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[HopelessFaith]

My husband and I have been married a year and a half. We were very much in love and ready to begin our life together. Like all couples, it took us some time to adjust with each other. Things were great after that, despite little fights/arguments here and there, which are normal for all relationships. But the past couple of months, we seem to be hitting a dead end. We have arguments/fights every other day. The problem is the same as what most couples face. He doesn't talk about what's bothering him, and I do. As a result, he seems to be getting distant. I've begged him to open up and tell me what's bothering him, but he doesn't. It's reached a point where I feel as if I'm the only one working towards the relationship. And now, I'm sick of it. He ignores everything and pretends everything's alright, while I can clearly see we have a problem.

 

After a fight, I want to talk about things and resolve them, and then move on. He, on the other hand, just ignores it, and if I'm crying, he'll try to cheer me up, which is really nice of him. But, the problem always remains. He'll talk normally..at times joke around too, but he'll stop all physical contact. It has been almost a month since we've had sex. One time in between we did, but I don't really count it, as I initiated it and he reluctantly followed (like most times). I've tried to get him to open up...but he refuses to acknowledge that there's a problem. He won't admit he's ever wrong, nor will he admit that he's acting strange because he'll always point at how he still talks and jokes around. If I bring up the lack of physical contact, for the next few hours, he'll make a strong effort. Although I appreciate the effort, but why do I have to beg for it? With physical contact, I literally mean that. Forget sex, he doesn't even hold, or touch, hug or kiss me. I try, but i can see how reluctant he becomes, so I stop.

 

I left my whole life to be with him just for the sake of our relationship, knowing I had him, even if I didn't have any friends or family. And now I don't have him either. I've tried every possible way to talk to him. I've written to him, I've tried to make conversations where we open up, I've begged him to try and work at this, but how can someone work at something they don't consider "wrong"? If he doesn't acknowledge it, how do we fix it? What am i doing wrong? Is it too much to expect physical contact from my husband?

[KCORAL]

When you bring up the lack of physical contact - what is his reason? It is not normal for a young married couple to go a month with no sex. Not to mention the lack of hugging, kissing, touching, etc.