Very Awkward situation

[Coastal]

I'm sure this has been asked before on here(I hope so anyways), but here goes. I am quite interested in a girl I met at a party 6 months or so ago. I met her thru my cousin(it was her grad party). Anyways, I managed to find her myspace and get her screenname thru that. Would I come off as creepy and desperate if I imed her? I feel very strongly about this girl and wouldn't even bother if I wasn't still thinking about her 6 months later when she probably forgot me a week after the party. I have no idea what to say and as it was so long ago. I assume coming off as creepy will get back to me(she will tell my cousin/her friend, etc.)

 

Is there any 'good' way to handle this or has my window of opportunity passed? If so, how on earth would I even explain to her I got her screenname?

 

Please help...

[gfto]

It's probably going to come off as creepy. You should've just asked this girl for her phone number at the party.

[Okeydokey]

I think you should contact your cousin, explain your interest, and ask if she can organize another get together to which you are both invited. Go and don't mess it up. If I thought the guy was cute I would not think it is creepy... in fact, I would be REALLY flattered. But if I did not like him at all of if I didn't remember him, it would be creepy.

[konfuzd]

Why don't you just talk to her via myspace? Say you happened upon her profile, or saw her on your cousin's page or something, and tell her you recognized her and just wanted to say 'hi'. Don't say any more than that. Wait to see her response time, and how she responds. From that, you should be able to sense any interest.

[Luvinit]

Why don't you just talk to her via myspace? Say you happened upon her profile, or saw her on your cousin's page or something, and tell her you recognized her and just wanted to say 'hi'. Don't say any more than that. Wait to see her response time, and how she responds. From that, you should be able to sense any interest.

 

This is good advice and would be pretty simple for you to do, and if she is indeed on your cousin's MySpace, it would not seem too 'out of the ordinary' or creepy.

 

Just keep the initial message somewhat short... and I would not mention that you were still thinking about her for 6 months. Keep that bit of info to yourself. And don't initiate an IM without getting a reply to the MySpace message. IMing would be a little more 'deliberate' looking... and could make her feel a little creeped-out.

[clatan]

I am a lot like you. Only I've never managed to find any girls I know online, at least where I could message them. I'd go for it. I don't think it'd be creepy... necessarily.

 

I wouldn't mention that I was searching for her specifically. Not at this point anyway. What's on her page? If there's some otgher thing you could have been searching for and came across her page because of some particular keyword on it, tell her that.

 

Hey, I was searching for mp3's of Old Rolling Stones songs and a link to a MySpace account came up and it was you, what a coincidence! Hey what have you been up to. I've been wondering what you were up to. I'd like to hear from you!

 

Assuming she had a Rolling Stones song embedded on her page. Whatver you can use. Say you were Googling or you were alreeady on MySpace looking for something she'd written about, whatever you can.

 

I wouldn't tell her you looked for her right off. After you've hit it off and are setting on the couch some night with your arm around her and she says "Remember the first time we met at your cousins grad party baby? Did you like me then. When did you fall for me? Probably later?"

 

Then you say no actually I lied to you. I was so into you the first night I met you that I seached the internet for a way to contact or find you one night. At that point, telling her the real story will make you pretty cool in her eyes I'd think.

[Ultimate ATF]

hahaha creepy and desparate haha

 

girls wouldn't hate it if someone liked them! THey would be flattered. I mean, that would let them know that to some people they are attractive.

 

The EXACTLY same thing happened to me. This girl on MySpace called Sarahbellum. I imed her now we are friends. Don't believe me?

 

GO to this link and look at my freidn space and my comments. She is my 1st friend:

myspace.com/austin_fran

 

you might need to be logged in to see my full profile. idk.

[Nezero]

Your profile is set on private so we can't see anything.

 

Anyway so this post has some point, just talk to her on myspace for abit and then say 'Hey this would be easier on MSN, whats your MSN? or something.

[Ultimate ATF]

Yes. Exactly.

THats what I did.

Don't be shy or anything the person on my myspace was happy that someone liked her and was brave enough to admit it.

 

I can't believe my profile is set to private. I cant set it to normal.

I mean I know how to. It should be by now--

if not then add me real quickly or something.

I think you would have to be logged in to see it.

 

EDIT:Ok. the closest to private that I can get it to is anyone under 18 on myspace. it won't let me go any further.

[che_jesse]

IM her = Stupid. You are doomed to failure, it was 6 months ago.

 

Coastal: Hey

Girl: Hi, whos this?

Coastal: Your hot, wanna go out?

Girl: Creep...

<ignore>

 

Call her = Sexxy and charming. Be a man dammit.

 

Coastal: "Hey I know you don't remember who I am but we met at a party a while ago, I don't know what it was about that night but you just got into my head, would you like to have coffee with me sometime?"

Girl: "Wow really? You remembered me and took the time to get my number? Sure!"

[Island Girl]

I am a lot like you. Only I've never managed to find any girls I know online, at least where I could message them. I'd go for it. I don't think it'd be creepy... necessarily.

 

I wouldn't mention that I was searching for her specifically. Not at this point anyway. What's on her page? If there's some otgher thing you could have been searching for and came across her page because of some particular keyword on it, tell her that.

 

Hey, I was searching for mp3's of Old Rolling Stones songs and a link to a MySpace account came up and it was you, what a coincidence! Hey what have you been up to. I've been wondering what you were up to. I'd like to hear from you!

 

Assuming she had a Rolling Stones song embedded on her page. Whatver you can use. Say you were Googling or you were alreeady on MySpace looking for something she'd written about, whatever you can.

 

I wouldn't tell her you looked for her right off. After you've hit it off and are setting on the couch some night with your arm around her and she says "Remember the first time we met at your cousins grad party baby? Did you like me then. When did you fall for me? Probably later?"

 

Then you say no actually I lied to you. I was so into you the first night I met you that I seached the internet for a way to contact or find you one night. At that point, telling her the real story will make you pretty cool in her eyes I'd think.

 

How right you are.

 

Especially about telling her the truth after they're together.

 

I've had many things like this happen to me and the truth came out creepy if said initially (I never dated any of those guys) -- romantic and like a one in a million love if it was after I was into the guy and we were already an item. I love to think about those stories even now.