Tox Posted January 18, 2007 Share Posted January 18, 2007 Ok so we had the last conversation 3 days ago. Last closure conversation, I told her we shouldn't have contact anymore and after keeping me in limbo for more than a month she agreed. We talked about a couple of things and she confirmed some stuff that really made me think: Damn, she's really trying hard to move on. I should just forget about her. She told me she loves me and that she's not over me yet but she's on her way and the most rational thing for her at the moment is to move on. Anyway, I finally let her go. She broke in to tears and repeated that she loved me and I told her the same, said goodbye and hung up before I would break down.Last couple of days of NC have been horrible and today I log on myspace: Did not expect a mess from her, but I just thought, oh well, she probably just wants some cds back or something. But here's what she wrote! "Heey boy! Gotta say that yo music is bangin'! Keep it up, keep it up! Luv the flow and the lyrics. And uhmm.. yea, I like the way you look. Totally sexy. And beautiful. Just my type.. So, you got any number? Let me holla atcha. You wont regret this. - Her name." Now what the HELL is she doing?? Why the f*ck would she write something like that to me?? She always used to say that to me. That I'm sexy, beautiful and just her type.. But beriously, can anybody guess why the hell she would write that to me now? It made me glad, it made me sad and it made me pssed off and most of all, confused!!!I know I shouldn't be confused. Because it probably doesn't mean anything. I wanted to write her back asking her if she was drunk or something when she wrote this. What the hell is going on with her?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tox Posted January 19, 2007 Author Share Posted January 19, 2007 Input, I need input! And I definitely shouldn't respond right? Why would she write that, trying to pick me up, after we decided to have no contact? Link to post Share on other sites
My Fair Katie Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Don't reply, take her off your list, make your profile private. Then, no more messages on your page. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tox Posted January 19, 2007 Author Share Posted January 19, 2007 Ok thanks but, I've already taken her off my list, and I can't make my profile private since I have an artist account. And I'm not really asking how I should keep her from sending me messages... I'm asking why a woman would write something like that to me after a couple of days of our so called letting go conversation?? Link to post Share on other sites
My Fair Katie Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 I'm asking why a woman would write something like that to me after a couple of days of our so called letting go conversation?? Does it matter? I mean if I had to wager a guess, I'd say it's because she's not ready to let go. Or she's ready to let go but doesn't want you to be able to let go. There are a lot of reasons for people to display odd behaviors, cannot even begin to list them. What matters is your response to it. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 I told her we shouldn't have contact anymore and after keeping me in limbo for more than a month she agreed. She agreed & then contacted you anyway, in a manner which she knew would be provocative. She's keeping you dangling. It's a vicious little game some people like to play with their ex's. Usually it stops when they start dating someone else. Do not give her the satisfaction of a response. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Agree with the above posters, do not reply and delete the message. Stop wasting mental energy trying to figure it out. She's an odd duck. Link to post Share on other sites
WoundedWild Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 "Heey boy! Gotta say that yo music is bangin'! Keep it up, keep it up! Luv the flow and the lyrics. And uhmm.. yea, I like the way you look. Totally sexy. And beautiful. Just my type.. So, you got any number? Let me holla atcha. You wont regret this. - Her name." The message, the bold and underlined part makes me think that she didnt mean to write it to you, almost as if she didnt realize it was you she was writing to, and if I didnt know how myspace works, I would make this guess a sure bet. Bluechocolate said it best She agreed & then contacted you anyway, in a manner which she knew would be provocative. She's keeping you dangling. It's a vicious little game some people like to play with their ex's. Usually it stops when they start dating someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tox Posted January 19, 2007 Author Share Posted January 19, 2007 WoundedWild. Hmm, I really don't mean to be rude, but you MUST be pretty new to myspace. Writing a message to the wrong person on myspace is highly unlikely since you have a big fat picture of the person you're writing to above the text body you're supposed to write in. Sending a text message by cellular may be likely but not myspace. I'm sorry but I know this message was for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 "Heey boy! Gotta say that yo music is bangin'! Keep it up, keep it up! Luv the flow and the lyrics. And uhmm.. yea, I like the way you look. Totally sexy. And beautiful. Just my type.. So, you got any number? Let me holla atcha. You wont regret this. - Her name." I don't know, but any girl that uses the word "holla" I wouldn't give 2 squirts of piss for. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tox Posted January 19, 2007 Author Share Posted January 19, 2007 Ok this is getting out of hand... I can see I'm not getting any help here..What's wrong with holla? Too black for you?.... Link to post Share on other sites
princessa Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Sounds like a call for booty?? I don't know your girl so I don't know what you could expect from a message like this... But what is it that YOU want?? Do you want her back?? As for "holla"... quite highschool-ish and immature... Too black? Well let's see... I'm sure many black people would thank you for associating that expression with the black race. Way to go, you're totally doing them a favour. Link to post Share on other sites
WoundedWild Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Hmm, I really don't mean to be rude, but you MUST be pretty new to myspace. Actually, I am quite old to myspace and I know exactly how it works. almost as if she didnt realize it was you she was writing to, and if I didnt know how myspace works, I would make this guess a sure bet. That is why I said "if I didnt know how myspace works" meaning I do know how myspace works,and if I didnt know any better, but I was trying to point out that it sounds as if she didnt even know you from her message, as if you were just a stranger and not someone she has been with in the past. Do me a favor, and read this sentence again: So, you got any number? Let me holla atcha. You wont regret this. Obviously, you have a number, and she knows it. "Let me holla at you"..? Like she is trying to hook up with for the first time? "You wont regret this"...? Like you havent spent the last (however long you were with her) with her? You cant see why it looks as if she barely knows you at all, even though that is not the case? I'm sorry but I know this message was for me. Obviously, I knew that too. I dont know how long you were with her, but this comment is what her whole message sounded like: Sounds like a call for booty as if you were just some random person that she wanted to hook up with for the nite, and not someone she had been dating in the past. Ok this is getting out of hand... I can see I'm not getting any help here.. Well, honestly, what the hell do you want?! You want us to lie and tell you that this girl is in love with you, and is slowly dying day after day without you? I mean, come on. If that was the case, she wouldnt have been keeping you in limbo for more than a month, and playing stupid little mind game messages with myspace....she would be with you right now. I think you actually guessed right off, what is going on: Because it probably doesn't mean anything Link to post Share on other sites
Porn_Guy Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Because it probably doesn't mean anything. she's just playing with your head TOX....ignore it and don't respond. Link to post Share on other sites
Santiago 17 Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Dude, stay away from myspace and facebook or anything else like that!!!!!!!!!!! She must be totally out of sight before she can be out of mind!!! Myspace is a breeding ground disaster and leading each other or pissing the other off as far as breaking up goes, trust me I know!!! Link to post Share on other sites
RocketMan2 Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Dude, stay away from myspace and facebook or anything else like that!!!!!!!!!!! She must be totally out of sight before she can be out of mind!!! Myspace is a breeding ground disaster and leading each other or pissing the other off as far as breaking up goes, trust me I know!!! I agree. If she wants you back she should make a proper effort. Whatever that is, is up to you to decide. But if it isnt upto your standards then just say no. Ignore the message. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 I'm confused. It sounds like she's flirting with someone she's never spoken to before or something...asking you for your phone number? Wouldn't she already have it? Sounds like she's messaging a stranger for the first time. I get those sorts of random messages from strangers all the time... Sounds to me - forgive me in advance - like she may have meant to send that message to someone else... Link to post Share on other sites
ahsumgurl909 Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Dude it sounds like this to me. Same thing she used before remember. But what she is actually saying is "Hey its me want to try this again? I promise you wont regret it!" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tox Posted January 20, 2007 Author Share Posted January 20, 2007 Ok thanks everybody for your input. I'm going to disregard the "holla" PC statements, and also I'm disregarding everybody who thinks she sent it accidentally. I know my ex, she would never be that forward with a stranger. Plus it's very hard to send the wrong message on myspace, especially since Im not her list anymore and she has to look me up. I just wanted to update you on something else. Today I got a text from her. It was simply the name of an artist and a song title. Well here are the lyrics.. "Yeah… You know what’s funny? Seems like every time I try to forget about you, My feelings pull me back in. You see, it’s crazy, ‘Cause I got somebody else, You got somebody else. But you and I both know, That it really is… But still, You know what I’m saying, B? Verse-1: Ran across a picture you took of me, and you crossed my mind I still hear you sayin’ you love me, when I close my eyes If I didn’t go away to school, Then where would we be? Probably still together and somewhere happy. If I’m supposed to be moved on in a new relationship strong, Then why are you still hauntin’ me? They say… Chorus: If you love something, let it go, And if it comes back then that’s how you know. I got to the stop light then I made four rights. Now I’m back where I started, And you’re back in my life. the further that i go the closer i get back to you? I say I moved on, Til’ I’m reminded of you. Can somebody help me? To help me get out of this circle (out of this circle). Verse-2: I drove past your house the other day, I didn’t even mean to, I went the wrong way. I ain't seen your mama in a while. When she looked at me, she smiled, And asked me if I’m doing okay. Took everything I had not to bring up your name, And wonder if you came home for the holidays, yeah… She asked if I could stay awhile, Cause you had come in town And you were just five minutes away. Chorus: If you love something, let it go, And if it comes back then that’s how you know. I got to the stop light then I made four rights. Now I’m back where I started, And you’re back in my life. the further that i go the closer i get back to you? I say I moved on, Til’ I’m reminded of you. Can somebody help me? To help me get out of this circle (out of this circle). Hook: To anybody who’s listening to this, If you got the person that makes you wonder what if, Let me hear you say yeah (yeah), Say yeah (yeah)… Say yeah (yeah)… Oh yeah (oh yeah)… If you understand how I feel, Then grab that person now to let her know what’s real. Now I'm confused..again. But agree with Rocketman though, if she wants me back she would make a PROPER effort. But I do think she is trying to tell me something..don't you think? Link to post Share on other sites
princessa Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 I agree with whoever said that she's probably trying to tell you "hey, lets forget what happened and start fresh". She's obviously not over you.. But then again it could be the post-breakup withdrawal and hormones that make you miss the other person... You gotta look into your head and objectively decide if it was the rigth decision. You still didn't answer my question. What do YOU want from the girl?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tox Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 Princessa. To answer your question. I want her back. I love her deeply, and it feels like its gonna take YEARS to get over her. Another update. Well, first that myspace message. Then that song. And yesterday she sent me a text where she said that she was trying the ring(not engagementring) that I bought her and it came right on her finger without soap and water. Her "love wounds" has made her starve and loose weight.. As usual, she's really not saying anything concrete. But...she's saying something. What it is..I can't figure out. The thing is Princesa, It can very well be both. I KNOW she's not over me, because that's what she said last time we spoke. BUT, it could also be "the post-break up withdrawal too". I dont know if it could be both or if they even mix. What should I do now?..I haven't responded to anything yet. Its been 6 days of strict NC for me, and she has broken it 3 times already. But I'm thinking, texts are texts and messages are messages. I'm gonna wait for a phone call..It's easy not to respond to texts, but I don't know if I'm strong enough to not pick up her phonecall if she calls.. Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 Ok this is getting out of hand... I can see I'm not getting any help here..What's wrong with holla? Too black for you?.... you said that, not me Link to post Share on other sites
princessa Posted January 22, 2007 Share Posted January 22, 2007 Princessa. To answer your question. I want her back. I love her deeply, and it feels like its gonna take YEARS to get over her. Another update. Well, first that myspace message. Then that song. And yesterday she sent me a text where she said that she was trying the ring(not engagementring) that I bought her and it came right on her finger without soap and water. Her "love wounds" has made her starve and loose weight.. As usual, she's really not saying anything concrete. But...she's saying something. What it is..I can't figure out. The thing is Princesa, It can very well be both. I KNOW she's not over me, because that's what she said last time we spoke. BUT, it could also be "the post-break up withdrawal too". I dont know if it could be both or if they even mix. What should I do now?..I haven't responded to anything yet. Its been 6 days of strict NC for me, and she has broken it 3 times already. But I'm thinking, texts are texts and messages are messages. I'm gonna wait for a phone call..It's easy not to respond to texts, but I don't know if I'm strong enough to not pick up her phonecall if she calls.. Look your girl seems just plain confused and unstable. I've read your other threads (long as it look me!!!! ...seriously you should consider summing stuff up in a nice short paragraph once in a while but I digress.. ), and it seems like she was having doubts when she initiated the breakup, didn't really want to work through them, and just assumed that it's best if you both moved on.. Then she started going through the grieving process and it's made her doubt her decision. What I think is that something didn't feel right for her when you were together, but now that you're apart she really misses you and doesn't know how to handle that or what to do. You clearly have a major communication gap in your relationship. You sound like you're a communicator, but it seems to me that she's the one who has trouble expressing what she feels and what made her doubt your relationship in the first place. I mean she can't even tell you straight up that she wants to talk to you. Sending texts or calling and then saying nevermind is just childish. She seems childish overall, so I think the best thing for you if you really love her would be to arm yourself with TONS of patience. She obviously isn't gonna leave you alone, so IMO you might as well sit her down and get to the bottom of your issues. You never mentioned WHY exactly she broke up with you. Was it because of the guy she was chatting with first that made her consider that maybe the grass is greener on the other side? Was it something else?? WHAT really happened there?? I think that's what you both should start by figuring out if you really want to make peace with the situation... Link to post Share on other sites
RocketMan2 Posted January 22, 2007 Share Posted January 22, 2007 That would be MH - Circle Pretty cheesy lol Why dont you text her back the name of some apt song like... Bow wow - outta my system or Omarion - Ice Box Im sure you know the lyrics, look them up, are they appropriate? Link to post Share on other sites
princessa Posted January 22, 2007 Share Posted January 22, 2007 Hahahaha... my song pick for this story would be Az Yet - What the hell do you want Link to post Share on other sites
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