come back in the end. Congratuations on finding someone new. Will you keep us up to date on how things go with the new one?
suchislife Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 Why no little ones? I hope that's not too nosy - I haven't read all your threads.
Author D-Lish Posted January 18, 2007 Author Posted January 18, 2007 Why no little ones? I hope that's not too nosy - I haven't read all your threads. haha- because I'm 37! I'm too old to want to be a mommy! And Art? Not too big! haha. Cali: I completely disagree that dating doesn't contribute to the healing process. It really does help to build the diminished confidence that one loses with a rejection scenario. It's not about rushing into finding a husband~ it's about socializing, feeling better about yourself again.
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