ahsumgurl909 Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 We were having sex and he suddenly had a heartattack. They just took him away in the ambulance. He is only 44. Is this my fault? I feel so bad. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Google "sex heart attack"... it's normal for older men. You must be a rough rider. Gitty up, horsey! Link to post Share on other sites
guin_girl Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 909, I"m sorry to hear what happened, that awful.... but why aren't you at the hospital with him instead of on here? geesh westernxer.... 44 is not that old... Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 geesh westernxer.... 44 is not that old... It is for this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 We were having sex and he suddenly had a heartattack. They just took him away in the ambulance. He is only 44. Is this my fault? I feel so bad. I'm so sorry. I highly doubt you had anything to do with it. Heart attacks are usually caused by right many contributing factors, and some over a good period of time. Not just from something that happened in one day. Link to post Share on other sites
Mythical Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 yes that is very terrible to hear. How exactly did this happen?? did they know you were having sex while he hade it...I guess if e was naked or whatever. You should be there with him!! Link to post Share on other sites
guin_girl Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 It is for this guy. lol... remember that when you get to that age... Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 lol... remember that when you get to that age... Not a bad way to go out, plus you can boast about it to the guys on the next fishing trip, pending recovery/survival. For the record, I never said old. You did. I said "older." LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted January 19, 2007 Author Share Posted January 19, 2007 AND HE TOLD ME TO JUST WAIT AND HE WOULD GET A RIDE HOME. HE IS MAD AT ME I THINK I DONT KNOW? BUT I AM PIST OFF THAT HE DIDNT WANT ME TO GO UP TO THE HOSPITAL. OR TO CALL HIS MOTHER EITHER. WHAT WOULD YOU DO GO ANYWAY? HE WOULD PROLLY YEALL AT ME IF I DID AND IMBARRASS ME. Link to post Share on other sites
guin_girl Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 For the record, I never said old. You did. I said "older." LOL ok I will give ya that one... Link to post Share on other sites
guin_girl Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 AND HE TOLD ME TO JUST WAIT AND HE WOULD GET A RIDE HOME. HE IS MAD AT ME I THINK I DONT KNOW? BUT I AM PIST OFF THAT HE DIDNT WANT ME TO GO UP TO THE HOSPITAL. OR TO CALL HIS MOTHER EITHER. WHAT WOULD YOU DO GO ANYWAY? HE WOULD PROLLY YEALL AT ME IF I DID AND IMBARRASS ME. well that's not cool.... but knowing me (cause I've met me) I would definitely be there... whether he liked it or not... now's not the time for him to get all macho on you! I doubt he's mad at you, he's probably more embarrassed than anything else. Link to post Share on other sites
emmaUK Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Is It Deff A Heart Attack??? If So Then Surely They Will Keep Him In For A Few Days.... U Better Get Up The Hosp With An Overnight Bag Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 AND HE TOLD ME TO JUST WAIT AND HE WOULD GET A RIDE HOME. HE IS MAD AT ME I THINK I DONT KNOW? BUT I AM PIST OFF THAT HE DIDNT WANT ME TO GO UP TO THE HOSPITAL. OR TO CALL HIS MOTHER EITHER. WHAT WOULD YOU DO GO ANYWAY? HE WOULD PROLLY YEALL AT ME IF I DID AND IMBARRASS ME. He is probably not mad at you. He might be mad at himself, esepcially if its something he knew or felt he could have tried to prevent better, with eating right or exercising etc. You figured he would probably yell at you? Well, if he has a history of "YELLING", then anger/stress was probably also a contributing factor. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkwall Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 If he didn't have this attack with you he would have had it walking around the block, crossing the street, walking up stairs etc. The point is he had a weak heart. Either he knew it or he didn't. At least now he knows his limitations and how much activity is too much. If anyone is blaming you they should be embarrased. Just try to be supportive and patient with him right now. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 It is for this guy.Just because his heart was weak doesn't make age 44 old. Ahsumgurl909, it's totally not your fault. Sexis a physical activity that raises the heart rate. He would have had it next time he went to the gym or jogged or got too excited about anything. I would understand if you had a fight and it happened in the middle of it, but sex... he enjoyed it. Don't feel guilty! I hope he recovers and feels OK. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted January 19, 2007 Author Share Posted January 19, 2007 They are admitting him so Im on my way there now. He called me and sounded bad. He wants me there. That makes me happy. But im feeling really guilty about not telling his mother because what if something serious does happen and I hadnt informed her about it? She will hate me forever. Also he demanded that I dont call her. Because she is having a serious surgey done tomorrow cause she is ill and I can understand that. its not as serious as a heart attack. But it could be I guess. Anyway should I call his Mum or not? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted January 19, 2007 Author Share Posted January 19, 2007 Mis-spellings im kind of upset right now. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
My Fair Katie Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Anyway should I call his Mum or not? No, defer to him. His mom could just show up and cause him even more stress. Good luck, hope he's feeling better soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted January 19, 2007 Author Share Posted January 19, 2007 Thank you Katie so much I needed that answer before I left. Link to post Share on other sites
guin_girl Posted January 19, 2007 Share Posted January 19, 2007 Anyway should I call his Mum or not? I would not call her before her surgery either. He's going to be ok, so I wouldn't want to worry her. I'm glad he called and admitted he needed you... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted January 20, 2007 Author Share Posted January 20, 2007 Well I went to see him and stayed there til they kicked me out they are going to run some test on him and keep him til Tuesday. But I think he will bw just fine. Thanks for all your support Link to post Share on other sites
guin_girl Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 Well I went to see him and stayed there til they kicked me out they are going to run some test on him and keep him til Tuesday. But I think he will bw just fine. Thanks for all your support That's great to hear... Thanks for the update. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted January 21, 2007 Author Share Posted January 21, 2007 His Mom ended up finding out because I made him call her but she was so mad at me for not calling her the minute it happened and said if anything happens to my son and your present, you call me understood. I said "Yes Mrs. M***." Good! His whole family ended up there. And his brother called from Ala. You could see that he was glad. Why would he not want his family there? He told me he didnt get along with anyone. Which was kind of strange you could feel the love in that room last night. PS He told me he loved me not for the first time but he meant it this time. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 --"PS He told me he loved me not for the first time but he meant it this time"-- Um this statement plus the yelling at you and embarrseing you thing. Makes me think maybe you guys have some stuff you might want to start working on when hes better glad to hear he made it tho for you tho.. Link to post Share on other sites
PWSX3 Posted January 21, 2007 Share Posted January 21, 2007 I had a co-worker have a heart attack at age 40, it was actually the day before his 40th to be exact so age has nothing to do with it. Like many others have said it is how you take care of your body that caused it not what he was doing. Being his age if he is kind of "old school" (that's what I call it) then you supposes to be tuff and mocho, you don't supposes to show your emotions. I really feel he was just venting to you because he was embarrassed about the hole thing. There is something else you will have to remember this WILL change how he looks at things in the future or at least it has for the 3 guys I know that have had them. They learn real quick how short life can be and they start to look at things different, so you might see changes in him that he didn't do before so this is something you might want to read up on or talk to someone about changes after the heart attack. They will more then likely put him on a diet & get him exercising as well, this will be a life change for him if he excepts it, but remember whatever they tell him to do "IF HE DOESN"T DO IT" then you can force him or tell him to do it. If you start trying to tell him he will get mad. Just be supportive and help when you can. Good luck, hope everything turns out for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
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