babyfyneinlove Posted January 23, 2007 Share Posted January 23, 2007 Hello there... I'm new to this forum... I feel lost and this is the only place I've felt I could turn to for advice... So here it goes. Saturday night my boyfriend went out for his friends birthday and bumped into his ex-girlfriend. When the night was over... around 1am he came to pick me up... insisting he needed to see me. He looked worried when I saw him... my heart instantly sank and I felt something horrible had happened. I was scared. We went to his house and got settled in before he started to explain what was going on. He kept saying "You know you're my everything, right?" He told me he had bumped into his ex that night... and that all he could think about was how important I was to him and that he just HAD to see me. His phone rings... they invited him out somewhere and he told them he wasnt gonna be able to make it. I asked him who it was... and he replied "some girl". The next day I checked his phone and called the number. It was his ex-girlfriend. He doesnt know I called the number... and right now I'm completely distraught. The thing is... is that he has a new number... so the only way she'd be able to call him was if he had given her his number that night. He's really picky about who he gives his number to usually... so I'm totally confused as to why else she would have it unless there was something that happened between them that night. The look on his face when I got into his car... like he was afraid to tell me what happened or something... I dont know what's going on. Should I confront him about this? Do you think he will stop trusting me because I looked through his phone? He may have been honest with me and nothing did happen between them... but I saw an outgoing call to her, and an incoming call from her. I almost feel like he 'needed' to see me because perhaps he felt guilty (if anything did happen). I need some advice. What should I do about this? I just feel so lost. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted January 23, 2007 Share Posted January 23, 2007 Something happened. I don't think he would have been so shaken and just HAD to see you if nothing had happened. If he had just run into her with a group of people, why would he be so freaked out? Did he explain that to you? Didn't you ask him if something had happened between them? And if there was an outgoing call to her, did you see the time of the call? Was it when they were all out together? If so, he probably called her so she would have his number in her phone. I think you should follow up and tell him you'd been thinking about the other night, that he really scared you with how worried he looked, and is there anything else he needs to tell you. Ask him if he's been talking to her (without telling that you looked in his phone), ask him if he called her, if she ever called him. If he continues to lie about that, then you need to tell him you saw his phone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author babyfyneinlove Posted January 23, 2007 Author Share Posted January 23, 2007 Thanks so much for your advice! I will try talking to him about it the next time we see eachother. He called her around midnight or 12:30am if I remember correctly. :\ He may not have been with his friends anymore at that point... I didnt really ask many questions at the time because I was sort of shooken up... I'll follow up on how things go. I hope he doesnt lie I'm scared Link to post Share on other sites
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