my ex calls me crazy and psycho in front of his friends

[Cherbear]

We broke up and made up 3 times in the past year. Long distance for 10 months. Everytime I chased him back b/c i was born and raised to fight for what i want. I thought i did the right thing, at least can't say i didn't try. If i tried this hard and still it doesnt work, then i wouldnt feel guilty. But i couldnt be more wrong.

 

My ex is very shy and kinda geeky. He is a senior in college, never had any female friends, let along girlfriends. He is not very confident in anything b/c he's not good with girls nor studies(he's on academic probation this final semester of college). He just likes to hang out with his guy friends and play video games day and night. But me chasing him back gave his ego such a boost especially I'm kinda popular and several friends of his liked me before i went out with him. I did all the chasing b/c it's also my first relationship(i didnt want a relationship before;i wanted to enjoy single until i decided to settle down and be serious) and i always fight for what i want and also quite inexperienced. I didnt know what young immature guys like him think. The more I chase him, the more he feels like he's somebody.

 

Until a month ago he broke up with me during his finals and i decided third time is the charm and it passed. So i stopped chasing him. We had very little contact during this whole month.

 

Yesterday i heard from a trustworthy mutual friend Tom that my ex was like" yeah she's psycho" when his friends tease him or mention me. And he offered what to look out for in a girl which were specific references to me like being a bit clingy and high maintenance. I seriously cant believe him. I mean, i never did anything bad to him except chased him back. And when we were together he was so nice and polite. I cant believe he could even say things like that.

 

I cant believe i even thought about getting back togethr with him after he finishes the probation, graduate, find a job and live on his own. B/c the main reason for our breakup is he couldnt handle everything in his life:very controlling parents who call him 3 times a day since he's the only child, demanding schoolwork, friends, long distnace gf. So when he said he doesnt want a relationship right now i kinda understood. But now when people tease him he'd call me psycho to make him look cool or something b/c he's really not in any other way?And making the-once-popular-gal-among-his-friends look bad would make him look really good?See, she was popular but she was nothing to me, how cool am i?

 

I know i need to move on and i am. Just out of cursiosity, do u think someday he'd come crawling back so i can get my apology?

 

PS:he was very indesivie and changes his mind all the time. For example, during our 2nd breakup, i said if he doesnt want me i'd probably go out with one of his friends Mike. He said that would've made him jealous but not any more. But when i went out with mike on a friends date(i made it clear to mike i'd like him to be my friend) my ex went crazy and chased me back. Just a little info about how his personality is.