jon55 Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 I apologize about the long post... So I dated this girl a while ago. For years we were friends, then we finally dated for a while until suddenly one day she started acting distant. I confronted her on it and I couldn't get a great answer out of it. I kind of made a dumbass out of myself and probably looked a little needy right before we started dating. Her boyfriend before me (who was also her first) was a controlling guy and verbally abusive. They fought constantly. Her friends all feel he messed her up. Since the brake up we've been friendly towards each other, always being as normal as possible when hanging out with our main group of friends. I've been trying to get over her and recently started making some real progress! Earlier today she called out of nowhere and was asking for something back that I had borrowed a long time ago. Everything went fine but I was crushed. Just seeing her for that minute made me remember how crazy I am about this girl. It's been 2 years!! Im trying so hard to move on, I've dated other girls, kept myself from her, anything. I havn't really talked with anything more than a handful of people about it, nor does she know. I would love to tell her how I feel but I don't think it would do anything. I've been following the NC rule as best I can (for the most part) but Im not sure what to do anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
notmakingsense Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 You are doing all the right things. Spilling your guts to her will just re-affirm the old impression of being a needy guy to her. It has been 2 years, which may mean that there is some sort of unhealthy aspect about how you think about things. How much are you dating other girls, and are any of them making an impression on you as much as she did? If you are hardly dating at all -- you might have confidence/self-esteeem issues, and you should work extra hard at this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jon55 Posted February 6, 2007 Author Share Posted February 6, 2007 I've dated a couple of girls since her. They were fun and I didn't really think about her during those times. It really messed up my self-confidence though. I'm not the playful outgoing guy I used to be. Link to post Share on other sites
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