victoria3001 Posted January 3, 2007 Share Posted January 3, 2007 Here's my situation.....I've been married for three years now. We dated for 3 years prior to getting married as well. My husband has never come out and spoke the words to me "I Love You" on his own. The only time he will ever say it is if I say it first. Then he says really quickly afterwards, love ya too. Everytime I bring this up to him he just says..What you think I don't love you?? Then he doesn't say anything after that. Another time when we were just dating and I brought it up he told me that he has only said it to one other person before and he got hurt in the relationship..... OK this time it should be different I am his wife and we have home and a family together now. He is also not very affectionate. We have never held hands in public. The only time he show physical affection is when we are in bed and he wants to have sex. Do you think he really loves me?? Do a lot of men have trouble with this? Or do you think he really doesn't love me?? Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted January 3, 2007 Share Posted January 3, 2007 Sounds to me like he's just one of those people who's not an affectionate person. I can sort of relate. My H is way more affectionate in the privacy of our home. Now in public we sometimes holds hands depending on where were at or if were do something special but we don't make out or anything. It's more like casual things which is ok. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted January 3, 2007 Share Posted January 3, 2007 Yep, sounds like he's not a naturally affectionate person. Try telling him that it's important for you to HEAR him say I love you, even though you KNOW he loves you. You still need and want to hear it. Ask him to try to remember to say it more often just because it makes you happy to hear it. Also, be affectionate with him yourself, even if he doesn't initiate it. Take his hand or hold his arm in public if you want to. Kiss him or touch him when you pass him the kitchen. Give him a goodbye/hello kiss each day. Touch his leg when you're driving in the car. Maybe if he sees you doing it and grows comfortable with it, he will start intitiating. Link to post Share on other sites
Author victoria3001 Posted January 4, 2007 Author Share Posted January 4, 2007 Thanks for the advice. This makes me feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted January 4, 2007 Share Posted January 4, 2007 O trust me your not the only one who is with less affectionate people. There are some that are over affectionate as well. I wouldn't let this make you think he doesn't love you. Maybe he has other ways of showing his affection to you and likes to do it other ways besides saying it. But doing little things could possible get him to do it back. Link to post Share on other sites
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