What the hell is wrong with him? Is it worth it?

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Me & this guy have been off and on for the last couple of years. Basically, when he ends whatever relationship he was in, he starts calling me again, trying to hang out with me, and wanting to spend most of his free time with me. Every time he does this, i get pissed off because i feel like his rebound. We just started talking again about 3 weeks ago & i told him how i felt about it. He told me he just wanted to "take things slow and see how we got along". He also said we were not in a relationship, but were not just friends, either. I asked him to define what we were. He said "more than friends, but not in a relationship--It can't be defined."

 

Whenever i comment that we are not in a relationship, he gets mad, and says, "Oh really? Then what are we?" When I remind him that he's the one who said we weren't together, he denies he said it! What the hell is wrong with him???

 

He is also staying at an apartment i own. I also own a house that i primarily live in, so it's not like we're living together, but sometimes it seems like he wants me to stay there with him--Then there's other times when he acts like he doesn't want anything to do with me. I don't get it. He'll bring his **** over (DVDs, Stereo, TV, Clothes, Toothbrush, Soap), and then he'll take it all out. He's done this 4 times in the last 3 weeks.

 

We do have a history with each other and i care about him, but i don't think i can go through another attempt at a bull**** relationship with him--It's just too draining. When i tried to talk to him about this, he said i was the reason a "real relationship" never worked with us and that i keep running away and avoid trying to be serious with him. But how can i get serious with someone who keeps giving me mixed messages?

 

He does things that make me not trust him (lies about being on the phone, hides his cell phone so i can't look at who he's calling, goes out of town and lies about where he is). Then he turns around and says he wants to be with me & i'm just being paranoid and need to trust him. Is this whatever-u-want-to-call it worth the time and effort? Why is he giving me mixed messages?