Does this sound like an addicition or something else?

[Guest]

I was wondering if this sounded like an addiction or something because I'm completly clueless as to whats going on. I want to check and see if I'm just reading to much into this.

 

Ok here it is:

 

My wife has minor trouble with her back where she takes pain killers when needed. I have no problem with her doing that BUT what gets me is that she claims that she's not in any pain and even told her doctor that but yet she still uses the pain medication. She'll go through about 30 pills in one month which in my opinion is a lot. If your not in pain then why take them? She just does the you don't understand thing with me.

 

Now I know that she has her time of the month thing were she does use pain stuff but a whole bottle? I've noticed that she used to take one then moved up to two and now it's on to three pills at a time.

 

About a couple of months ago she had to have one of her teeth pulled while under and they ended up giving her Vicodin which she did use a couple of days but she won't get rid of them. She said that she wants to keep them just in case she needs them for her back. So I tryed talking to her about it but she just wanted me to drop it and claimed that she doesn't have addiction and that I couldn't possible understand what she goes through. So she did tell me that she liked taking those because she couldn't feel anything in her back. Makes me wonder if she got a little addicted to them but she hasn't taken any since because I counted them.

 

I just don't what she's taking to not be enough and then move onto something else. I have the urge to take those pills and just flush them. That way she can't use them if she wanted too.

 

I get the feeling that she is lying to me about whats going on. She claims that shes fine but I know she not. She doesn't even want to talk about it and sometimes will tell me that it's something that she has to deal with herself and there is nothing that I can do. I know there's nothing that I can do but she won't let me in and acts like nothings going on.

 

Any ideas here because I'm lost as to what to do.

[Ladywithafan]

I was wondering if this sounded like an addiction or something because I'm completly clueless as to whats going on. I want to check and see if I'm just reading to much into this.

 

Ok here it is:

 

My wife has minor trouble with her back where she takes pain killers when needed. I have no problem with her doing that BUT what gets me is that she claims that she's not in any pain and even told her doctor that but yet she still uses the pain medication. She'll go through about 30 pills in one month which in my opinion is a lot. If your not in pain then why take them? She just does the you don't understand thing with me.

 

Now I know that she has her time of the month thing were she does use pain stuff but a whole bottle? I've noticed that she used to take one then moved up to two and now it's on to three pills at a time.

 

About a couple of months ago she had to have one of her teeth pulled while under and they ended up giving her Vicodin which she did use a couple of days but she won't get rid of them. She said that she wants to keep them just in case she needs them for her back. So I tryed talking to her about it but she just wanted me to drop it and claimed that she doesn't have addiction and that I couldn't possible understand what she goes through. So she did tell me that she liked taking those because she couldn't feel anything in her back. Makes me wonder if she got a little addicted to them but she hasn't taken any since because I counted them.

 

I just don't what she's taking to not be enough and then move onto something else. I have the urge to take those pills and just flush them. That way she can't use them if she wanted too.

 

I get the feeling that she is lying to me about whats going on. She claims that shes fine but I know she not. She doesn't even want to talk about it and sometimes will tell me that it's something that she has to deal with herself and there is nothing that I can do. I know there's nothing that I can do but she won't let me in and acts like nothings going on.

 

Any ideas here because I'm lost as to what to do.

 

Sounds like a pill addiction to me. I've never been one to do pills without a need so I don't have experience with this...pills scare me too much...

[Guest]

Sounds like a pill addiction to me. I've never been one to do pills without a need so I don't have experience with this...pills scare me too much...

 

It's very hard for me to tell if it's an addiction or not because according to her she's been doing this stuff since she was 19. That would be approx. 7 years but like I said I feel that it's getting worse. And the worse thing about it is that she won't talk to me about it. She shuts me out and wants to deal with it by herself and says that it's none of my business. Sorry but I feel that if something it going on I should know about it.

 

It hasn't affected her moods or anything but if were gone for a lengthy period of time she makes sure she has something with her "just in case" as she would put it.

 

I even told her that if she's in that much pain then she should go back to the doctor but she replys with "I'm fine."

[IpAncA]

Sounds to me like either she has an addiction or is in pain and doesn't want to have to deal with it so she just takes stuff to make the pain go away. She obviously doesn't feel comfortable talking about it and would just like it to go away.

 

But if the pills are increasing then somethings going on. Especially if she holding onto something stronger.

[Guest]

Well obviously this isn't much of anything and I'm just crazy because on other people told me to just butt out and leave it alone.

 

Even on here it must not be such a big deal so I guess I will just drop it and leave her be on it.

 

I wish she wouldn't shut me out and let me at least be there for her.

[Guest]

She doesn't even want to talk about it and sometimes will tell me that it's something that she has to deal with herself and there is nothing that I can do.

 

Hi,

 

Obviously your wife is having a personal battle with herself. The best thing you can do is during a calm moment, have a talk with her about it. "I feel that you are dealing with something very painful and I would really like you to share it with me, if your ready." It sounds to me more like it is some emotional pain rather than physical pain she is dealing with.

 

If you are counting her pills and she isnt taking any, keep looking but also keep listening.

[IpAncA]

Well obviously this isn't much of anything and I'm just crazy because on other people told me to just butt out and leave it alone.

 

Even on here it must not be such a big deal so I guess I will just drop it and leave her be on it.

 

I wish she wouldn't shut me out and let me at least be there for her.

 

Those people are stupid to say to butt out.

 

If something is going on then you have every right to know. Especially if it could affect the relationships or something in it.

 

I would back off a little but not fully. Just keep an eye and see what happends.

 

And yes I would try and talk to her in a calm way and just let her know that your there and if she wants to say anything then she can. Maybe that will push her to.

 

But if it gets worse then by all means step in. Thats crazy to ignore it.

[Ladywithafan]

It sounds like an addiction to me because of the use pattern. Go see her doctor with her!

[blind_otter]

Well obviously this isn't much of anything and I'm just crazy because on other people told me to just butt out and leave it alone.

 

Even on here it must not be such a big deal so I guess I will just drop it and leave her be on it.

 

I wish she wouldn't shut me out and let me at least be there for her.

 

I used pills for a while and it escalated, it always does. I don't have much advice for you because IMO the addict has to realize that they are addicted before anything can change permanently.

 

Also, it doesn't sound like that consequences of her use are bad enough for her to realize that using this stuff when you don't need it is a problem. So this is a tough situation.

 

But the main problem is that she's shutting you out emotionally. Have you tried talking to her about THAT, not mentioning the pain pills?

[Guest]

Also, it doesn't sound like that consequences of her use are bad enough for her to realize that using this stuff when you don't need it is a problem. So this is a tough situation.

 

But the main problem is that she's shutting you out emotionally. Have you tried talking to her about THAT, not mentioning the pain pills?

 

Thanks for responding.

 

It is a tough situation because I have no idea what's going on. I know something is because when you've been with a person long enough you can tell when something isn't right.

 

The only time I've mentioned her shutting me out emotionally is when this whole thing is mentioned. It's the only thing that she is leaving me out of. But she probably is leaving out other things as well. Don't know.

 

She doesn't want to talk about it and I don't know why. She won't even tell me. It makes me feel like she can't tell me anything or that I can't handle it or want to be bothered by it. It's the opposite. If I didn't want any of that I wouldn't mention it. I wouldn't care.

[Guest]

It sounds like an addiction to me because of the use pattern. Go see her doctor with her!

 

What do you mean by the use pattern? Going through them in a month pattern?

 

She doesn't want me to go with her. Plus she doesn't go anymore unless she has to. It's like she has taken matters into her own hands.

[nancyleeh]

How about making an appointment and out of concern, talk to her doctor privately and ask him a few questions about her condition and the meds. he is giving her.

 

Sometimes doctors are not on top of how many pills their patients are taking, no offense to doctors but I've seen this happen before. At least that way your get the info you need. Best to find out. You don't have to tell her your going to talk to her doctor, just do it and if it ends up she is addicted, well, eventually she will know you talked to the doctor but that is better than not taking any steps at all.

 

 

nancyleeh

[DyingHeart]

This sounds so familiar to me. And it sounds as if she's embarrassed to talk about it. If she wont let you go with her to the doctor, then call her doctor and tell him or her your concerns. I used to go through over 90 percocets a month the 10mg dosage. I had a lot of internal painful problems, that could only be corrected by time, so therefore the meds were needed to control the pain. But I got way out of hand with them. 3 years ago, I was put on them and I stayed on them for a year. I had to lie to doctors to get them and go doctor shopping everynow and then. Then finally, my doc said no more. I had to quit cold turkey, no tapers. It was horrible. Then this past year I had to have oral surgery, got vicodin this time. Took them, and guess what, ended up having some kidney stones too. So again, I was put back on percocet. Even after the pain had gone, I would still take them. I did this for 4 months. But I had the willpower to stop this time before it got real bad.

What I'm trying to say is, it is very very easy to become addicted to these pills. And it sounds as if your wife is addicted also. She won't admit it, but sure as hell, she is.

Do what you can for her, but don't throw her pills away. that could start a war and you don't want that. Like I said, if she won't confide in you. please talk to her doctor. If she is truly addicted, she is going to need help and your support.

 

good luck,

Chrissi