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[pennstatepeanut]

Hey ya'll. I've had this on my mind for a little while and decided that I should write about it to see what you all have to say.

 

I'm 25 going on 26 and I'm still single. I'm at the point in my life now where I'm ready to be in a relationship and get married and have kids in a few years if possible. The problem is I still don't have anyone. I recently went out on a first date with this guy who after a few conversations over the phone after that date implied that he loved me. This was only after one date and a few scanty phone calls here and there. That really threw me for a loop. It put up red flags and I've kind of been keeping my distance from him. It scares me because it tells me that he is either very desparate, or he thinks that's what I want to hear, or that he's the jealous type once you get in a relationship with him. Is this fair to assume? People have been saying maybe that's his culture (he's from Nigeria) or maybe he knows what he wants but I don't know.

 

Since I know that I'm looking to get into a serious relationship, I'm scared that since he's the first guy I've gone out with since I returned home (I lived in Africa for two years doing volunteer work) I don't want to just jump on the first man I see. He is a nice guy but up to now I don't feel like I have a good grasp on the type of guy he is and I didn't feel any initial sparks I expected on our first date.

 

What I want to do is not to make any choice right now with him and go out with other guys, get to know them a little better and decide who's a good match for me.

 

What do ya'll think? Should I date more than one person and choose? Is it right to assume what I did about this guy? Any dating tips and advice are welcome.