Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 For the most part;that I can remember, I've always been attracted to older men. All throughout high school, I was amazed at all the sexy teachers. I even would have fantasies about them in bed. I would have sexual desires about them. One in particular, Mr. Grabowski, was his name. He would smile at me, and I'm sure he was flattered by some high school girl liking him. Recently I got a new job, and I seem to be attracted to the managment team. I find them all so sexy. Two of them in particular. One man, he is about 50, and he works so hard, and is so nice and sweet. I always joke with my friends, and say I wanna **** him in the back. Now I'm 20, but I'm so attracted to him for some reason. This other man, is around 45 I'd say, and we've talked a few times, and I recall him looking down my shirt, and even watching me walk by him. Looking me up and down if you will. I find myself bending over, and looking at his dick area:p....I have these urges to **** the **** outta him. Doing whatever it may be to make him want me. On the days I know theyll be there, I do my make up so pretty, and make sure I look sexy. Did I mention that one of them is married? Does this bother me, nope I really don't care. I want them both. Some might call me crazy for this, but I want someones view. Why do I feel this way? Link to post Share on other sites
ratingsguy Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 No offense, but at 20, you're still young and have a lot to learn. You haven't matured fully if you're uninterested in the consequences of getting involved with a MM. Now, there's nothing wrong with liking an older man. I'm actually infatuated with older women myself as of late. But don't get yourself involved with a MM. There are so many people on this board (including myself) who will caution you against this. A lot of us have experienced it, that's why we're here. Not only is it wrong, but you are most likely setting yourself up for heartbreak. I got involved with a MW who is now separated. Despite that, things are still very dicey. She cares deeply for me, but needs to enjoy being single for a while. That sucks just as bad as a break up. Only you know your heart. It's best not to get involved with someone in a M (as much as I love my xMW, I wish I hadn't), but if you insist, make sure that you don't get emotionally attached. That can be very hard to do, especially in a work environment where you will see him every day. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Did I mention that one of them is married? Does this bother me, nope I really don't care. I want them both. Then you're licentious and, in my reality, immoral. As an older man (60) I'd give you a wide berth! Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Did I mention that one of them is married? Does this bother me, nope I really don't care. I want them both. Some might call me crazy for this, but I want someones view. Why do I feel this way? Why do you feel which way exactly..? That you fancy much older men..? That you think about sex a lot..? That you think it's a good plan to get involved with married people at work..? The first two are pretty natural, really. The last is probably because life hasn't smacked you in the head enough times yet ... it's not craziness, just inexperience I suppose..? Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 MS: Are you for real? Link to post Share on other sites
sadbuttrue Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 sounds like you just want attention, and an older man is an easy mark. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Sounds like you want attention, period... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 thanks so much for telling me this. But what if he isn't happy? Or he comes to me and tells me so? Then what do I do? Link to post Share on other sites
NearlyThere Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 MS: Are you for real? I thought the same as you GEL, I mean the name of the teacher Mr Grabowski, come on, grab anything!!! or is it just me and my over imagination. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 I thought the same as you GEL, I mean the name of the teacher Mr Grabowski, come on, grab anything!!! or is it just me and my over imagination. lol. I'm right with you NT...it's not your imagination... Link to post Share on other sites
sadbuttrue Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 the problem with what you are doing is that you are purposefully going after someone M because you think it would be exciting or fun? you said you would want them both. you dont care about either of them as a person. that is how you came across anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 Sounds like you want attention, period... I think I do too. I'm getting attention from the wrong men though. Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 thanks so much for telling me this. But what if he isn't happy? Or he comes to me and tells me so? Then what do I do? Why does it matter whether he's happy or not..? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 I'm right with you NT...it's not your imagination... haha Grab anything;) Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 I think I do too. I'm getting attention from the wrong men though. Could that be because you're "doing whatever it takes to get him to want you"..? It's a possibility Link to post Share on other sites
ratingsguy Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 I'm getting attention from the wrong men though. Right, and it sounds to me like you're doing it purposely. Save yourself the heartbreak in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 haha Grab anything;) Grab yourself...if you're not serious, don't post here... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 Why does it matter whether he's happy or not..? Hmm you made me think about this...well idk maybe I think if he's not, then I can fix it by being with him, or would my heart just get broken? I know I shouldn't think about them two, but I see them almost everyday, and I don't think I look for MM on purpose...I just love OM...and if the MM give me attention theyre not happy, right? Trust me, I don't look to ruin any marriage, or break up a family....I just know what I like Link to post Share on other sites
NearlyThere Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 I dont often say this but I'm sure this is a troll, so we should all stop feeding, because this person is really trying to stir up this forum again which at the best of times, does not take much. Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Hmm you made me think about this...well idk maybe I think if he's not, then I can fix it by being with him, or would my heart just get broken? I know I shouldn't think about them two, but I see them almost everyday, and I don't think I look for MM on purpose...I just love OM...and if the MM give me attention theyre not happy, right? Trust me, I don't look to ruin any marriage, or break up a family....I just know what I like If you think men aren't happy you're going to go around sleeping with them to cheer them up a little..? could work... that's pretty nice of you actually. Oh dear... I need to sit on my hands Link to post Share on other sites
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 MS, there's nothing wrong or "crazy" with finding older men attractive. But it does sound like your looking for attention and for some drama. Starting a relationship with a married man can bring heartbreak to him, to his family and to you. It is something not to be undertaken lightly and most OP are so because their MP are in a transient stage whereby their previous relationship is in its final stages (or at least the OP believe it to be). There's plenty of drama out there for you, dont seek it out in the form of a married colleague. Go and be young and enjoy it! Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 I think you're a game-player and insecure enough to only want what someone else has "title" to. That's safe because you can never have all of them which might create challenges in relationship you're not capable of meeting. In my book you're bad news and I don't care how young, hard-bodied, attractive or "adventuresome" you might be, I'd still avoid you like the plague. If there's one thing that's a total turn-off to me it's needy women, and needy girls especially! Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Oh dear... I need to sit on my hands Yes you do! Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 I dont often say this but I'm sure this is a troll, so we should all stop feeding, because this person is really trying to stir up this forum again which at the best of times, does not take much. I'm thinking you hit the nail on the head!!! This just seems way too off to even be real. The "oh, did i mention one was married" line. Nice touch. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 MS, there's nothing wrong or "crazy" with finding older men attractive. But it does sound like your looking for attention and for some drama. Starting a relationship with a married man can bring heartbreak to him, to his family and to you. It is something not to be undertaken lightly and most OP are so because their MP are in a transient stage whereby their previous relationship is in its final stages (or at least the OP believe it to be). There's plenty of drama out there for you, dont seek it out in the form of a married colleague. Go and be young and enjoy it! THX so much>:] Link to post Share on other sites
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