How do I put an end to this frustration?

[MDog]

I'm having trouble with this girl and I'm not quite sure what to do. A long time ago (middle school years), I had a crush on this girl. Unfortunately for me, I had a couple friends who back then, were giant losers and spread the word that I liked this girl. And they went up to this girl personally and said **** like "So-and-so wants to f*** you" ,etc. Terrible, embarrassing things for both of us.

 

Anyway, after middle school I left the district and went to another school. I hated it and came back to my old school district the second semester of my freshman year. Although that whole fiasco with this girl died down, she kept staring awkwardly at me. Not any expression on her face. Either that or she looks at me with her eyes squinted. I no longer had a crush on this girl but seeing her stare at me like that made me feel incredibly guilty about what had happened.

 

After freshman year, I heard a rumor that this girl actually wanted to get to know me. She started staring at me even more which created even more awkward situations. I eventually just decided to go talk to her to see if she really did want to get to know me (and hopefully stop the awkward staring). She was nice about it and said yes. However she first perceived it as if I was asking her out and she said she had a bf. Despite the fact I wasn't really interested in going out with her, that whole thing with the bf pretty much killed any attempt to "get to know each other". So we kind of stopped talking(for the most part).

 

But now its junior year and this staring thing hasn't stopped. It still gets to me the same as it did freshman year. Not to mention, this year I now have a class with her which means more awkward moments. I don't know if she's still thinking about what happened in middle school or what but its been driving me crazy. But I really want to talk to her about this to try and put an end to it. But I don't want to just make another awkward scene between the two of us.

 

So that's why I'm here seeking help. Based on what I posted, why do you think this girl keeps staring at me in such an awkward way? And also, how can I put an end to this without making things worse?

 

Thank you in advance for taking the time to read my post and to those who help me out.

[longlegzs80]

WEll, without having your friends being involved this time and embarrassing you and her, go up to her and talk to her. Tell her how you feel and you want to know why she keeps starring at you. Thats what I would do, but then if I Was once attracted to her, it might be hard. Why don't you want to hang out with her, or get to know her? Obviously if she has a boyfriend, she isn't interested in him, she is interested in you. So what's stopping you.

[ddnnee]

or you could ignore her stares. if you are noticing her stares, then that means you are looking at her. still like her eh?

[MDog]

I don't know about still liking her that way but I am pretty good at catching people who are staring at me, not just her. But she's been a victim of that more than anyone else because she's stared at me more than anyone else.

 

But I do want to talk to her to try and figure out why she does this. The only problem is I don't want it to be an awkward conversation. I can't just go up to her and ask "why are you staring at me?". If anything, it'd make her stare at me more because I'd put more awkward tension between us. But then again, even if one of us just says "hi" to the other, it brings out more awkward moments between us. Basically seems like we are just going in circles.

[Cous Cous With Goose]

I'm having trouble with this girl and I'm not quite sure what to do. A long time ago (middle school years), I had a crush on this girl. Unfortunately for me, I had a couple friends who back then, were giant losers and spread the word that I liked this girl. And they went up to this girl personally and said **** like "So-and-so wants to f*** you" ,etc. Terrible, embarrassing things for both of us.

Those aren't friends. Those are faggots.

 

Anyway, after middle school I left the district and went to another school. I hated it and came back to my old school district the second semester of my freshman year. Although that whole fiasco with this girl died down, she kept staring awkwardly at me. Not any expression on her face. Either that or she looks at me with her eyes squinted. I no longer had a crush on this girl but seeing her stare at me like that made me feel incredibly guilty about what had happened.

It wasn't your fault it was your friends. But I understand the uncomfortable energy.

 

After freshman year, I heard a rumor that this girl actually wanted to get to know me. She started staring at me even more which created even more awkward situations. I eventually just decided to go talk to her to see if she really did want to get to know me (and hopefully stop the awkward staring). She was nice about it and said yes. However she first perceived it as if I was asking her out and she said she had a bf. Despite the fact I wasn't really interested in going out with her, that whole thing with the bf pretty much killed any attempt to "get to know each other". So we kind of stopped talking(for the most part).

That's where you messed up. Don't expect anything. Or assume anything. She has a perfectly good relationship with her current boyfriend, but she's checking the options. Personality is a lot more important than physical looks to a girl, and she doesn't know you personally. There's no rule that says girls can't and won't abandon their current boyfriends for another man.

 

But now its junior year and this staring thing hasn't stopped. It still gets to me the same as it did freshman year. Not to mention, this year I now have a class with her which means more awkward moments. I don't know if she's still thinking about what happened in middle school or what but its been driving me crazy. But I really want to talk to her about this to try and put an end to it. But I don't want to just make another awkward scene between the two of us.

Yea, just be funny about it. Crack jokes, make her laugh. Make her feel comfortable about the previous situation. But when you talk to her, make sure it's alone. Find it in your heart to not care what this girl thinks about you. What's she gonna do? Let it spread around the school? Yea right! It's something the two of you share. Not something you and the rest of the world share.

 

That being said, approach her and make some casual conversation. Maybe go up and comment about how you say her staring at you.

 

"I noticed you staring at me. Are my eyes really that sexy?" you have to know how to say it though, have that slight humor in ur eyes and that slight twinkle that lets her know ur just playin with her. That'll relax her and then open a bunch of things up.

 

"But seriously, I've noticed you staring at me a lot. Why is that?" ask it wonderingly, like you really want to know and have no idea why she's staring.

 

So that's why I'm here seeking help. Based on what I posted, why do you think this girl keeps staring at me in such an awkward way? And also, how can I put an end to this without making things worse?

 

Thank you in advance for taking the time to read my post and to those who help me out.

I don't know why she keeps doing it. You can put an end to it by talking to her like I said you should.

[MDog]

Well I tried to talk to her earlier this week when I had the chance. Can't say it went well. I said hey and she said hey back (in an unenthusiastic way). I started to ask her a question about something (unrelated to what I was going to ask her) and she completely ignored me. She just kind of acted like I was just a nuisance. I thought that was kind of weird since EVERY single time I've ever talked to her before that she was incredibly nice but that time just the opposite. And for the record, its not like this was a one day thing, I've been getting this vibe a lot lately although I only talked to her just that one time.

 

So now I'm still clueless about the whole staring thing and now I'm starting to get this. I guess I just don't understand what's going on with her btw.

[JCD]

I think she doesn't like you and only talks to you when she feels like it otherwise she ignores you. You should just ignore her back. What she's doing is rude and needs to be smacked in the head to realize it.

[MDog]

I think she doesn't like you and only talks to you when she feels like it otherwise she ignores you. You should just ignore her back. What she's doing is rude and needs to be smacked in the head to realize it.

 

Maybe, but normally she is pretty nice or atleast tries to be. Don't know what her problem is though..