celesten10 Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 He wants to meet tonight!! After having NC for about a month. (it works!) Right before christmas, when all his buddies were back in town, he gave me the line "i feel i need to choose between you and my friends, and i can't do that, i feel trapped". Even though, i do dislike some of his buddies, especially the girls, it's still a lame excuse to throw at me. He told me he would call me later, never called. After i hung up i was so puzzled. SIX years of knowing e/other, him giving me the cold shoulder in such a way, i wasn't gonna take it. After that phone conversation, on december 16, i decided i was done with it. I took a short trip out of the country for the holidays, and never made the attempt to communicate, nor has he i don't think. I was already moving on. He is not gonna have me around whenever he feels lonely or his friends are out of town, we're both 24 and it seems like an immature behavior on his part. I still love this guy, and i cannot comprehend why i can't completely go. It's now been a month of NC, and all of the sudden, i receive a message saying he needs to meet up, because he needs "closure". I'm thinking i already went through the closure process on my own and DURING the holiday season. He saw me online and we get into a messaging process back and forth, i had to reply, i know i shouldn't have but i needed answers. He goes on and on with how much he misses me, loves me, and made the biggest mistake, feels so empty without me, etc, etc...and was afraid i was gonna end up leaving him and hook up with this new and handsome guy i work with. I had to laugh at all of it, and told him it was all very comical, this was HIS choice after all, his words sounded like a broken record and that i did NOT want to see him! He kept persiting and said that in order to let go he needs to do so IN PERSON. (!!??) I probably made the biggest mistake, and agreed to meet up at HIS place today. i am so scared of letting my guard down, but i need to know why he did what he did, the curiosity is killing me. I don't know how to act, part of me wants to be with him, and move away like we'd planned before our break up, this is all so confusing, i was already letting go. And on top of it, now he wants to give me this xmas gift - a painting he made for me OF me... and that i have to see it! how can i be mean and direct, how clever. i don't know how i'm gonna react to all of it, please please advise!! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 I don't think that you should go and see him. I think that he wants to give you a gift to relieve his guilt as to what he did to you. Then he can go off into the sunset thinking that he's a nice guy and ended it on a nice note. I dated a guy for 5 years. He never gave me a gift once until he broke up with me. You don't need his painting of you. You don't need reminders of him. I think you should be unavailable to him at this time. Link to post Share on other sites
chryssy83 Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 So what happened? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 yes tell details hurry! lol Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I hope he will choose to get back together with you instead of the whole 'closure' nonsense. I hope you are feeling fine, let us know what happened. Link to post Share on other sites
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