Motor35 Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Any women on this board that would propose? Is that taboo? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Any women on this board that would propose? Is that taboo? I don't know if it's taboo or not but I wouldn't ask someone to marry me. I like to wear diamonds. Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I think it's really going to depend on the relationship that you are in. Me, no. I wanted to be proposed to. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I don't think I'll ever be the one doing the proposing. I would feel weird. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 It really depends on yourself and the relationship you are in. So many people put the emphis on the "ring" but meanwhile, it's really about finding that special person that you want to spend the rest of your life with and could not picture life w/o that person. If you know this is true with the person you are with, then why not propose. A ring could always come later, but moments like that are special. And think how special that would make him feel. Anyone can get married, only the lucky ones marry their soulmate! Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 When I was 22, madly in love for the first time, I said out of the blue " we should get married !" and he said " i'm going to hold you to that ! ", and we did, 2 weeks later, so I guess you could say " I" proposed. Guess it depends on the guy, the closeness, and probably a zillion other factors ! Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 When I was 22, madly in love for the first time, I said out of the blue " we should get married !" and he said " i'm going to hold you to that ! ", and we did, 2 weeks later, so I guess you could say " I" proposed. That's a cute story. Thanks for sharing. btw...you two still married? Or was it tabooed? Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Hey, it lasted 7 yrs !!!! I think the secret was I KNEW he was beyond head over heels with me, thats probably the only time I felt confident enough in a mans feelings for me to put it on the line like that. I believe one party always loves the other a little bit more. If you are the woman and he loves you that "little bit more", I would risk a proposal. But not on bended knee or anything, just plop on his lap and say " I think we should get married, whaddya say ?" Link to post Share on other sites
adnCat Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I would... if my bf had not said that I should not because he wants to do it. I don't have a problem with doing it myself, but since he has long ago nixed the idea, I've grown accustomed to the idea of a formal proposal from him... It would be very much like me to propose myself, though. I think my friends would not be surprised if I did such a thing. In the case that a woman proposes, I think a nice watch would work for a man in terms of engagement jewelry. I think I've even heard the term "men's diamond engagement watch" before. Years ago. Maybe it was a marketing campaign that failed miserably, as I have not heard the term since the initial poster sighting years ago... Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 RE: Women Proposing? No. As a woman, I would never propose to a man. Period. Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
adnCat Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 RE: Women Proposing? No. As a woman, I would never propose to a man. Period. Sand&Water You do mean that you would never do it, not that women shouldn't do it, right? Link to post Share on other sites
milvushina Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 I don't see anything wrong with it! I toyed with the idea of proposing to my husband. Every time I thought about it I got insanely nervous. But I was kinda working up to it. I thought I would buy him a wedding band for the proposal, then he could keep it and wear it after we got married. Because a guy with an engagement ring does seem kind of weird. Anyway, he beat me to it, but later on, I told him I'd been considering it. He said he would've said yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Kinger25 Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 I think it should be kept as a traditional ritual really. My take on it is thay my BF is not very affectionate or loving at the best of times. He's emotionally retarded and wouldn't know romance if it bit him in the ass !! Why take away the only opportunity that I might get to hear him being at least half affectionate. I mean, he's GOT to be a little bit romantic when proposing hasn't he ??? !!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 My Exw proposed to me.....I thought it was great.... Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 My Exw proposed to me Yeah but she's your ex. Yours was tabooed too. Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 I proposed, he accepted, it lasted 7 years. I would do it again if I was willing to get married again, but I'm not. Twice bitten, thrice shy is where I stand. Guess that means I'm tabooed, too. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 No I would never do that. Thats more of the guys job IMO but I have heard of it going both ways. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I would never propose, but I wouldn't say women shouldn't do it, it's just not for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Porn_Guy Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 women shouldn't do any proposing of marriage....now if it's a proposal for sexual activity that is most acceptable. if any woman asked me to marry her i'd first laugh in her face and second i'd say "NO!!" Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 women shouldn't do any proposing of marriage....now if it's a proposal for sexual activity that is most acceptable. if any woman asked me to marry her i'd first laugh in her face and second i'd say "NO!!" No actual laws dictating on how you should live your livestyle and want traditionals to follow. Everyone is free to do what they want to. As for proposals, I think both parties should have had a converstaion in advance, so that way it doesn't turn out to be a total surprise out of the blues, all of the sudden, instead both of them knew it. if any woman asked me to marry her i'd first laugh in her face and second i'd say "NO!!" How about if it was the other way around where the guy is shy about it for so long but has the courage to finally say, even buys the ring and begs on hsi knees and the girl ends up laughing at him as well. Wouldn't that just be as hurting too?? if any woman asked me to marry her i'd first laugh in her face and second i'd say "NO!!" Link to post Share on other sites
Porn_Guy Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 As for proposals, I think both parties should have had a converstaion in advance, so that way it doesn't turn out to be a total surprise out of the blues but womens' lives revolve around surprises and spontanous behaviours....esp from their man. Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 but womens' lives revolve around surprises and spontanous behaviours....esp from their man. I, for one, don't like surprises.. especially involving my man. Sponteneity, on the other hand, is a good thing. Just don't ask me to marry you...EVER. That's nothing against marriage, it's just not right for me. If it were, I already stated that I would not hesitate to propose. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 but womens' lives revolve around surprises and spontanous behaviours....esp from their man. That's like saying "Oh I know exactly what's she's thinking". No one is a mind reader. How can you possibly figure out what it's on the other person's mind without even discussing it, dropping a few hints about it or finding out what they like. Link to post Share on other sites
Porn_Guy Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 How can you possibly figure out what it's on the other person's mind without even discussing it, dropping a few hints about it or finding out what they like. look, if your a guy and you've been dating some chicka for a few years you'd have to be a doofus not to know if she wants marriage or not. women usually bring it up fairly earlier and make many "hints" about it. women who aren't interested in marriage won't do this.... Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 If was a surprise you really wnat to give me, I would like to have an advance discussion on it instead of all of the sudden getting offered a ring when I DON'T like wearing rings at all, plus they mean nothing to me. Link to post Share on other sites
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