Guest Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 My boyfriend and I broke up in November. Since then we have gone everywhere from not talking to still trying to be best friends and everywhere in between and we are still sleeping together. I freely admit to still being emotionally attached he says he isnt but gets emotionally riled up over trivial things. I know neither one of us is moving on as long as we are still doing this. My friends tell me to guard my heart but Im willing to hold on if its worth the wait. The only thing that makes me think it may be is that Im not the only one trying to stay in contact and keep the relationship. Neither of us seems ready to let go yet we arent ready to really fix the issue. Should I walk away? Guys especially what are your thoughts? My guy friends all say he still cares for me. He swears its just physical. Im really confused and Im tired of hurting. Help Please. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 Why do you call it a break up when you still see each other and are still sleeping together? And why did you break up in the first place? Is it fixable? First, sit down and talk to each other honestly. Tell him the things you wrote here - that you broke up in Nov, that you've been having a back and forth confusing relationship ever since, and you need to know what he wants: to work on things or to end things. Tell him what YOU want, whether it is to work on things or end things. If he wants to work on things, then you need to specifically tell him what you will do on your part and what he will do on his to change the situation. If he doesn't know what he wants or says he can't be your bf, then you have to go with the no contact option. NO CONTACT. No friends, no sex, no emails, none of that. Either he will miss you to the point of wanting to make an effort to work things out, or he won't. You may miss him, but you also may decide you can't be with a guy who isn't 100% interested in making things work. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenRose Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 I agree with Norajane. If he says that it's just physical, well.. He's telling you straight up. Whether it's the truth or not, that is what he is really saying. You need to have a heart to heart with him, and decide what you want before that. I spent 2 years with this guy. We got along famously, were very connected, always got along. Never had a fight. But, I didn't tell him what I wanted and expected him to just get it. Well, after 2 years, I broke it off. I had to in order to save my sanity. You're worth a real commitment if that is what you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 My boyfriend and I broke up in November. Since then we have gone everywhere from not talking to still trying to be best friends and everywhere in between and we are still sleeping together. I freely admit to still being emotionally attached he says he isnt but gets emotionally riled up over trivial things. I know neither one of us is moving on as long as we are still doing this. My friends tell me to guard my heart but Im willing to hold on if its worth the wait. The only thing that makes me think it may be is that Im not the only one trying to stay in contact and keep the relationship. Neither of us seems ready to let go yet we arent ready to really fix the issue. Should I walk away? Guys especially what are your thoughts? My guy friends all say he still cares for me. He swears its just physical. Im really confused and Im tired of hurting. Help Please. SPEAKING OF WALKING - ITS FREAKING FREEEZING OUT THERE Link to post Share on other sites
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