MotherGooze Posted January 7, 2007 Share Posted January 7, 2007 Hey! I just wanted to update my story. So, last night I had a date with my ex. We broke up a week ago, and yes that's not very long, and I didn't really follow the NC rule as well. My ex is someone who doesn't really like talking about his feelings. So the last couple of days we talked and got in fights, because he kept saying the same things all over again. That we were too different to have a healthy relationship. He wasn't adding much to the discussion, while I was looking for solutions. So I thought that if I didn't have contact with him he would keep his stuborness and thinking that he might have been right. When I met him last night, and entered his appartment he was still mad, because we had a fight the day before. So, now I did something I maybe shouldn't have done, but when you're angry you say things you don't mean. He was really hurt, went to the bedroom and closed the door. I left him alone for a while, and then I went over there to talk to him. It was the first time he actually showed his feelings. Apperently he was just scared. he's 21, I'm 23. But I already have a son, and my life is very scheduled. He lives alone, and works when he wants too, and has all the freedom he wants. He was scared of losing that kind of freedom because of my situation. So, I told him how I felt about it, and I guess he was relieved, because I'm not searching for a father for my son, or someone who I see everyday and I'm not really clingy. I was clingy the last couple of month, because of other things. I told him, that was a mistake and that I just wanted him to give me another chance to prove it. We started cuddeling and that's how we fell asleep. So, no further intimacy....I wouldn't want to do that right now anyway. I know we still got a long way to go, but I'm happy to know how much he really cares about me. I know he never has been like this with someone ever before, and I know it's hard on him. But we will work it out step by step. Link to post Share on other sites
resi71 Posted January 7, 2007 Share Posted January 7, 2007 i am happy about you.yes take a slow to get back together.my griefriend break up with me 5 weeks ago,i am going tonight there to see her,hopefully she will least talk with me,i am going nust with no contact Link to post Share on other sites
Author MotherGooze Posted January 7, 2007 Author Share Posted January 7, 2007 i am happy about you.yes take a slow to get back together.my griefriend break up with me 5 weeks ago,i am going tonight there to see her,hopefully she will least talk with me,i am going nust with no contact I wish you all the best! Just act cool and don't go nuts, that's the advice I can give you. Be friendly and calm, but open and honest. I really think No contact does work, but not in all sitautions. I hope things work out for you! Link to post Share on other sites
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