SpyderBaby Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 When I became pregnant, my boyfriend started acting weird. I found it difficult to get hold of him at times and it took a day or two for him to even text me back. This caused a lot of arguements. The physical and affectionate side of the relationship was fine until around November time, then he seemed distant and didnt seem to want to be around me. I put it down to being afraid of what was happening. Even after several talks, things didnt improve and we decided to take a break. That was the 10th Dec. I went to hospital with preeclampsia the next day and stayed until I was induced and gave birth 23rd Dec., a month early. He knew I was in hospital and did not visit until I had our daughter. He seemed in a better mood and even started being affectionate again. We had sex recently and ever since he won't even hug me, and hes started to become distant again. He says he doesnt know if he wants us to get back together. What should I do? He says he still loves me, but I need to be shown it. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 I'm sorry he's being such a jerk to you right now instead of being the loving, supporting guy he should be being. How old is he? He sounds pretty young. Did you consent him before you got pregnant? Was he okay with it before it happened or wasn't it planned? Sorry. So many questions I know. I just don't know what he's thinking unless he's not ready for the responsibility. It doesn't much matter to some people that there's a baby around that's half theirs. Some people just run from the responsibility as if they have a right to. He shouldn't be acting like this to you. You're his baby's mom. You shouldn't have to worry about him really. You have enough to take care of now. An actual baby. He should stop acting like he's a baby himself! Link to post Share on other sites
daisydo Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 I think right now is a time for you to take care of yourself and your health and your new baby. Of course he shouldn't be acting like this - but your main concern needs to be you and your baby's needs. I would try calling on family, friends, clergy, or neighbors for support during this trying time. I do not understand why you have to go through all of this uncertainty and heartache in an already stressful time in your life. You need good people to fall back on for help. I hope we can do that for you here at LS. I do agree and think that he is overwhelmed with the situation and is probably unsure how to handle this new responsibility. Having a child can make someone who is young and inexperienced grow up very quickly. Other times, it can make them run like the dickens. I hope the former will be the case in your situation. I would be open and honest with him about how you feel - but also try to avoid putting any unnecessary pressure or blame on his shoulders. Express to him the joy of having a child and tell him that you and the child need his love and support. Also understand that it is going to take some time for the both of you to adjust to this new life. I hope this helps. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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