CardPlay3r Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Alph...sorry porn_guy, I hadn't realized they had computers in the stone age, is yours made of stone?
lindya Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 I would wonder WHY he's not asking. There's always a reason when they don't ask. And that would be enough to put me off from marrying him - who wants to marry a guy who is hesitant about asking? I agree. It's easier for a man to ask, because although he's risking rejection he's at least backed up by various traditions that decree the man should ask for marriage. If a woman asks, she's taking a double risk. The risk of rejection, and the risk of being ridiculed by other people - and the man himself - for going against tradition/looking desperate. That makes it a brave action of course, but there have got to be more worthwhile uses to put one's courage to than asking for the hand of a man who has proved too lukewarm to ask for yours.
Porn_Guy Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 That makes it a brave action of course, but there have got to be more worthwhile uses to put one's courage to than asking for the hand of a man who has proved too lukewarm to ask for yours. could the man just ask for another one of her body parts instead of the hand? say a breast or foot?
lindya Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 could the man just ask for another one of her body parts instead of the hand? say a breast or foot? If he can fit a ring onto it, then why not?
Porn_Guy Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 If he can fit a ring onto it, then why not? can you see some dude going to her father and asking for her breast in marriage...
lindya Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 can you see some dude going to her father and asking for her breast in marriage... My father's response would be something along the lines of: "Christ almighty - have any bit you want. Just dust her off and see if you can't squeeze a kid or two out of her before the hot flushes begin."
Okeydokey Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 agree with milvushina on this one. i think the whole engagement ring, 250k wedding, bachelorette party, bachelor party, engagement party, rehersal dinner, bridal shower, dress fittings, taxedo fittings, invitations, bridesmaids, maid of honor, best man, engagement pictures etc. are a capitalist rip off and some of them are quite sexist traditions (especially the engagement ring and the proposal bit). here is my ideal. we are committed to each other and have economic stability together. after a few years the subject of marriage comes up (after having lived together for a couple years). we agree we both want to do it. we head to the steps of city hall w/the closest friends and immediate fam., send some invites on color copy paper to the potluck at my house. that is my dream wedding. if some dude went to my dad to ask for my hand in marriage, he would be like "WTF are you talking about?"he would be so insulted... i
Woggle Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 My wife proposed to me out of the blue and I accepted it. She didn't have a ring but she asked me to marry her. I told her the condition she needed to meet for me to agree to marriage and almost a year later we were married.
magichands Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 My wife proposed to me out of the blue and I accepted it. She didn't have a ring but she asked me to marry her. I told her the condition she needed to meet for me to agree to marriage and almost a year later we were married. And she hasn't busted your balls. Yet. Right?
Woggle Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 And she hasn't busted your balls. Yet. Right? Nope. She knows what I will and will not accept.
magichands Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Nope. She knows what I will and will not accept. Mutual respect. So satisfying.
Woggle Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Mutual respect. So satisfying. That is what it is about. We both respect each other and that is what works. She would never put up with crap either and I don't bive it We have a very egalitarian marriage.
magichands Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 That is what it is about. We both respect each other and that is what works. She would never put up with crap either and I don't bive it We have a very egalitarian marriage. I like being on the bottom occasionally, too.
LaughMachine Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 I know some girls would do it but personally I would want to to be asked from a man. Woulden't feel special..
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