forbidden fruit Posted January 9, 2007 Share Posted January 9, 2007 Okay so far so good. I never sent him an e-mail because i sent him one in response to one of his before all of this saying if this all you have goodbye. So he already knows i am going NC. Well my BF came over to give me support. She came with her kids so if he was to try to come over she would be there. Well as we are watching the kids sure enough he is screaming at me from his house and trying to get my attention. She tells me to take a deep breath and go in the house. So I go in the house calm down and then she said he was contemplating whether to come over , but he did not because she was there . Thank G%%. So we went in inside and she stayed until she knew my H was there. Today he is gone so I am safe, but tomorrow is another thing. Also I did go somewhere after school he would not find me so he sensed i was avoiding him. I still am hurt but determined!! What did he think I was going to do with him screaming from his house. My friend was shocked and I said see this is what I go through. She said I don't know how you do it, but she was great!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 9, 2007 Share Posted January 9, 2007 What did he think I was going to do with him screaming from his house Is he stupid? Don't the other neighbours hear him? Someone IS going to tell his wife that he was freakin' out recently...Or a kid on the street. What an idiot he is! Link to post Share on other sites
puddleofmud Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 That is just insane, you poor thing! At this point I would doubt he even cares if his wife knows nor about his children--much less about YOU and YOUR family. He's already too nuts to bother to be cautious. Please do be careful as much as you would rather your husband not know about this--my gut is telling me that he is going to find out. He is going to find out because the ASS HOLE next door will make sure he does! You can either deny or acknowlege. Just be prepared, sweetie! He is ticked off that you have uncovered his "true self" and he is looking to "get back" at you via any means he feels that will make him feel better--the heck with anyone else! Stay strong and be careful, OK? Link to post Share on other sites
forbidden fruit Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Thank you for all your words of encouragement and support. You have to know my other neighbor was present when he did his little rant. They all know my mm and he has this flamboyant, larger than life personality so they did not think too much out of his character. He did it to get a reaction out of me because I have enacted NC. Tomorrow is the real test for me because I can't stay from my house all day and he knows that. He was gone all day today so I has a reprieve.This is when he usually will try to break my NC. I am hoping maybe this time he will just accept the way things are and that this is the way things have to be. I just cannot be disrespected in this way and he is never going to do anything to change his situation. I talked to his W today which as you can imagine is extremely uncomfortable. She approached me and basically complained about him the entire time. I felt like asking her then why don't you both let each other go. He is obviously having a A to fill a void she is not giving and she is obviously pretty miserable with him. Unfortunately, I am privy to all of this info but in no way do I ask her about their situation . It is none of my business and he knows now not to discuss it with me. I do not tell him about my M either. Anyways, tomorrow is the day and I am going to do all the things I need to do to ensure NC. Link to post Share on other sites
oyster Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 good luck forbidden fruit. keep the chin up, smile at life in front of you. He is just a bump in the road ahead. Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 FF I just wanted to ask: did you say you hadn't sent him an email telling him you want nothing more to do with him? Because if you haven't done that he doesn't know what's going on. I think clearly stating your intentions is a better way to begin. I don't know, though... why didn't you tell him? Where's bonehead with the plan..? Link to post Share on other sites
forbidden fruit Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Frannie, I did send him an e-mail saying i wanted nothing more to do with him. He obviously did not hear me. He hears only what he wants to hear. Plus he did not intitate Nc so he is mad because it is a power and control thing with him. I don't care-nothing will ever change and I am resolved that I have to do NC unless I want him to contol every part of me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bonehead Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 Frannie, I did send him an e-mail saying i wanted nothing more to do with him. He obviously did not hear me. He hears only what he wants to hear. Plus he did not intitate Nc so he is mad because it is a power and control thing with him. I don't care-nothing will ever change and I am resolved that I have to do NC unless I want him to contol every part of me. Just remember that Link to post Share on other sites
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