Anything I need to know about sex with a guy in his 50s?

[Guest]

Hi, I'm a late 30s lady who's back on the dating scene after 10 yrs of marriage. I've met a great early 50s guy who is also just back in the dating scene after 20+ yrs of marriage. His marriage was a pretty sexless for the last 10 yrs or so. We haven't done it yet, but have a weekend coming up soon where there will finally be the opportunity. I've read about men's sex drive decreasing during the 50s and 60s and wondered if anyone could give me any advice about anything special I should (or shouldn't) do, etc. Thanks for any help...just a bit nervous getting back in the game...

[whichwayisup]

His marriage was a pretty sexless for the last 10 yrs or so

 

Because of this and the fact you two are so new as couple, don't worry about the sex...Trust me, I doubt it will be an issue, seeing as he's not had much sex in the past 10 years!!

[westernxer]

Get him a prescription for Viagra or Cialis.

 

Then give him the ride of his life and follow up with an electrocardiogram.

[riobikini]

re:

 

Guest: " I've read about men's sex drive decreasing during the 50s and 60s and wondered if anyone could give me any advice about anything special I should (or shouldn't) do, etc. Thanks for any help...just a bit nervous getting back in the game..."

 

(Smile)

 

First -when people use the term "older man" or "older woman"- it's almost scarey the thoughts that are being conjured up.

 

You picture someone turning gray, drawing social security, or wearing button-up wool cardigans or knee stockings.

 

Pleeze.

 

A "little older" could mean no more than five or ten years your senior -and look, once you're past 18 or through college what's a few years?

 

Sex doesn't remain exactly the same, though, as the years roll on: it normally *improves* through experience (Smile), and except for an expected "slump" now and then, or developing health or related problems as you age (and which are less and less encountered these days), I don't think there's any certain thing you should "look out" for regarding anyone's desire for it, generally speaking.

 

But I do understand (I think) what you're asking: are men in their early fifties in a category where the drive decreases?

 

Maybe *some* of them are -but due mostly to the things I've already mentioned above.

 

As for my own personal experience with this age group -prepare yourself for more depth to the overall approach, never underestimate desire, and get ready to say alot of "Thank you's."

 

 

(Smile)

 

-Rio

[suchislife]

Beilieve it or not, men's sex drives start decreasing at 28. Don't worry about it. Age is not a question as much as having patience, and that applies to men of all ages.

 

Hope you have a great time.

[Touche]

My H is in his early 50's. We met when he was in his late 30's. I swear I see no difference whatsoever in his libido. He's always ready and needs/wants it with the same frequency as he always has.

 

My ex-H was also in his early 50's when we separated and divorced and that was actually the ONLY area we didn't have a problem.

 

But yes, i keep hearing about men in their 50's and 60's who need a little "help."

 

Don't worry about it. You'll probably be very pleasantly surprised.

[riobikini]

I agree with Touche'.

 

My "L" just celebrated his 55th b-day in December -and there are no signs of loss of libido, or problems getting hard and staying hard.

 

As a matter of fact I'd choose him over any 19 year old male -any day!

 

Plus, there's the *experience* to be considered, and unlike alot of younger men he knows *exactly* what to do with every ounce of his energy.

 

(Smile)

 

-Rio