ShadowU12345 Posted January 25, 2007 Share Posted January 25, 2007 Well, I'm 15, and I have a very big problem with talking at school. I have no idea why, I think I'm just scared of what other people will think of me. The reason I want to talk more is because the people who have met me outside of school think that I'm awesome to hang around. So they all keep telling me that I need to talk more at school. It doesn't really sound that bad yet. Also, my girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago in which we were suppose to be together for a long time. Well.... the reason she dumped me is because I kept telling and promising her that I would talk more at school. The only way I can win her back is to start talking. Thats not the only reason though, I mean, I would also make a lot of new friends. It doesn't help that I'm known as the guy who never talks at school. So if anyone could help me, give me some advice on how to start talking. To make it a little bit easier, I have things to say at school, but I just have a problem getting it out into words. By the way its a small school with only like 300 students. So this task should be a little bit easier. PLEASE RESPOND! Link to post Share on other sites
NineGirl Posted January 25, 2007 Share Posted January 25, 2007 what do u mean by "talking" at school? u mean when your hanging out with ur friends during school or something? If thats the case..u shouldnt feel awkward or shy, be YOURSELF! trust me, u will regret it once you look back and realize it wasnt ever a big deal Also if u feel that anyones going to judge you...then they really aren't ur friends to begin with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShadowU12345 Posted January 25, 2007 Author Share Posted January 25, 2007 yeh, I can talk to them easily outside of school, but for some reason at school I just can't get the words out to say anything. Its just something about school. I will definately try to become myself even though I keep telling myself this over and over. Hearing it from someone else is definately going to encourage me a whole lot more. Thanx. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShadowU12345 Posted January 25, 2007 Author Share Posted January 25, 2007 I wouldn't mind if some other people gave me some more advice:) Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted January 25, 2007 Share Posted January 25, 2007 Start small, like with a question that requires more than just a yes/no answer. That way you have more chance of getting a response. Like, "Hey cool (insert item here: shirt, tattoo, piercing, haircut) where did you get it?" People like talking about themselves. Then you get a conversation going. Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted January 25, 2007 Share Posted January 25, 2007 Storyrider got it right. People like to talk about themselves. They also like to be complimented and to appear "cool." I find it interesting that you don't seem to have a problem talking outside of school, but seem to have a problem doing it at school, even when speaking to someone you are comfortable talking to outside of school. Any idea why? At some point were you given the idea that you have to be a different person at school? Were you ever teased or taunted about something you said, even if that was a long time ago? You're 15, have you recently changed schools, like moving to high school? Just wondering. When I was in school all I ever heard was that I needed to shut up more often. I like to talk.... Link to post Share on other sites
alextop30 Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 as far as I understand your problem is that you have a problem speaking to your friends in classroom and inside the school building, If that is the case I believe you should not have anything big to worrie about all that you should do is think to yourself that noone truly cares what you gonna say because they are all too busy with their crap and let me just say middle school and highschool especially noone trully cares trust me. I disliked highschool because I earned the name of the class clown and was really hard for me to find a girl friend but you know if I am on your place I will not give a damn to what other people think of me. Because you know what it is their opinion and it really doest matter. To start talking more I suggest make good friend and talk to them with almost wispering voice so noone else can hear you after that just start walking a little farther away from your friend in the hallway wich would definately make you speak up because of all the noice that is going on I can emagine I believe that would get you to feel more relaxed or just give it an act as you totally dont care. I really hope that I was able to help Link to post Share on other sites
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