VeniceQueen Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Guys, I'm having a really hard time this evening. You see, two years ago tonight, he and I met. I thought I'd come on here to let out my emotions a little and to get some support. It's awful because with no car right now I'm stuck at home alone. And that is always no good for me. I wonder if I've even crossed his mind tonight. I know it shouldn't matter. I just miss him terribly. I still have so many questions about things with us. I know I shouldn't bring up the relationship first but they really bother me. He still keeps in contact with me quite often. Sometimes he asks me what's on my mind. Maybe then? I don't know. Usually I'm better than this but tonight I can't stop crying. The healing process is so up and down. Some days I feel powerful, like I could take on the world. But there are still plenty of nights where I regress, where it feels like it's the day after again. This boy is hard to get over. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 This boy is hard to get over. Have you tried putting him on the potty? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1049230#post1049230 Link to post Share on other sites
LaughMachine Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 You met him two years ago? does that meen you guys have been broken up for two years? I doubt it so don't beat your self up over not being able to get over him. Of course your going to have your ups and downs and so many people out there are trying to be strong like you. You'll get there I promis! No one ever thinks they will but after a year and 5 months( even with it still hurting ) I know I'm happy with my life, still sad at times but content. Being alone really isn't good but being with people and trying to have fun when you simply can't also isn't a good idea. Unless you can go out and have fun. I suggest you two stop talking to eachother for a little bit because it is prolonging the process. But sometimes It's good to keep up to date with eachother just to know you both are okay... Link to post Share on other sites
LittleWingedOne Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 I understand. Try not to be so sad over it, think of it as something good that you had once, even if it didn't last or ended badly. Link to post Share on other sites
notmakingsense Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 Did he dump you? If so, you may need some time without any contact. His contacting you is keeping him fresh in your mind and not allowing you to fully grieve and begin to conteplate life without him. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 Relapses and regression is all a part of letting go. Sometimes something reminds me of "him" and I feel like I'm going back to square one. But you know what? Those relapses become fewer and further between... and each time I bounce back quicker than the time before. I've come to the realization that I still love my ex- but I don't want to be with him anymore. I just woke up feeling that way one day. Now, when I hear from him I don't feel as if it sets me back. You're going to get through this. Grieving is a long arduous process, especially when you love(d) someone dearly. The pain doesn't go away overnight, even though we want it to. I dealt with my pain over the demise of the realtionship right away- and continued to do so for 5 months. I realize now that my ex is sniffing around again, that he never dealt with the pain, and that is why he is having second thoughts now- 5 months later. Some people shelf their grief- while others deal with it directly. I've never been a shelfer...and it doesn't sound like u are either. Believe me, that's a good thing. D Link to post Share on other sites
fjk82 Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 It will get better with time. Ive been trying to deal with this as well for 9months now with someone who I was with and lived with for almost 5 yrs. He does not talk to me and I think that is for the best at this point because if he did that hope would always remain. I broke up with him and wanted him back. Maybe you should so some NC right now with this man. Its not easy at all but that is the only way to heal..It took me a great while to come to turns and understand that. It will get better as time goes on. We will always have our down nights but they will start to fade with time as well. Hope your feeling better.. Link to post Share on other sites
resi71 Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 he will think about you.be strong.The NC is just hope ex will come back and helps!?to get over of that.I have been thrue that 6 weeks and went thrue hell and still do. Link to post Share on other sites
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