paris38 Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 We broke up in August,about 2 weeks after we traveled to France together. So....about a week or so after that I received a letter from him containing my birth certificate, which I had forgotten at his place. So of course I was appreciative of that. The letter also asked me to give him back his master's thesis which I had, because I had wanted to read it, which I did, when we were still together. So...I mailed that back to him....In the meantime we did hang out a couple times...when I mailed him his thesis back, I also reminded him that I had given him $60 worth of Euros to exchange back, because his town has a bank which would do so (nobanks in my town will exchange them back.) So....he emails me and tells me I gave the Euros to him as a gift, but I did not, he asked for the Euros saying that he would exchange them to US dollars and give them back. OK, you're thinking "don't bother it's only $60....BUT...it's the principal of the thing, there is no way I would have just handed him a wad of cash and said "Here, just keep it." but he is saying I did this, and this is absolutely NOT true. I have said on here before that possibly I would like to get back together, but NOT if he is the kind of person who will not give me back MY money, be it $60 or a $1000...I mean, I gave him back his stuff, why shouldn't I get mine back? He could just mail me the Euros and I could sell them to someone going to Europe, also, I guess it just irks me that they are MINE and he is refusing to return them...I mean...WTH? I know it's a small thing in the longrun, but he told me he has the Euros in his dresser in a plastic baggie. SO MAIL THEM TO ME, THEY'RE MINE. I don't get his logic here, I never said that I was giving them to him, he asked me to give them to him to exchange and give back to him. Maybe I'm more venting than asking for advice here. HOW HARD IS IT TO MAIL ME WHAT IS MINE BACK? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 You walk away from the $60.00.. it is that simple.. If he balked at it then let it go... My Exgf screwed me out of a $500.00 front door that I had bought and installed in her house that she had agreed to pay for ( I bought it near where I work and took it over her house ). I also had spent days working on her house repairing her roof and termite damage and installing the door.. thousands of dollars of labor.. After we broke up ( which was the same day the door was installed ) she said that she never agreed to pay me and that I could afford it.. Sure it pissed me off and I said a few words to her about it.. but I walked away because it wasn't worth it.. and she was right.. I could afford it and she didn't have a job at the time. I figured fuqk it.. it wasn't worth the arguement and she ahs to look herself in the mirror.. so.... Let it go... and don't contact him... Link to post Share on other sites
SuziwithaQ Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 It's that stupid control thing again!!! He doesn't need the $60 but he probably enjoys this little power he thinks he has over you. My advice? Say to him "obviously you need the $60 more than I do. Enjoy" Link to post Share on other sites
lorr Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 When money is involved it is a tricky situation. Yes I agree its the principal of the matter, but it seems that he has no interest or decency in giving you back whats rightfully yours. You have to determine whether you can live without the money and not make an issue of it. As for possibly getting back together as you have stated. I personally wouldn't even entertain the idea and waste another breath on him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author paris38 Posted January 10, 2007 Author Share Posted January 10, 2007 I appreciate the feedback. I guess the letter he wrote me asking for his thesis back was very condescending to me in the way it was worded....OK, probably shouldn't post this, but I had left a few 'feminine products' in a drawer in his bathroom and he actually brought that up and what should he do with them??? I mean he's a 42 -year-old man and he's bringing THAT up in a handwritten letter? One last shot to embarrass me I guess, for being a woman. He can't figure out what to do with a couple tampons, give me a break. I agree with you both, though, guess I have to just let it go. And this is a sure sign I shouldn't get back with my Ex if he can't be grown up enough to mail be back the euros. I guess I can console myself with the thought that I thought his thesis was crap and I have no idea how it passed the board to get his masters. Thanks, to you, too, Lorr. I've only been a member for a week, I appreciate all of your patience when I post these venting posts. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Don't let this go down that road of ping pong over stuff that can be bought at the grocery store or Target.. Unless an item is an heirloom or expensive or has some REAL value emotional or physical then just let it go.. In the end tampons are just that.. tampons.. and so are the Euros.. yes 60.00 is money.. but is it worth the crap that you are going to dredge up to get the 60.00 back.. and even then they are Euros.. you still have to have them converted.. A good meal at a decent restaurant is 60-100 bucks.. put it all in perspective Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 You walk away from the $60.00.. it is that simple.. I agree, 100%. It's just $60.00. Walking away with your self-respect in tact. Priceless. Link to post Share on other sites
Author paris38 Posted January 10, 2007 Author Share Posted January 10, 2007 I won't contact him about the euros.....but he was really immature in that he would bring up tampons in a letter, it's not like I would want him to mail me those, just like I would not mail the toothbrush and couple disposable razors he left behind, too, it was just the nerve he had to do that. I agree, I don't need the money, it's just that he was making a big deal about getting his thesis back, then won't send me my euros when I reminded him he had them. OH and also....I have a friend going to Italy soon who I would sell them to without the conversion fee...but...oh well.... Thanks Caliguy. This board has helped me a lot to think instead of acting and making a fool of myself with my EX. Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 if you go deep back into these threads you will see I lost - a very large very new tv set - a table - $1000 cash - a bike - other items im sure On top I lost my interest in day to day things, truth is I still dont have much interest in life. My sanity I could have shown up with the cops and used small claims, I didnt though as I guess I really didnt wish to depart If you really desperately want the cash you go and get it back in person, worst case is you call the cops in.. they will make him hand it back to you or something of that value. not this matters but in my case I eventually learned I valued her more then the items... Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts