MotherGooze Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 I wish I could do something about that, but I don't know how. It's like I act first and then start thinking about it, and then I realise the mistakes I made. Or sometimes when I'm with a fight with my boyfriend I can really dramatise things so much, because I'm actually scared with every fight of losing him. I really want to be more in control with my emotions, but I don't know where to start. I tried counting to 10 and think about my actions, but NOOOOPE that doesn't work, because at the point that I'm being impulsive, I'm far from rational, while otherwise I'm a very rational person. Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulearth83 Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 this has been happening to me a lot in that i've found myself saying something, then later regretting it and feeling like i should never talk again. i'm trying to speak through my actions a little more...and only say the things that are constructive to me and others. sometimes talking seems to ruin things for me...and sometimes it saves things. you ever try writing things down? maybe you're backed up with thoughts and they try to get out by surfacing at the wrong time. maybe you need a release so you can approach daily situations a little more softly. Link to post Share on other sites
alextop30 Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 Ok I have the opocite problem in relationships where I would think so much that my girlfriend ended screeming at me for not saying what I felt. I was too busy of thinking not to say somthing stupid or not to say something to offend her. She made me realize that you should not stop your emotions and start thinking of what to say because if you save it this time, it will come out the next and you will be really hating yourself for that, so I tried my best to tell her how I feel but let me tell you thinking if something is appropriate is even worse than saying it out loud. I believe that if they really love you, they will take those words and emotions into consideration and will understand you are appriciate you better. Don't hold emotions inside they are priceless to the other person !!! Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 I wish I could do something about that, but I don't know how. It's like I act first and then start thinking about it, and then I realise the mistakes I made. Or sometimes when I'm with a fight with my boyfriend I can really dramatise things so much, because I'm actually scared with every fight of losing him. I really want to be more in control with my emotions, but I don't know where to start. I tried counting to 10 and think about my actions, but NOOOOPE that doesn't work, because at the point that I'm being impulsive, I'm far from rational, while otherwise I'm a very rational person. I think it's your BF who makes mistakes and drives you crazy. Then you react accordingly. I'd think about changing the BF who brings the worst in me rather than categorize my whole personality as wrong and impulsive. I truly doubt that you start fights that are completely out of place and make no sense just to realize that you were totally wrong out of your mind. Celine Dion sings: "You'll make a good girl crazy if you don't treat her like a lady." Link to post Share on other sites
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