Another Trust Issue

[sweetscarlet]

Here is another trust issue.....

 

I jokingly asked a guy I was seeing jokingly how many other women he flirts with like this (while we were flirting). He said there's no one else at the moment. A week later we were getting cozier with each other and he was going to come over to my house. We weren't planning to have sex or anything but might have some very light physical contact, so it was still getting closer. So, I asked him (in an e-mail) if he was seeing anyone else. His response was "not at the moment."

 

Then he asked why I was so distrustful since he had already answered this question to me once before. I told him how I was joking the first time and didn't really think that I was asking him.

 

Actually I WAS asking him both times....we all know that.... What bothered me a lot was his use of "at the moment" in both replies.

Now, mind you, we never talked of exclusivity or anything but that still bothered me.

 

So a week later, I have him over and there is some very light physical contact. (Now, keep in mind, light physical contact might be nothing to some people. SEX might be nothing to some people. For me, I don't let a lot of people get too close so it IS more of a big deal if I do. In other words, it might affect me emotionally more than others.)

 

Anyway...he comes over and leaves and I don't hear from him after that. My trust was really shaken. I really clicked with this guy. We talked every day. I let him get closer than I've let anyone in awhile. And then he disappeared.

 

And he had made the comment early on about my being distrustful.

 

I ask you this......why in the world WOULDN'T I be? What would make me trustful of the NEXT guy after this experience? Or after many other experiences? How many experiences like this can we have and still expect to be trustful?