Husband keeping in touch with ex girlfriend.

[Kitty32]

Hello

 

My Husband and I been married for close to 4 years.We have a daughter together.I thought our life was good. We have our share of stress, financial troubles but we seems fine.

 

It started 3 months ago with my suspicion of him using way too much calling cards. We have both cell phones and internet phone, in which, all calls to all US is free. I don't understand why keeps using calling card to call outside. His calling time is also off. He will call like 5 Am in the morning and talk for 30 minutes. Since my h is working night shift, I have never find out who he talked to.

 

On his day off he will get up around 5Am in the morning and claimed that he needed to do some errands (grocery shopping, walmart etc) and left the home. I have tracked his cell phone and he made calls to the 1800 # (which is ATT calling card number) every time he's out.

 

Lately he's been joining 24 hour fitness club and he's always late coming home from work. He also has more excuse to leave 5 am in the morning outside.

 

He would go in and out of home couple times in a day for running errands and I know for sure that he is making the call since I check it on our account on the cell phone provided website.I have confronted him about his calling card usage and he claimed that he called his family only. He offered me to check up on his alibi by calling his family.His family speaks spanish only and I can hardly communicate with them. the option of asking his family about these is also make me uncomfortable.So I just took his words for it.

 

Yesterday I found a letter (unsent) in spanish, his native language, I believe it was address to her ex girlfriend . They grew up together and were going out for 6 years before they separated.

 

In the letter he said that he's worried about her (she is married with 3 children now) and keep thinking about her. He also mentioned on how the movie "the lake house" reminded of their relationship. I know that she's the one he's been calling so often ( almost 4-5 days a week)My spanish is very entry level so I don't really get most of the letter. But anyway, I don't know how to approach this. He's been telling me that I have such a trust issue and I overly suspicious about stuff.

 

I keep thinking about my daughter as I see this problem progressing.

I have not been able to sleep well at night , pondering about this.

Thank you for reading & listening.

 

sincerely,

kitty32