sissy Posted August 28, 2002 Share Posted August 28, 2002 Hi all! Sometimes I wonder if I should just accept the fact that I will be alone for the rest of my life. I am twice divorced, both of my ex-husbands cheated on me. The 1st marriage lasted almost 9 years. The 2nd was much shorter. I have dated several guys, but either they are crazy about me and I just have no feelings for them. And the guys that I really fall for, end up being lying dogs. I don't trust easily. But I am an attractive person. 33 years old, no kids, good job. I go out in public, even at Walmart, you see these nasty looking women, sloppy, do nothing with themselves, and these really nice looking men, hanging on them like they are scared they will get away..... I just look at them and wonder, "what is wrong with me?" Any thoughts......... Sissy Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 28, 2002 Share Posted August 28, 2002 First, just because men are nice looking doesn't make them desireable. Second, some nice looking men can become real ugly fast after being around them for a while. Don't judge other people or their relationships by the looks of the person you see them with. Worry about yourself. If you're just looking for nice looking men, you'll have to be real careful. Once you've found your hunk, clear that factor from your mind as you delve into his behavior, his intellect, his capacity to love, how he treats you, his emotional and financial stability, etc. The only way you can avoid the pitfalls of the past is to change your thinking and your strategies. But there is absolutely no reason you should need to be single for the rest of your life. You are very young and have many, many years on the planet. But I do suggest you do some reading and education yourself about relationships, how to find a proper, sane and worthy mate and how to maintain a sound relationship. Go slowly, be careful, and don't fall in love so fast. PAY ATTENTION and be willing to split when you see danger signs instead of sticking around hoping things will change. They never do!!! Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sissy Posted August 28, 2002 Author Share Posted August 28, 2002 I may not have explained this correctly..... I am not looking for a "good-looking" guy specifically..... I was just saying that it is kinda depressing that even the most unattractive, people have someone and I am alone.... Not even sure if that sounds right, just that I wonder if there is someone for everyone, then what about me? I have read books and educated myself, I have been to therapy. I am not superficial, I simply want someone that will love me for me, adore me, be completely honest and faithful with/to me. And I want to return all those same things to him. I am just not sure that person exists! Thanks............ sissy Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 28, 2002 Share Posted August 28, 2002 You sound like a pretty nice person and you have all the requirements for classification as a member of the human race. Therefore, I think the right person will not appear in your life until you remove all doubts that it will happen. In other words, your thoughts, doubts and fears are what are holding you back from your realization of happiness. Pay attention, don't get too excited about the first person that pops on your radar, but be absolutely certain in your belief that the right person is headed in your direction...and that will happen for you. Your thoughts are powerful things that guide you. Nobody with negative thoughts and negative attitudes has ever attained the goal they felt they could not attain. BE POSITIVE!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted August 28, 2002 Share Posted August 28, 2002 My ex boyfriend looked like Rickey Martin...the FINEST man I've ever seen in person, in my opinion, and ya know....other women find him attractive, and if he isn't strong, or totally in love, then he'll roam. Maybe that's where your problem lies. I dunno. Link to post Share on other sites
velvet Posted August 28, 2002 Share Posted August 28, 2002 I do believe that when your searching for someone you never find them. What you have to do is wipe the thoughts of someone to be with you completely from your mind. When that happens, you will find him. Take it from me because I know. Why that is? I don't know! I think it is very hard to find someone worthy these days. In fact I don't think very many of them exist. Like angels their rare and scarce. So instead of focusing on what you don't have, find things that you do like good friendship with your friends and love from family. Things that you do that are fun, productive or important to you. Among those things one day your angel should come. Link to post Share on other sites
Patty Posted August 29, 2002 Share Posted August 29, 2002 The best man comes when your not even looking.THey come in your life when you least expect it. Just think positive,guys love girls that are positive.good luck.! Patty Link to post Share on other sites
Author sissy Posted August 29, 2002 Author Share Posted August 29, 2002 Thanks for all the advice and encouragement..... I am trying not to dwell on the subject, but just this week have had another member of the male species disappointment me. But I will just think positive and hope that one day it will happen for me! Thanks again, Sissy Link to post Share on other sites
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