Guest Posted January 3, 2007 Share Posted January 3, 2007 There's this girl I've been in a relationship with for a while now. I've considered the idea of proposing to her, and while it's far too early to actually do it in my opinion (only been going out for about a year and a half, and a lot of that was LDR) it seems like I might eventually want to. Thing is, if I did, I'd want it to be a bit of a surprise for her. My question (more out of curiosity than anything) is, how do you find out what a girl's ring size is without tipping her off that you're buying a ring? Obviously you can't just ask her because (a) she'll catch on, and (b) in this case she might not even know herself because she doesn't really ever wear rings right now. Link to post Share on other sites
adnCat Posted January 3, 2007 Share Posted January 3, 2007 Fingers are all different sizes, so I wouldn't rely on her other jewelry. My fingers (excluding pinkies and thumbs) can fit anywhere between a 4.25 and a 6 ring. And I don't actually own any rings that fit that finger, so any ring my bf grabs from my jewelry box will be too big. I'm right handed, so my right ring finger is a half size larger than my left ring finger. If you have access to her while she is sleeping (that sounds a little creepy, but keep reading..) I suggest taking a string or thin ribbon to her finger and marking it off. Then you can take that to a jeweler and have them approximate the size based on your string/ribbon measurement. If she starts to wake up, just pretend you were holding her hand and admiring her as she slept or something. If she has big knuckles, take that into consideration, as well. If she's a heavy sleeper, maybe you'll even have time to measure her knuckle before she stirs. Some people are picky about ring sizes and like them tighter or looser. The string measurement will give you an idea, and you can get the size refined after you've given her the ring. At least you won't be putting a size 4 on a 7 finger, or vice versa. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted January 3, 2007 Share Posted January 3, 2007 Ask a friend of hers that wears rings. Make sure you stess this is for far far out in the future, not for now. And of course make sure it is someone who wouldn't spill the beans. A female friend will have an easier time asking her about her ring size than you will. Most rings can be resized, so it isn't that big of an issue. If you want to get something simple you can always pick out the rock and have it set in a cheap setting of random size (probably a 6 or 7) and then have the real setting ready to be ordered in the appropriate size. Link to post Share on other sites
My Fair Katie Posted January 3, 2007 Share Posted January 3, 2007 Her mom probably knows. My husband found my reciept for my class ring (which I wore on my right ring finger) and bought that size. Fit like a charm. It was a complete surprise. Even if there is a difference in size it should be pretty minimal and easy enough to resize if necessary. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted January 3, 2007 Share Posted January 3, 2007 I didn't wear rings myself but I used to wear my class ring so he found that in one of my jewlery boxes and while I was sleeping put it on to make sure my finger was still that size and used that. But if you can't find any old rings then do what adnCat suggested with the string. Should be able to go off of that. Link to post Share on other sites
goodfriendeva Posted January 4, 2007 Share Posted January 4, 2007 i was looking through my rings cleaning them and such and my hubby asked me what size ring do i wear.. i said idk but this one fits me just right.. long story short he ended up stealing my ring so he could take it to the jeweler to get the right size.. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted January 4, 2007 Share Posted January 4, 2007 Ask a friend of hers that wears rings. Make sure you stess this is for far far out in the future, not for now. And of course make sure it is someone who wouldn't spill the beans. Oh, sweets, I don't think there's a woman in the world who would be able to keep THAT a secret from her friend! Maybe for a little while, but it'll spill out one day. Link to post Share on other sites
chryssy83 Posted January 4, 2007 Share Posted January 4, 2007 Oh, sweets, I don't think there's a woman in the world who would be able to keep THAT a secret from her friend! Maybe for a little while, but it'll spill out one day. I totally could keep something like that a secret!! You just have to know what the friends are like! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 4, 2007 Share Posted January 4, 2007 I totally could keep something like that a secret!! You just have to know what the friends are like! Out of the two friends I'd say are closest to her... One probably could keep the secret, actually, but might not be the right sort of person to talk to about this sort of thing in the first place... The other one might be able to keep it a secret for all of about five minutes. In any case, the question was more a matter of curiosity than anything, since like I said, this is undetermined and a long way off if it is going to happen. But thanks for the replies, all the same. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted January 4, 2007 Share Posted January 4, 2007 I've found it easiest to request a list of sizes when I'm buying for my nieces or close friends. They know they might be getting something eventually, but not what! as for shoe size, shirt size, pants/jeans size, hat size, wrist size, ring sizes (all four fingers and thumb), preferred necklace length, preference of silver or gold, earrings as hoops or posts, etc. I cheat and keep an index card of the older girls, and update sizes for the little ones since they're still growing. it doesn't sound too romantic for a boyfriend to ask, but at least she'll know you're interested in her. If you feel uncomfortable doing that, get her mom or sister or close friend to fill out the information for you, I'm sure they could get it lickety split without her wondering why ... Link to post Share on other sites
chryssy83 Posted January 4, 2007 Share Posted January 4, 2007 There has to be someone in her life who can help you...someone who is pretty smooth with things like this, can keep a secret, and knows your lady well enough to get the info without totally tipping her off! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 4, 2007 Share Posted January 4, 2007 There has to be someone in her life who can help you...someone who is pretty smooth with things like this, can keep a secret, and knows your lady well enough to get the info without totally tipping her off! THIS IS THE HARDEST PART BECAUSE FOR ME, IT WOULD BE IMPORTANT THAT 'WE' RING SHOP TOGETHER. SHE IS THE ONE THAT WILL BE WEARING IT. SO, I WOULD DO SOMETHING LIKE THIS, TELL HER A FRIEND WANTS ME TO PICKOUT SOMETHING AND HAVE HER HELP ME - SHE WOULD SEE RIGHT THRU THAT BUT HEY. I WOULD FIND IT HARD AND WORRY THAT I PICKED SOMETHING SHE DIDN'T LIKE - BUT I THINK MOST WOMEN WOULD RATHER BE SURPRISED. WOMEN - WHAT DO U ALL THINK IS BEST? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 THIS IS THE HARDEST PART BECAUSE FOR ME, IT WOULD BE IMPORTANT THAT 'WE' RING SHOP TOGETHER. SHE IS THE ONE THAT WILL BE WEARING IT. SO, I WOULD DO SOMETHING LIKE THIS, TELL HER A FRIEND WANTS ME TO PICKOUT SOMETHING AND HAVE HER HELP ME - SHE WOULD SEE RIGHT THRU THAT BUT HEY. I WOULD FIND IT HARD AND WORRY THAT I PICKED SOMETHING SHE DIDN'T LIKE - BUT I THINK MOST WOMEN WOULD RATHER BE SURPRISED. WOMEN - WHAT DO U ALL THINK IS BEST? You could propose without having a ring and say you wanted her to pick something out that she likes but you wanted to surprise her so you couldn't exactly get a ring ahead of time. My fiance proposed to me without a ring for that very reason and I'm fine with that since I would prefer to have a ring I liked rather than didn't like, though I probably would have loved whatever he would pick out on his own anyway just because it was something he put thought and effort into and gave to me. Some women would probably be disappointed in not receiving a ring with a proposal. I have to admit I felt like the proposal was a bit slighted without a ring and my hand feels naked without a ring, however everything else about the proposal was perfect and this way at least we can shop together and find something we really like. Since marriage is uncertain at this time and is in the distant future, you shouldn't worry about ring size now, until the time comes. If you aren't able to take her ring size in her sleep, her mother would probably be a good source to ask, but you better be ready to propose soon after that because she will give it away eventually without even coming out and saying it even if she is good at keeping secrets, because a mother, or anyone close to her, just simply won't be able to contain themselves lol. They will drop enough hints subconsciously for her to figure it out, and if this occurs too soon, that could mess things up later. Link to post Share on other sites
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