Blondie4 Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 OK I have been talking to this kid for a long time and he has helped me through so much with my past realationship and problems. well recently we started dating and he asked me out but I said no, b/c I wanted to see if I was really ready for another realationhip! He understood. But lately he has been real touching and he kisses me way to much and I have told him about the kissing thing that it is annoying every 5 seconds! Well he said that he loved me and i was like how can u love me and he was like ok well i love being with u! He likes me alot but I am not sure of my feelings for him. I mean I do like him but I am not sure if i want to go out with him but I dont want to hurt him b/c he has been there for me so much and i mean i do like him but I dont know what my feelings are for him and how strong they are exactly! help........ Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 ...dump his butt and terminate the friendship. He is absolutely no friend whatsoever if he doesn't respect your wish that he not be up your butt with the romantic overtures. He has no respect or understanding if he continues to pursue you romantically when he knows you are in a healing process and need a friend more than anything. This guy has clearly shown he is not mature, he is selfish, he is looking out for his own best interests and not worthy of being a friend. Yeah, he may have helped you through some hard times...but he did so with a clear agenda...that of getting you to date him and have a relationship with him. That's a bunch of crap. If his friendship is not pure, a relationship with him will not be either. This guy doesn't know what real friendship is all about. Either teach him and see if he learns by changing his ways or get far away from him. I think he's a real jerk for having ulterior motives for being your friend. He sux. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Blondie4 Posted September 11, 2002 Author Share Posted September 11, 2002 Thanks I understand where u are coming from, but I cant just stop talkin to him b/c that will hurt him and I dont want to do that! And I mean I do like him I am jst not sure if I want to keep it on a friend basis. His friends have also noticed that he likes to kiss way to much and they agree with me that he needs to chill out a lil! I mean he understood that I didnt want to go out with him but he still wants to act like we are and when u act people think u are and then they think that I am stupid for saying no but then acting liek we are but it isnt my fault I try not to but when he wont leave mt side it is hard. He also wants to know when I talk to any of his friends what we talked about and all that kind of stuff! and he tells me that I am his everything and I dont know wnad I dont know where to go from here b/cI just cant dump his butt!....... Link to post Share on other sites
Jonarsh Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 I have to agree wif Tony...he has an ulterior motive. I just see that he's maybe just trying to get you into bed... You said that he's being real touchy and you kinda dislike it rite? Have you ever told him to stop all this touching n kissing, coz you n him are not even attached yet...maybe to you, but to him, he might already think that you're his g/f. Let's put it this way, you are confused, and he's desperate...coz he aint giving you enough time to recuperate from your past relationship, and he see it as an opportunity to 'strike'... fair enough? Guess you'll just have to make it clear cut to him...tell him to chill out and stop trying to think that your his g/f...otherwise this will never end... Just my opinions... Jo. Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 I needed Tony's advice too.... Link to post Share on other sites
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