Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 I'm thinking you hit the nail on the head!!! This just seems way too off to even be real. The "oh, did i mention one was married" line. Nice touch. How do you think this isn't real? What I'm feeling, or saying w-e it may be?! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 If you think men aren't happy you're going to go around sleeping with them to cheer them up a little..? could work... that's pretty nice of you actually. Oh dear... I need to sit on my hands sleep around? I don't do that:eek: Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 How do you think this isn't real? What I'm feeling, or saying w-e it may be?! If this is real, i'm sorry.................... I think this is a BS posing as someone to work us OW up. This is not a funny or interesting situation to be in. None of us stalked our MM like you are mentioning. We are in love with these men. This isn't a game to us. If you are serious, then you need some help. Having a thing for older men is perfectly fine, but hunting down a MM to f*ck his brains out cuz the possibility of him being unhappy may exist, is not funny. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Why not? You don't seem to mind if a man's married and willing to sleep around. Why not you? Double standard here? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 CURMUDGEON..I'M NOT needy, I just know what I like...And I know I'm hot!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 If this is real, i'm sorry.................... I think this is a BS posing as someone to work us OW up. This is not a funny or interesting situation to be in. None of us stalked our MM like you are mentioning. We are in love with these men. This isn't a game to us. If you are serious, then you need some help. Having a thing for older men is perfectly fine, but hunting down a MM to f*ck his brains out cuz the possibility of him being unhappy may exist, is not funny. Are you mad b-c your marriage sucks? Or are you threatened by girls like me who could take your man easily? Hmm Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 ...And I know I'm hot!! In your own view at least. My stance remains unchanged. I don't care how attractive, sexy, enticing, appealing, seductive or alluring you are, or think you are (which probably means you carry yourself well and are all those things) I'd still avoid you like the plague. "Hot" girls are a dime a dozen. Substantive girls with intelligence, integrity and character are a thing of beauty. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 Why not? You don't seem to mind if a man's married and willing to sleep around. Why not you? Double standard here? I just think it's his choice, a lot of OM I know, love the young blood, and want something fresh! Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Are you mad b-c your marriage sucks? Or are you threatened by girls like me who could take your man easily? Hmm I'm getting divorced and i'm happy about that. And i'm far from being threatened by a girl like you. If you think you can take what i "have" go for it. I'm done with you. You just proved to me that you're a troll. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 But you're willing to be just that, a plaything, right? That's commendable. I'm sorry you value yourself so lowly. It's truly a shame. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 In your own view at least. My stance remains unchanged. I don't care how attractive, sexy, enticing, appealing, seductive or alluring you are, or think you are (which probably means you carry yourself well and are all those things) I'd still avoid you like the plague. "Hot" girls are a dime a dozen. Substantive girls with intelligence, integrity and character are a thing of beauty. so are you saying I'm just a ****? Cuz, trust me, I'm all those things you mentioned:l I have integrity, and character, and my gpa aint bad either, so what do you mean here? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 I'm getting divorced and i'm happy about that. And i'm far from being threatened by a girl like you. If you think you can take what i "have" go for it. I'm done with you. You just proved to me that you're a troll. you're happy? WOW it really shows...Yup Im a troll. FH Hahahah E-NER Link to post Share on other sites
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 MS, being alluring and sexually attractive to another man does not a relationship make.Not once have you mentioned whether you get on well with this man, whether you find his personality attractive, whether you have shared interests. If this is for real, it sounds like you're experiencing the "mirror". Someone finds you attractive and makes you feel so good about yourself that you in turn mirror them and start to find them attractive. This sustains the feeling that you are attractive in their eyes and can be a big ego-boost. The mirror is especially apparent in those with low self esteem issues. Getting involved with a MM/MW was a choice that most people on this forum made, and most didnt make that choice lightly. By wanting a sexual relationship and believing that because someone appears interested in you they are having marital problems shows your immaturity. And if this is a BS, it's a great enlightenment as to how they think a OW's mind works - and in most instances you're completely wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 But you're willing to be just that, a plaything, right? That's commendable. I'm sorry you value yourself so lowly. It's truly a shame. I want to sleep with them, yes, but I didn't say that's all I wanted from them. I would love to be with (insert name) the NM man...I'm not just a F*cK, I know that. So you're saying you'd stay away from me at all cost? Is that right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mary Shadows Posted January 15, 2007 Author Share Posted January 15, 2007 MS, being alluring and sexually attractive to another man does not a relationship make.Not once have you mentioned whether you get on well with this man, whether you find his personality attractive, whether you have shared interests. If this is for real, it sounds like you're experiencing the "mirror". Someone finds you attractive and makes you feel so good about yourself that you in turn mirror them and start to find them attractive. This sustains the feeling that you are attractive in their eyes and can be a big ego-boost. The mirror is especially apparent in those with low self esteem issues. Getting involved with a MM/MW was a choice that most people on this forum made, and most didnt make that choice lightly. By wanting a sexual relationship and believing that because someone appears interested in you they are having marital problems shows your immaturity. And if this is a BS, it's a great enlightenment as to how they think a OW's mind works - and in most instances you're completely wrong. okay, I have a personal question for you, if you don't mind. I have tons of issues, just not with this. I really don't see anything wrong with being with a MM if he is having marriage troubles, and is going to get divorced. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 What I mean here is that you have low self-esteem or you wouldn't "settle" for someone who belongs to another simply to fulfill your own wanton desires. You'd find your own, unattached and available man and wow him. You still wouldn't do it for me, even if I permitted you to do it to me, which I wouldn't,and I still doubt your integrity and character because I find them wanting. And, yes, you're just that to a married man unless he's needy too! Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 I dont often say this but I'm sure this is a troll, so we should all stop feeding, because this person is really trying to stir up this forum again which at the best of times, does not take much. NT and SH totally agree with you... Link to post Share on other sites
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 okay, I have a personal question for you, if you don't mind. I have tons of issues, just not with this. I really don't see anything wrong with being with a MM if he is having marriage troubles, and is going to get divorced. I guess I'm walking a fine line being an OW and answering this. But from my personal circumstance, it wasn't about sex for me. It was about love. Love makes all of the difference. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 I want to sleep with them, yes, but I didn't say that's all I wanted from them. I would love to be with (insert name) the NM man...I'm not just a F*cK, I know that. So you're saying you'd stay away from me at all cost? Is that right? I was you 18 years ago. I am a 38 year old woman and have been married 12 years, but not to an older man. My husband is only 5 years older than I. Marrying a much older man was always what I THOUGHT to be in the cards for me. At your age I had always been attracted to much older men. Being with older men had always made me feel important, loved, pampered, sexy, cared for, etc....Oh, I can go on forever. As I grew older that part of my life to want to be with older men went away as I matured and learned many things the much harder way than most. I pity whom I once was before. If I could have avoided all the hurt and humilation I put myself through I would certainly had done so. I involved myself with older MM, at first with the notion of a good time, good sex, with no regard to what the consequences would be like if I actually fell for one of them. Sure enough I eventually did fall for a MM and fell hard. I had hoped he would leave his family for me, but sadly, as long as he was getting what he wanted from me all he needed to do was fill my head with empty promises. I think my turning point was when we got caught by his wife and children. We had the audacity to have sex at his home. His wife and children were supposed to be out of town, but to his and my surprise she had suspected something was going on and confronted us in the middle of us in a compromising situation. I will NEVER in my life forget the expression on his wife and especially his children. She screamed and turned violent on me and her children just cried and I could tell they were very frightened by what was going on. I am forever haunted by what I did to those people. I had never felt anything for his family until that day. I got my things and shamefully walked out and promised myself never to do that to another human being. Just writing this sends chills up my spine. I never heard from them again, and I don't know what ever happened to them. All I know is that they moved to another city shortly after. I would sincerely like apologize to them for my selfishness. I still think about what I did to them and I feel awful with guilt at times. Now, this could happen to you, if you continue playing with fire. I do not wish what happened to me, even to my worst enemy. You deserve a much better start to your experiences with men. Find out why you are so attracted to older men. Get help if needed. I discovered that my attraction to older men stemmed from my father not being there for me and always putting his mistresses first. He was a habitual cheater. He had so many women, he did not even bother to hide them after a while. He really damaged me. I'm not saying your circumstances have been the same, but from what I have learned a woman seeking out a MM who is older usually comes from neglect and absense from an important male figure in her life. I wish you the best, and hopefully you will take my advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Kathleen Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Are you looking for a father figure maybe? Link to post Share on other sites
Kathleen Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Does any one think Mary & Je ne person are related? Link to post Share on other sites
yousaveme Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 If this is a BS...You have shown how truly unhappy and twisted you are. Are you hot? I highly doubt it.. You sound more like a bottom feeder. Happy trolling to you. Get your head examined. Link to post Share on other sites
PollyPocket Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Good going. You have all these OW crawling in their skin. Wish I thought about this. Maybe they will finally see how they sound to us. Congrats. on this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 You're really full of yourself, aren't you. In the worst of times you couldn't get me if you tried. That question just serves to show how shallow and disingenuous you are. I like REAL women with substance, standards and morals, not nominal tenny-boppers who can only flaunt themselves and prey on men who are already taken. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Interesting thread to read, but I'm gonna keep my thoughts to myself as I don't want to get flagged or suspended with what I could say. Link to post Share on other sites
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