sara Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 Hi! I don´t know where to start..there´s a guy that i see quite often b/c we have shared one class for two semesters , we´ve had eye contact lots of times specially the last couple of weeks, and then he suddenly stopped watching me, he acts like i´m not around, we have never talk, but i know his name, he knows mine, and i don´t know what´s going on, he very quiet, i always see him alone, i want to know why he´s acting like tat, and why he hasn´t tried to approach me, maybe i´m going to far, but i think he might like me, everybody tells me that he needs a signal and that i should make the first move, but #1 how do i know that he likes me even if we´ve only had eye contact and had never talked?#2 why did he stopped the eye contact? #3should i make the first move or shuold i wait until he makes it?#4 how can i make him see my interest? thanks for your help, but i´m sooo clueless about love matters= Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 Well, you can't think about being involved with the guy until you really meet him. He could be scared or nervous or whatever. Go up to him and introduce yourself. He might feel more comfortable then, if he acts the same way, with indifference, then just ignore him back and forget about it...you haven't lost much...if anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sara Posted October 14, 2002 Author Share Posted October 14, 2002 I followed your advice, I approached the guy I like, I was the first to start a conversartion,the day that i talked to him he acted cool about the situation, we went to the library together to get some copies of a text that we had to read, he pay for them and didn´t let me give him my part of the money. after that every time a saw him face to face he smiled at me and said hello, i cathched him staring at me in class. but one day we went to the caffeteria together he acted like he had to do other things and he was really cold with me, and even started to talk very often with one girl who has the same last name, and they joked about it a lot. I decided to step back and forget about him, I got sick and missed classes for a week, The day i returned to school a bump into him and he approached me asked me how i was with a big smile, after i though that everything was lost he started to act interested in me he even stopped talking with the other girl...?...on thursday i cathced him staring at me about 7 times during the class , later that day i bump into him again in the caffeteria and he asked me if a went to the class... as if he didnt know that!!! after the stared at me so many times!! and we exchange some points about the class, few hours later i was waiting for my friends in front of the hall, he passed in front of me but he didnt see me, then when he saw me he walk in my direction and with a big smile he said hello!and kept walking. the next day i was sitting chattin with one of my friends, he walked in front of me with his friends, and when i cathched staring at me he looked away, but my friend who is usually absent-minded, she noticed that he was checking me...i don´t know what does his mixed signals mean.....what do you think???? thanks for reading this message=) Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted October 14, 2002 Share Posted October 14, 2002 ...That you have to make a big deal about Grammar corrections to someone who was trying to HELP you. With the attitude you have, you must be a very impleasant person, and I'm not going to encourage you do become in contact with ANYONE other than family members who HAVE to tolerate you. A person who feels the need to belittle someone who took time out of their own day, and was kind enough to share a perspective...the ONLY person to do so, might I add, is a sick person. Work on your own confidence instead of trying to feel superior by belittleing another person...then maybe you'll feel comfortable to just say HI! If you are anal about Grammar, then you don't belong in this site...bc there are too many people with broken English that participate. Have a great day, and I'm sorry but I refuse to participate in your threads bc your insulting me served no purpose other than trying to upset me. You obviously figured out what I had to say...so nothing needed to be said. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sara Posted October 15, 2002 Author Share Posted October 15, 2002 Hi ally boo!! first of all..i was the one who replied my message bEuase i was trying to update MY SITUATION TO YOU! but then i realize that i was sending my updated message as a reply and with some grammar mystakes i correct them and send it again, i´m sorry if you thought that i was so anal...but i ´m not very familiar with this "writting, sendidng" updates. SORRY TO DISTURB YOU. i wold never offend anybody, not in this siteor in my personal life. agaian sorry for the misunderstood and i hope you advice soon =( Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted October 15, 2002 Share Posted October 15, 2002 I appologize. Sorry for the misunderstanding. Now that I know you weren't insulting me, I'll be glad to help! LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author sara Posted October 15, 2002 Author Share Posted October 15, 2002 hI ALLY! misunderstandings always happen, i´m very glad that u understood that it isn´t my intention to be rude with u or anybody n this site or anywhere else . well i would like to know what do with the mixed signals that the guy i like is sending to me, i don´t know whether to get closer to him or wait until he decides to act. guys r unpredectible, i don´t know if he likes me or what, i cosntantly catch him wachting me and the moment we have eye contact he looks away ? all the situation between us i described in the last message i sent, the one that caused our misunderstanding take care and thanks for your advice sara Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted October 15, 2002 Share Posted October 15, 2002 Why don't you just say hi to him? I mean if anything, go up to him with the attitude to just be friends. After all, you have to be friends first anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
just_a_girl Posted October 23, 2002 Share Posted October 23, 2002 thats right, Just be friends first. If this don't work as friends first, then it probably won't work out at all. If you find being friend with him around you classes difficult, maybe try contacting him outside of class, ie: email, chatting, etc?.. just a thought. On the other hand, maybe let him do the work. He has spoken with you and if he is interested enough he will hopefully let you know, if not.. then just let him look at you. Maybe it will take him some time to build up courage. Just wait and see. :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Author sara Posted October 26, 2002 Author Share Posted October 26, 2002 thanks for your comments =), i´m trying to be his friend, he has been nice to me the last couple of times we had talked, i will wait and see what happens, let him do the work, as you said ,), he is kinda shy and don´t wanna act like i´m desperate, instead i will be nice with him and show him that it´s worth the effort to overcome his shyness. The good things always come when you least expect them take care and thanks for your advice =) Link to post Share on other sites
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