VeniceQueen Posted January 6, 2007 Share Posted January 6, 2007 Wow. No Contact really does work. A little over a week ago my ex finally called to to tell me how much he misses me. We've been out a couple times and it's been great. We've been laughing and joking and things felt relaxed and normal again. I can't help but be a little scared though. He did hurt me after all. And we did have problems before the breakup and I think they need to be discussed. I think we need to have one serious talk about it and then let it go because I know you can't move on if that past still plagues you. He says we shouldn't overthink things but I feel I need to stand my ground on this. How do you go about talking about past problems when you're back together? I want the future to be better for us. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted January 6, 2007 Share Posted January 6, 2007 Since he broke up with you. I'd make sure it moves really slowly. I wouldn't bring the relationship up. I'd make him do it and put his cards on the table first. Even if he brings it up, it shouldn't be a talk and then 'boom' back together. And try not to get emotional about it. The future can be better and you have especially good chances if he respects the fact that it is not so easy to get you back. He will carefully consider breaking off the relationship again and going slowly will help rebuild a great foundation so you both can feel comfortable. The danger of jumping back in too quickly is the insecurity that will linger on your side and the problems that may not be fully addressed (they always come back to haunt you later). Link to post Share on other sites
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