RocketMan2 Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Ok so shes just text me, politely asking for her things back. What do I do? Seriously, I have no idea how to behave :s Shes obviously come to terms with dumping me and can now face seeing me when i bring her stuff round. I havent tho I really want her back. How should i handle this? Thanks guys Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Box up her stuff and tell her you're leaving it on her front doorstep. You don't need to see/talk to her, it will only make you feel worse. Bring a friend if you need to, that way if she does have to answer the door (like if she's in an apartment) you're not alone. OR, get a friend to drop it off for you. Link to post Share on other sites
shockandawed Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Rocket, Obviuosly seeing her will hurt like hell. As I told you, our situations are very similar. Just a week or two ahead. Last week, my ex-fiance sent a nice email wanting to meet me to give me back the diamond from the ring. I replied to simply leave it at the store. She kept coming up with reasons not too, until finally asking if I was afraid to see her. I took it as a sign and broke n/c. We had a long and nice talk, no slams, I then made the final move to get her back. Which of course failed miserably. If I was you, or if I had last week to do over. I would avoid seeing her if possible. It will make her wonder and put you in a little in control here. Can her belongings be easily carried by someone else? If so, see if a friend of either of you would pick up and deliver to her. If not, can they be shipped? If you see her now, you will look for any small sign to make a move to get her back. If she is nice, you will take it as a break, if she is crappy, you will take it as her being hurt. I know friend.......hold out and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RocketMan2 Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 If you see her now, you will look for any small sign to make a move to get her back. If she is nice, you will take it as a break, if she is crappy, you will take it as her being hurt. I know friend.......hold out and see what happens. I know ill look into anything she says or does too much. I could probably drop her stuff off when i know she isnt there. Im kinda going along the lines of showing her ive moved on. Like by pretending to be busy and it will take me a while to find all her stuff etc. I need to text her back to ask her which dvds are hers so i was thinking of saying: "yeah ill sort it out for you. Im a bit busy this week so it might take me a while to get it all together. What dvds are there? Do you know of any of my stuff that you have?" Then see where she takes it? Link to post Share on other sites
shockandawed Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 Sounds good, you really want to show indifference. Let her try to read what you are saying. When I had the email exchange last week, I never admitted being afraid of seeing her. Just kept being indifferent, she finally cracked. However, I quickly screwed that up. Just send her reply requesting a list of items she needs, tell her you will package them and get them to her. Link to post Share on other sites
notmakingsense Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 I know ill look into anything she says or does too much. I could probably drop her stuff off when i know she isnt there. Im kinda going along the lines of showing her ive moved on. Like by pretending to be busy and it will take me a while to find all her stuff etc. I need to text her back to ask her which dvds are hers so i was thinking of saying: "yeah ill sort it out for you. Im a bit busy this week so it might take me a while to get it all together. What dvds are there? Do you know of any of my stuff that you have?" Then see where she takes it? RM -- This approach isn't horrible, but it is dragging it out. Why have the eventual boxing-up maybe-meeting-her-maybe-not thing hanging over your head? I personally would get it all over with as quickly as possible, so you can focus on healing. Just remember that (a) she dumped you, (b) she isn't thinking of reconciliation, and © giving it back to her quickly and maintaining no-contact is just as effective as "pretending to be busy." Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Bring them back in person and bring a woman with you. This will show her a) that you've moved on, b) that you are not pining over her and c) she can easily be replaced. I know that sounds sneaky but I'm a woman and I know that that would bug me! Link to post Share on other sites
notmakingsense Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 Bring them back in person and bring a woman with you. This will show her a) that you've moved on, b) that you are not pining over her and c) she can easily be replaced. I know that sounds sneaky but I'm a woman and I know that that would bug me! Perfect, I love it! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 Well, returning items to an ex, or past acquaintance isn't always just an excuse to see them one last time or do the dirty deed. However, there are a choice few, that consciously make a sincere effort, (but) get the WTF you want?! Sometimes this can construe the initial true intent to return. The item/s. Sad but people, get the wrong communication based on lies or whatever suits them at the time. Or maybe they're afreid of circumstances. I understand that to an extent, since I once had this r/s that would yank the hell out of any statement. IF! it didn't sound right, whatever. Sometimes to retrieve or help another at times of calling in need, I found myself rushing to help others, well to return items. Although can't say much would be spent on me intimes of patience or help some Just gimmee, gimmee, or takee, talk. Anyway don't won't to sound rude, but just goes to show, you can't always get what you want, hear, or me to refuse to do again and again and again. Especially if the stuff, ain't yours anymore, and even if it is, you know the 2/3 ~ possession is 9/10 of the law. An this I apply to a friend, that I know did take the time to return a much needed assesory... In other words, it is amazing when some one really takes the time to return my call, items, property, (for your job, necessity to survive) and within themself graciously give back to its original owner. And know THEY you will go to all ENDS to get there, or your items back. Oh well, sometimes I guess when there are riff raff reasons, people assume the worse of you, w/o hearing anything at all. Just a phone call away, will make or break it time and again. And it does or did or will. Regardless, when I hear a person call, and I say I'll be there or call. I mean it. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 I think brininging a woman with you would look completely staged personally. Link to post Share on other sites
notmakingsense Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 I think brininging a woman with you would look completely staged personally. Yeah, true.... but I love the idea anyway! Link to post Share on other sites
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