forreasonsunknown Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 so after everything, she doesnt even wanna be friends anymore. she IMd me once to ask me about a girl who I'm friends with if she was my new girlfriend. she didnt say anything after that. so i messaged her on myspace and told her that im sorry things didnt work out and that there's no hard feelings and i wished her the best. then i told her i hoped that one day we would be friends again. she messaged me back saying that she thinks its best this way. and that was that. it felt like a goodbye but a part of me doesnt think so. i know i should be getting over her and no matter how hard i try, i can't. i miss her so much, and the thought of her talking to someone else whos way to old for her hurts even more. i know miracles happen, and i could use a hail mary pass right about now to win the game, or get her back. i feel like she'll come back but when will that be. in the meantime i dont know what to do to get her off my mind. i dont wanna give up. Link to post Share on other sites
RocketMan2 Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 it felt like a goodbye but a part of me doesnt think so. i know i should be getting over her and no matter how hard i try, i can't. i miss her so much, and the thought of her talking to someone else whos way to old for her hurts even more. i know miracles happen, and i could use a hail mary pass right about now to win the game, or get her back. i feel like she'll come back but when will that be. in the meantime i dont know what to do to get her off my mind. i dont wanna give up. I feel exactly the same way mate. Im at exactly the same stage as you. It hurts so much, i miss this girl more than anything in the world. I too am clutching onto the hope that one day she'll come back. Its not healthy mate, try and stop thinking about is asap, its eating me from the inside out. Regards Link to post Share on other sites
demilde Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 In my experience you will start to get over her and then find someone that you are interested in, then you will start to feel much better. But that ain't the end because just when you start to think there might be something with this new person, the ex will pop back in and throw your mind into a tailspin, with thoughts of what might/what could be. Then you have to make a decision that is way harder than what you are going through now. Life is an emotional rollercoaster Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 well whats ur story rocketman Link to post Share on other sites
RocketMan2 Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 well whats ur story rocketman http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t108714/ Id love to hear your thoughts Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 it just feels like there is something that should be done but i dunno. im not gonna contact her anymore, i just hope she comes back. Link to post Share on other sites
Firefighter689 Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Im in the same boat you are! She does not want to to be friends, but whats space and then she says we can talk... Talk about what you know? Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 Im in the same boat you are! She does not want to to be friends, but whats space and then she says we can talk... Talk about what you know? come again? Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 i didnt really understand what you said firefighter689. but i dunno, it sucks because like now she hangs out with this guy i know she did last night, and it ****in sucks cauz all i can think of is the worst. besides that, i can't find anything to do during this stupid 3 day weekend, so it makes it even worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 16, 2007 Author Share Posted January 16, 2007 what's to say that she'll come back? do i have to move on for that to happen. why does **** have to happen like that. it makes it even worse cauz now by not even talking to her theres like no chances left. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Can I ask you guys what the point of remaining friends with an ex is for you? What is it that your ex can give you as friend that you can not find with another friend? My guess is your reasons for being her friend is to keep her close by, to keep tabs on her and hey, if she's single again you'll pounce on the opportunity. It's entirely impossible to be friends with someone you are in love with. In fact, all it will do is keep you down and keep you from meeting someone else who is BETTER for you. Why punish yourself and delay your healing? You want to remain friends for selfish reasons, not because it would benefit you both. Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 17, 2007 Author Share Posted January 17, 2007 well if it gives it a chance in the future, why not? Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 17, 2007 Author Share Posted January 17, 2007 ahhh help please Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 well if it gives it a chance in the future, why not? Because you will hold on to that slight chance and stop yourself from healing and moving on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 well she contacted me last night to "see how i was doing" because we hadnt talked in a while. then she told me that "she doesnt like not talking and not being friends". its kinda funny considering shes down in wildwood here in jersey partying and hes there. whatev. is it a good idea to start a fling with someone she really hates? Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 ....anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 grr anyone out there Link to post Share on other sites
RocketMan2 Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 well she contacted me last night to "see how i was doing" because we hadnt talked in a while. then she told me that "she doesnt like not talking and not being friends". its kinda funny considering shes down in wildwood here in jersey partying and hes there. whatev. is it a good idea to start a fling with someone she really hates? I dont think anyones replied because i dont really understand what you mean :s Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 she contacted me to see how im doing, i kinda like this one girl she despises, but the thing is i dont wanna use anyone and dont want it to blow up in my face. Link to post Share on other sites
RocketMan2 Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I think you both need to get things clear in your head. It seems to me like you're both very confused about the whole thing, and are probably just playing mind games with each other. Tell her if she really wants it to be over, then you need some NC time to deal with it and she should respect that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 23, 2007 Author Share Posted January 23, 2007 well we're talking again she IMs me sometimes, so I guess we'll see how it goes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author forreasonsunknown Posted January 23, 2007 Author Share Posted January 23, 2007 any comments or suggestions?? Link to post Share on other sites
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