Romeo Must Die Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 Has anyone ever had a spouse buy something really expensive during the affair that made you wonder wtf. I was reading on SI about a spouse that bought two snowmobiles because his OW was really into that. I can remember after Randy died and I was still being pregnant with the baby, he took me out shopping for expensive camping equipment (the tents alone cost hundreds of dollars), mountian bikes and even financing a hot tub. I had to draw the line at the hot tub. Of course stupid me couldnt figure out why he wanted to do all these things with me because I was in my last trimester. Hiking up big steep hills on a mountian bike is out. Plus he was a marine and he said he hated bootcamp and camping and would never take us in all the years we had been together. He just started shopping and buying expensive unusual things for her and he would never spend any money on me like that, or even his own kids for that matter. Affairs suck = (~ !!! Just bite me. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
BeenAround_N_Back Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 When I discovered there was 2 big purchases at Holt Renfew (Canada's version of Neiman Marcus) and the fact that I got nothing for Christmas was when I discovered the A. I was wearing gloves with holes in it while my WS went out and bought 2 pairs of cashmere leather gloves for the OW. He hid the bills from me, it was her H who found me on MSN to let me know that which bill was being hidden on purpose that I discovered the A. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 I found receipts in my STBXH's briefcase. Only after he seemed to be acting out of character did I look. He had purchased about $5,000. worth of gifts for his OW and was planning to see her within a few days for a long weekend. I found the wrapped gifts in a duffle bag in his trunk. Needless to say - when he arrived home - the locks were changed and he was out. 23 years wasted on a compulsive cheater - yep, he already had been forgiven before that - ten years prior.... Link to post Share on other sites
Sup Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 Has anyone ever had a spouse buy something really expensive during the affair that made you wonder wtf. I was reading on SI about a spouse that bought two snowmobiles because his OW was really into that. I can remember after Randy died and I was still being pregnant with the baby, he took me out shopping for expensive camping equipment (the tents alone cost hundreds of dollars), mountian bikes and even financing a hot tub. I had to draw the line at the hot tub. Of course stupid me couldnt figure out why he wanted to do all these things with me because I was in my last trimester. Hiking up big steep hills on a mountian bike is out. Plus he was a marine and he said he hated bootcamp and camping and would never take us in all the years we had been together. He just started shopping and buying expensive unusual things for her and he would never spend any money on me like that, or even his own kids for that matter. Affairs suck = (~ !!! Just bite me. lol. Sorry about your husband. If you don't mind me asking, how did you find out about the A? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Romeo Must Die Posted January 19, 2007 Author Share Posted January 19, 2007 Well, there are all these head scratching moments like the above, an obvious attachment to a new female friend (and even when I blasted him for that) he was ranting that I was crazy, shes just a friend. Yada Yada Yada. The WS also pick fights with you and say things that dont make any sense. (I was late coming home because there was an owl in the road) You walk around in a vacuume of confusion, your trust is used as a weapon against you, but all your senses are always on high alert. The day I knew without any doubt that he had an affair came months later after the shopping sprees. He was seen in the bar by one of our neighbors, with his arm around the OW and he was bad mouthing me in public. He seen the friend too and it must have spooked him, So to cover his tracks he said, "If anybody tells you I'm cheating on you don't believe them" and thats when I knew. My heart sank. I didnt say anything, but I knew. The neighbor didn't tell me about it until much later, but I knew he was cheating just because of the way he talked. I asked myself, then why on earth would somebody tell me he was having an affair if he wasnt cheating? In all the years we had been together nobody ever tried to bust our marriage apart by saying he was cheating. It was a non-issue until now. Then all the pieces started fitting together, one by one, piece by piece, but by then it was too late. The affair was full blown. They were so into it (and themselves) by that time that my husband acted behooved, that I couldnt tell him who he could date. He did as he pleased, and I left him. Theres some real Twilight Zone stuff after D-day, but thats a subject for a whole other thread. lol Link to post Share on other sites
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