Over-protective Parents -- Lack of Freedom?

[drewicide]

To start things off, I'm in my last year of high school so I'm on the home stretch. During this time I must keep up my grades in school so I can graduate. However, the classes I am taking requires a lot of work and includes loads of homework as well. Everyday when I come home around 4PM (I actually get off at 3pm, but I take 2 busses and the subway in order to get home), I'm so tired that I can just flop down and take a nap for 2-3 hours easily. Usually after I wake up I eat dinner (30 min) then take a short break then proceed to homework. I usually stay up until around 2AM, then sleep. Well today, my parents thought they had enough of this.

 

I thought to myself "Why would it matter to them". In response to this, I thought that they just cared about me. Ok, that's normal for parents. I can see their point of view. Also this lack of sleep isn't too good for me either.

 

Anyways, my dad comes busting into my room while I'm studying at 12AM and shouting at me and telling me to go to sleep. He kept on yelling and saying profanities and just told me to sleep. I told him that I still had to study a bit more. I also asked him politely if I could be alone. Then my mom came (she was woken up by all the noise) and "joined forces" with my dad and they both put me down saying I don't appreciate this and that, etc. What really got me the most was when my dad said I wasn't good enough for them and "You're nothing to be proud of." I held back my anger until I started to cry. Then they just kept putting me down until my mom suggested that they both go back to sleep.

 

I should note that his best friend also died recently. Could this have caused him to feel a bit of anger in his mind and directed that anger towards me?

 

I feel like I should have a bit of freedom as to how I should live my life. If I lose a lot of sleep, that's my choice, not my parent's. If I feel like staying up until 3AM doing irrelevant things or even schoolwork, that's my choice.

 

My parents suggested that I do homework immediately after I get home. I tried this a few times and everytime I just doze off when I do my work.

 

Am I wrong, or am I right?

[bab]

Well, you are both right. You are old enough now to have the ultimate say over your study and sleep habits. On the other hand, you parents see that you aren't making the best choices, so they are concerned. If you went to bed earlier then you probably wouldn't fall asleep after school, and would overall be healthier.

 

As far as your dad's comments, if they aren't something that he would normally say, then yes, they are probably a symptom of his grief. That does NOT make them okay. You should talk to him. In a calm manner tell him that his comments, and name them specifically, hurt your feelings. I'm guessing that if this was an unusual occurence, he will apologize.

[watford4ever]

my parnets are like that to but with my boyfriend from watford england my mom doesnt like the idea of him comin over but my dad is startin to like the idea but i just want to invite him over so my parents can get to know him after i do is this a good idea?