How do you get closure when he won't give it to you? And how do you get over anger?

[princessa]

WELL I'm sure the whole LS community is really proud of me right now. So after setting up my mind for a 2-month NC period minimum..... I was quietly sitting on the couch yesterday, processing this whole thread in my head. And then I started feeling guilty about the atrocities I said in the voice mail. And then the phone rang. So in a moment of guilt/weakness/confusion I picked up, and agreed to meet him. *puts on Dunce hat and goes to sit in the corner*

[blind_otter]

Hey don't put the dunce cap on, no one will be disappointed in you if you do this. I mean, it's your life and if you want to continue the drama and the misery, hey, that's your choice.

 

But, being a woman who has been in your position before I must warn you -- don't expect the sympathy train to continue if you keep making choices like this. It gets old to the people who are supportive of you.

 

Personally, I held on to an angst-ridden relationship until I had completely exhausted all my support systems. It wasn't a fun ride and it royally screwed up a lot of my life for a while.

[amaysngrace]

Do you want this guy back or not?

 

You should have just said YES on page one when I asked you.

 

This rollercoaster ride of yours has made me nauseous.

 

Dunce? I think that's appropriate.

[princessa]

What? I didn't say I want him back. Cause I don't know if I do. I just said I agreed to have a friendly drink and not ignore his phone calls. I ensured that he was at arm's length distance of me at all times. But still I screwed up the NC.