Stumped at my ex-behavior.

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hi there! I just signed up. i have been reading these post for awhile. I find them extremely helpful. But i am stumped at my ex-behavior. I'd greatly appreciate if you could read this and tell what you all think.

 

Here's my deal. First off my boyfriend 33 broke up with me 28 back in Oct. We dated one yr. It was after a silly fight thou, but other then that our relationship was moving forward rather nicely. i was to even meet the parents that coming weekend. he had talked of us getting an apt together some day.Everything seemed good, there were no other signs that he was contemplating breaking up with me.. till he actually broke up with me.

 

So he called me that night of the break,,he was crying but did not say he wanted to get back with me nor could he tell me why we were breaking up,, he only told me all the great things about our relationship and how i am beautiful and sweet and blah blah,,. which made no sense if it was SOO great! why was he ending us?. That killed me. Then proceeds to call me on the following monday and then he called again the next monday after that. But he still could not tell me the reasons to why he broke it off. So the last time he called me I intiated no contact and did not pick up the phone.

 

I stayed in NC for about a month and half till i texted a happy thanksgiving text. he responded with a text back (he used my nickname he made up for me) and said happy t-day. He later texted a ambiguous txt (using again my nickname for me), saying thanks for a wonderful yr, that i am a big part of it and a big part of his memory, and to have fun on my vacation..

 

It seemed like a strange text did not know how to take it. So i text him.

i asked what he meant by that. He replied and said he did not mean to be ambigous. I waited a week and txted him.. i asked if we could talk via the phone he agreed,, so we talked and had a nice convo,, both of us decided it would be good if we tried to work on being friends...he thought it may be too soon, but then He mentioned meeting up sometime in the New Year....for a drink sometime.. i said sure, and then he said to text him when i got back from my vacation back in Dec. Which i never did because he pulled a weird stunt right before i left town.

 

He called my work( a bar) to see if i was working,, it so happens i answered the phone and he pretended to be someone else. He then text me back to say sorry and that he was a coward, that he just wasnt sure if i was working or gone on my vacation,, he apoligized and said he talk to me in the New Year. I said he could come by the bar if he wanted. That i dont bit. He said that right then probably was not the time. Which i understood. since we have not seen eachother since the break.

 

I have not heard from him,, and yet he was the one to bring up talking/hanging out in the New Year, he never did say when. I guess i was assuming sooner then later in the New Year.

After that strange phone call i dont know what to make of him. He wants to see me yet, he's avoiding me. It just makes no sense and is confussing. But i have not contacted him since that weird call and that was back in the first week of Dec.. Why do you think he said he'd like to meet up ,but now i have not heard from him?

 

I would love to hear what you guys have to say,, i am stumped and on the verge of contacting him, thou i no i should not, i guess i'd like to know if you think he is at all still interested or if perhaps he is just confussed or if i am sh*t out of luck?!!