pricillia Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I truly believe that all men want to be adored, not just a MM. There has been so much talk about the MM going into an afair because he wants to be looked up to, but all men want to be looked up to, reguardless of thier marital status. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I truly believe that all men want to be adored, not just a MM. There has been so much talk about the MM going into an afair because he wants to be looked up to, but all men want to be looked up to, reguardless of thier marital status. Pricillia, Good Point! AP Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I want people to think Im an a*shole!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I want people to think Im an a*shole!!!! Yeah he does, but it's not working for me!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Can'tGiveUp Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Hey BH - You are an a*shole! happy now? Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Hey BH - You are an a*shole! happy now? THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author pricillia Posted January 12, 2007 Author Share Posted January 12, 2007 I want people to think Im an a*shole!!!! well some women may adore that quality in you... Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 That's true, P. The trick is finding a man who is happy being adored by ONE woman though. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I dont know if adored is the right word. But yes men like to feel like they are looked up to. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! I adore you Bonehead! Link to post Share on other sites
Can'tGiveUp Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Men (in general) find their self esteem by accomplishments. Self worth is measured by the level of successfulness in their career and the respect that they command by being perceived as successful. I agree with BH - adored doesn't seem to be the right terminology. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I think the word you are looking for is admired. And, yes all men do. But most women already know that and will offer it willingly to a worthy specimen. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Men (in general) find their self esteem by accomplishments. Self worth is measured by the level of successfulness in their career and the respect that they command by being perceived as successful. Exactly. Men are doers. Most men connect what they can do, have done, are able to do to who they actually are. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Women like being adored and admired too. Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I want people to think Im an a*shole!!!! SORRY....I will NOT agree concerning the AHole thing....LOL ....Remember Mr.....you opened my eyes! Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Men are a lot more sensitive than people think..... Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Men are a lot more sensitive than people think..... And quite often not in the way people think. A man tells a woman that she looks bigger in a certain dress she quite often is hurt. But tell her she hung a door wrong and she is eager to learn how to do it the right way. tell a man that a pair of pants do not look good on him, he dont care. He may change to make the woman feel better but he really could care less. Now tell him he hung a door wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 SORRY....I will NOT agree concerning the AHole thing....LOL ....Remember Mr.....you opened my eyes! Its called a PUPIL check. Job requirement. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I want people to think Im an a*shole!!!! Even a-holes like to be desired by others! Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 And quite often not in the way people think. A man tells a woman that she looks bigger in a certain dress she quite often is hurt. But tell her she hung a door wrong and she is eager to learn how to do it the right way. tell a man that a pair of pants do not look good on him, he dont care. He may change to make the woman feel better but he really could care less. Now tell him he hung a door wrong. Tell the truth Bonehead!!!! Also men take relationships to heart....when they fall in love, they fall hard.... Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I truly believe that all men want to be adored, not just a MM. There has been so much talk about the MM going into an affair because he wants to be looked up to, but all men want to be looked up to, reguardless of thier marital status. And women... so when one partner doesn't get enough appreciation, things start developing as a vicious cycle. The sad part is that arguments arise from things that are not related to lack of affection, but are followed by it. And then the alienation on both sides starts to bite the love, piece by piece until there's nothing left. A perfect marriage would be if the woman NEVER complains about anything and adores her man no matter what. Men usually don't nag and nowadays they don't even expect from a woman to cook every day or keep the house spotless. But we can't keep our mouths shut, because then the anger starts destroying our love from the inside - in silence. So no matter how you slice it, sh*t will happen. And then we're not content and want something better. This is the usual scenario. It takes a lot of effort, tolerance, and love to break it... Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Now tell him he hung a door wrong.I really liked this post. And tell him that his dick is small and he is a loser altogether! Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I also think respect is a big issue....men have a tendancy to internalize and take things more to heart than we think....the absolute worst thing to a man is nagging in my opinion...communicate to your man the problem and then leave it alone.... Also it is difficult for men today as most of them do respect women....in the past we have found that women were considered second class citizens, but that is not the case today, and I think womens lib has gotten way out of hand and am seeing the "subserviant" women turned control freaks wanting to take over the mans responsibilities....I hope to see things fall into their rightful place someday. I am a firm believer of the man being the head of the household, with me at his side, not behind and not in front. When all is said and done, the man is the one that will stand before God and give an account for his family and how he did business....I will be accountable for my actions also, but not to the degree the man will be accountable. Looking back to the "Garden of Eden"....I don't believe Adam was deceived at all, I think he ate the apple because he knew what the consequences would be....I think he did not want to be without Eve....he knew she would be cast out of the garden. Us as women play a very important role, more important than we realize. Being extremely independant and head strong, have had to come down a few notches and humble myself, for the purpose of being raised up to "my" rightful position and place. We have the ability to capture a mans heart for life, most men will not be right until they meet "that woman". We have basically been given authority over that mans heart and I pray we do not abuse that privilige. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 We have the ability to capture a mans heart for life, most men will not be right until they meet "that woman". We have basically been given authority over that mans heart and I pray we do not abuse that privilige. One could also say "men have the ability to capture a woman's heart for life, most women will not be right until they meet "that man". Any lover, man or woman, holds the other person's heart. My point is, I am happy to give men all the credit they deserve, but expect the same in return. And I fear that many people involved in affairs give the WS MORE credit than they deserve, and the WS gives them less credit than they deserve, and the WS takes less care with the OP's and BS's hearts than with their own. Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 One could also say "men have the ability to capture a woman's heart for life, most women will not be right until they meet "that man". Any lover, man or woman, holds the other person's heart. My point is, I am happy to give men all the credit they deserve, but expect the same in return. And I fear that many people involved in affairs give the WS MORE credit than they deserve, and the WS gives them less credit than they deserve, and the WS takes less care with the OP's and BS's hearts than with their own. I hear ya NJ....man I sure gave ex-MM more credit than he deserved....I absolutely adored this man for his abilities on the job, and was blinded by that.... I was actually referring to the monogamous relationships and singles....the "forever" triangle is another topic... Link to post Share on other sites
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