moman Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 Sorry to vent, but I feel as if there is one word that I can use to describe how I feel about my life right now: FRUSTRATED I'm going to be 29 in one month. A big part of me feels like a total failure. Why? I don't know. Here's what's bothing me. Work I feel completely unappreciated. My salary is decent but not great compared to others, and my boss keeps putting off giving me a promotion. Keeps saying I am so close but need to do "x", and the next time we talk it's "y". Thus I've finally given up but since my job is pretty easy and close to home I hate to quit. So I feel like a failure in my professional life and just thinking about it can bring me close to tears of frustration. Social I have a great social life. Lots of friends but not too many who are available to chat when I need to talk because they are judgemental. I am always getting invited places and am thankful for that. Relationship I'm currently dating 3 different girls (only sleeping with one). I have no problem meeting girls, but I have a problem keeping interest in them after a while. Of course, as it always seems to go, the one girl who I really liked decided she wasn't over her ex-boyfriend and that seriously hurt. The girl I am seeing the most is pretty, smart, and funny but she is not challenging me enough and that is FRUSTRATING. Home I kind of feel like a dip**** here because I live in a nice but small 1br apartment. Most of my friends are married or have nice houses with garages and stuff but since I am single I don't want to buy a place until I meet someone. Now I have plenty of money to go out and do things instead of pay a mortgage. To stay busy I go to grad school at night and am doing really well at it. All in all, I have a pretty good life and lots of very nice possessions, but my work and lack of a strong girlfriend is frustrating. I am starting to feel like a failure because of what little I have accomplished in my life and I am getting old. The thought of having my current job and doing the same thing in 2,5,10 years is numbing. Anyone else have issues or thoughts? Thanks for listening. Link to post Share on other sites
ash519 Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 This is all stuff you can fix, i think at least. Tell your boss you would like a promotion (since it sounds as though it's on the table) and tell him/her you feel as though it keeps getting put off and therefore you feel unappreciated. If nothing comes of it, look for a new job. If you dont want to because you are close and comfortable with the one you have than it is your fault, right? Relationship wise...Most men tend to want the girl they cant have (at least in your type of situation), and it just so happens you dont like the girl you can have because as you say "she is not challenging you enough" and as I say "she is not playing hard to get and playing games with you." Again, i think that is something you need to work out. Life is what you make of it. I know men dont do this, but if you dont feel you have a friend around to talk to, call one of them and tell them it would be nice if once in a while they were a bit more available to talk because you feel that lacking in your life. I dont know. I think everything you have said is very fixable, and may take some time, but if you really want your life to change you just have to start changing it. I wish you the best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Poboy Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 dating 3 girls and frustrated .... whats wrong with you man there is nothing wrong with you ... you just need to prioritize things and clear up some mess in your head work - if you are not satisfied and working for the sake of good money and comfort , you will eventually quit. you can start looking out for a new job , its not illegal. social - dont expect friends to be there all the time and non judgemental... keep those precious few who are not so around you... dont expect too much of people , you will be dissapointed in the end. relationship - please date just 1 girl and not 2 or 3 or more ... you are cheating. you will never find that perfect girl so the one with minimum flaws and one you get along with is the one you should be focussing on rather than 3 of em ... home - as long as you have a good home and roof over the head , dont worry if others are living in mansions... there are many who would like to be in your place but cant be. when you settle down with someone , you can go mansion hunting. Satisfaction is something you should read more about on the net or in books. hope this helps Link to post Share on other sites
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