Fernis Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 A guy, assuming you are both attracted to each other, came up to you straight up and told you how he feels, or ask you out on the spot, without making small talk or anything like that. How would you feel? Link to post Share on other sites
GreenRose Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 Well, flattered. The rest would depend on how I felt about the guy. I am a very straightforawrd person. I don't mind someone being direct with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Distracted Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 I would be more open to being asked out than having someone spill his feelings to me. It would be hard for me to trust his sincerity unless we knew eachother really well. Link to post Share on other sites
princessa Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 Not every guy can pull off that aggressive type of approach (ie asking out on the spot). Since you're considering spilling your feelings, I am inclined to believe that you're not the aggressive type. These men are usually cold and insensitive, and have this charming ruthlessness about them so when they ask you out on the spot you have no choice but to say "ahh.. yes sir." But they don't have feelings. Anyway to answer your question, I would say definitely do not spill your feelings. That's weak and unattractive. But do ask her out. And just to be safe, do make some small talk. Link to post Share on other sites
LN99 Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 I would be flattered. But, before you spill your guts to me, ask me out first and then let me get to know you before you completely open up about your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fernis Posted January 18, 2007 Author Share Posted January 18, 2007 Yeah, I guess I shouldn't have put the feelings part, I wasn't going to do that anyway . But the asking out, definately. Link to post Share on other sites
vocalstudent86 Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 It would depend on how he went about it. Girls do appreciate honesty and like directness..but we don't like cheesy pickup lines or feelings of insincerity. Link to post Share on other sites
ShoeGirl Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Well, flattered. The rest would depend on how I felt about the guy. I agree with this! It would be refreshing if a guy is that straightforward. I wouldn't recommend telling her exactly how you feel right away, let her get to know you and figure out her feelings so when you do tell her how you feel she can respond appropriately and not completely freak out! Link to post Share on other sites
PussInHeels Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Depends. On the guy himself, how he says it, the words he uses, and his body language. If he appears confident but not arrogant, friendly but not intrusive, and reasonably intelligent, then I'd be interested. If he just says something like, "You're hot/sexy/fine/etc., can I have your phone number?" I'd probably politely say no and run away quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fernis Posted January 19, 2007 Author Share Posted January 19, 2007 Depends. On the guy himself, how he says it, the words he uses, and his body language. If he appears confident but not arrogant, friendly but not intrusive, and reasonably intelligent, then I'd be interested. If he just says something like, "You're hot/sexy/fine/etc., can I have your phone number?" I'd probably politely say no and run away quickly. I was thinking something more along the lines of: "Hi, what's up. What's your name?" Then I'd tell her mine and say "I wanted to ask you something. I want to know if you would like to go out with me" Or something like that. Link to post Share on other sites
PussInHeels Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 I was thinking something more along the lines of: "Hi, what's up. What's your name?" Then I'd tell her mine and say "I wanted to ask you something. I want to know if you would like to go out with me" Or something like that. That's better, though in this case, the next logical step in the girl's thought process would be, "I don't know this guy, so why does he want to go out with me?" This isn't necessarily a dead end; it could be more of a curious question. But it's one you want to answer, and your answer is important because it symbolizes your motive. Tell her the truth, but not the whole truth...just enough to flatter her and increase her interest, but not enough for her to see you as weak or a crazy (I'm not saying you are!). Make it short, sweet, truthful, but not too personal (I guess it sounds kinda like an interview ). Link to post Share on other sites
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