Author loveratud Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 She sent me a message this morning. She said that a stuffed animal that she gave me that's in one of my facebook photos is named Scruffles, not Snuffles. Tagged onto the end of that was "way to not say hi, or give me a chance to. You looked really good." In reference to the other night at the stand up comedy show. I'm planning on ignoring this for now. I still plan on sending the card I talked about above, but in a few weeks. You guys don't think that ignoring this message is going to hurt her or make her think I'm not interested, do you? Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Since she opened the line of communication and specifically mentioned not saying hi at the concert, maybe you should respond. Just don't go over the top and into any of the no-no behavior like saying you love her or miss her or want her back. She needs to remain friendly, but probably isn't ready for too much friendliness just yet. Just my opinion. Many may disagree. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveratud Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 Since she opened the line of communication and specifically mentioned not saying hi at the concert, maybe you should respond. Just don't go over the top and into any of the no-no behavior like saying you love her or miss her or want her back. She needs to remain friendly, but probably isn't ready for too much friendliness just yet. Just my opinion. Many may disagree. Yeah, I discussed this with my best friend Tara, and she seems to think it might hurt her feelings or make her think I don't care if I don't respond. So I think a response appropriate for the original message is my best bet. Nothing serious or pushy. I think "You looked really good too. Glad you finally got a new phone." EDIT: Yeah, that's the message I sent. Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 I was going to suggest saying that you didn't say hi because you didn't want to make her uncomfortable at the concert. then I saw that you had already replied. then I thought to myself, well she didn't say hi at the concert either, so why should you have to explain. Leave it as it is...did you enjoy the moment in my brain? Just kidding; not a real question but more of an observation to myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveratud Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 I was going to suggest saying that you didn't say hi because you didn't want to make her uncomfortable at the concert. then I saw that you had already replied. then I thought to myself, well she didn't say hi at the concert either, so why should you have to explain. Leave it as it is...did you enjoy the moment in my brain? Just kidding; not a real question but more of an observation to myself. Well, I didn't even look her way at the stand up comedy show. And when it was over I quickly led my group right past her without saying a word. I'm not going to be her friend. The odds of getting back together if we go the friends route is not good. So I'm not going to act overly friendly. Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Good idea. I agree that being overly friendly is not the way to go. Civil, yes; friendly, barely. And I'm sorry, I keep saying concert when it was a comedy show. I'll try to pay better attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveratud Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 Just enrolled for Salsa dancing Monday nights at 8:15. 4 lessons, starting this Monday. Sadly this means I'll have to record my favorite show in the world, 24. Anything for love though, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveratud Posted February 2, 2007 Author Share Posted February 2, 2007 Big Valentine's day party on the 9th, put on by my fraternity. Her and her friends are going. It's a "pajama party" but in reality all the girls wear lingerie. I have to be there. I'm not looking forward to this. Link to post Share on other sites
notmakingsense Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Why do you have to be there? I'd dissappear for that night if I were you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveratud Posted February 2, 2007 Author Share Posted February 2, 2007 Why do you have to be there? I'd dissappear for that night if I were you. Well, first of all, I realize now that when I was with her I was neglecting my friends, my fraternity and my student government position. In the last few weeks I've become extremely involved in all of those. Second, I'm in charge of risk management. I have to run the door, make sure there's no underage drinking, irresponsible behavior, etc. Since I'll be at the door, I'll be certain to see her in her lingerie. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveratud Posted February 2, 2007 Author Share Posted February 2, 2007 Sigh... another night with no sleep. I'm going to the doctor at 11 today. I've gotten pretty sick (strep throat I think) in the last few days. I have 3 hours of standing outside talking to people ahead of me tomorrow too. Ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
notmakingsense Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Well it sucks that you have to be in a position to see her. This is just going to stretch things out for you and make it harder to get over her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveratud Posted February 2, 2007 Author Share Posted February 2, 2007 I was outside for 3 hours this afternoon getting signatures for a petition (student government thing) at the leasing office. Her building is next door. I saw her leave, and come back with a bag of groceries. I went inside the leasing office to use the restroom, and when I came back, there she was with a cup of hot tea. It was this special kind she makes w/ all kinds of junk in it. That's what she went to the store to get. I said thanks, that that was really nice of her. I said I'd see her next friday at the valentines bash, and she said she really didn't want to go, that her friends were pressuring her to. I said I'd be running the door all night. We were taking steps away from each other during this conversation. We just kind of walked away without any goodbyes. Link to post Share on other sites
Am4Real Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Well, first of all, I realize now that when I was with her I was neglecting my friends, my fraternity and my student government position. In the last few weeks I've become extremely involved in all of those. Second, I'm in charge of risk management. I have to run the door, make sure there's no underage drinking, irresponsible behavior, etc. Since I'll be at the door, I'll be certain to see her in her lingerie. Loveratud, No offense to you my friend but I believe what we are all saying is you do have a choice here and, I/we think any choice to make would be for the benefit of YOU first. It appears you are finding or promoting a reason to be there because as much as you might be helping out your FRAT bro’s, you will also get to watch your EX girlfriend in action. [highlight]Perhaps she will be having fun or the time of her life without you, perhaps she may end up with a FRAT bother, perhaps something else…is this what you really want to do to yourself?[/highlight] Torture, uggghhhhh. I suppose we’re here to support you no matter what you choose to do and we will, but honestly you’re about to walk into an emotional tornado and unless you are just not as ready to move on as you might have us believe, I suspect your after-party post in this thread will be somewhat depressing in nature. Of course if your real intent on going to the party is a shot at reconciliation, be prepared emotionally if it doesn’t go the way you are hoping or dreaming (and if alcohol is involved it could be the fuel for a major embarassment or let down)….sorry about all the negative comments, I just want you to seriously consider all the options no matter where your heart is pulling you. Best of luck in your decision! We’re with you no matter what. Am4Real p.s. I've got a solid date for tonight; I'm quite attracted to her and you know where my mind will be...not anywhere else except on her. Try for the same if you can....all the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveratud Posted February 2, 2007 Author Share Posted February 2, 2007 I was attending the party before she was. I'm obligated to be there. I'm not desperately seeking reconciliation. I believe we'll be together in time, but she needs the time and space that she asked for. If you read my most recent post, you'll see that she likely isn't even going to the party. I've made my choice, I'm not moving on. I won't give up on this. No way, no how. If I do, I'll regret it forever. I told her 2 months ago that I thought she was the love of my life, and she felt the same. I won't let that go without a fight. Link to post Share on other sites
Am4Real Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 I was attending the party before she was. I'm obligated to be there. Like I said, we're with you no matter what you choose. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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