Author outofdarkness Posted February 28, 2007 Author Share Posted February 28, 2007 Hey you all..I was wondering if anyone can tell me what sms messaging is? My H mentioned in passing one day, and I just read on another thread about it... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Short_message_service Hope that helps. Link to post Share on other sites
yousaveme Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 I believe its just text messaging. On a cell you can IM eachother using different systems. AOL, Yahoo, and MSN messanger. Then you have basic txt messaging phone to phone. You can get charger per text or pay a fee and have unlimited txts. If you try and get the messages you cant the only thing you can see is the number. OR if it is from a service that I mentioned above. Hey you all..I was wondering if anyone can tell me what sms messaging is? My H mentioned in passing one day, and I just read on another thread about it... Link to post Share on other sites
precious1357 Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 Please, please don't make yourself sick(er) over this mess. The more you look, the more you may find. If you really want to know ask him directly. Maybe he's waiting for you to say SOMETHING so that he can get it out of his system. Link to post Share on other sites
Author outofdarkness Posted February 28, 2007 Author Share Posted February 28, 2007 Please, please don't make yourself sick(er) over this mess. The more you look, the more you may find. If you really want to know ask him directly. Maybe he's waiting for you to say SOMETHING so that he can get it out of his system. just curious...Didn't think of wikkopedia...Thanks for the info...and I have been really busy...not thinking about it 24/7..really only when I'm on here....thanks again.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author outofdarkness Posted April 5, 2007 Author Share Posted April 5, 2007 Hey everyone... I didn't want to start a new thread on Infid...so hopw it's ok to ask on this one again. Same subject...I have gps locater serv on our cells. I use it every now and then just for piece of mind when my H travels. I questioned the accuracy of it until I spoke to the cell co..It is very accurate.. The reason I'm upset: I used it last night; he is in a major city, and it showed an address I has gotten before but was unable to find out what/whom the local is...On another follow up check, it showed an address I had not gotten before when he has gone to this particular city...The closest local it gives me to that add is one street # off of what the gps shows. It is a hotel...The other shows several restaurants, bars w/in close prox...I can see his hotel and the office he goes to; he's has to visit all offices in his territory, but seems to spend alot in this city...It is the same city that I caught him lieing to me about having dinner/drinks alone w/ a young co worker/subordinate...on the cell phone locator site b/c I have all hotels/offices typed into permenant locals. So...the locator shows me if he is where he told me he would be...I know it's accurate b/c I did it early this morn and it DID show that he was at the hotel and then the office. Same deal late aft. yest. when he checked in... He was angry w/ me yest. and last night...irritable and told me to stop "bombarding" him w/ calls..This was BEFORE the locator...I had only called him twice...HE called ME numerous times just to gab about stuff...He finally called this morn very angry about the pages he got to locate him...He gets a page on his cell when it is located..HE had to set it up b/c the phone act is in his name...I tried so many times after D day to get him to change his cell and service..He's had the same # all through the cheating, and our serv does not show incoming call #'s. I wanted to change to one that does show them...He gave excuses time and again and then just refused...Anyway, he told me NO MORE PAGES! He told me what time his flight gets in, he has a conf. call then will be home..He always goes to his office first after arriv. at airport to "check his work mail" before coming home. Also, he has been going to a certain very well known coffee place and sitting for hours to " read papers, etc."... I feel like I'm going into denial again...I'm upset, worried and scared. Can anyone help? Insight, OPs, etc...I just need some feedback. Am I paranoid or is something going on? Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 hire a PI and shut up. Then you will know for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
TYASAFAHICSI Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 I am sorry but you are way off the deep end here and I am not sure that you guys will survive. I know I could not live like that with a jealous spouse checking my every footstep. As to the address info. Hotels typically take up more than one street address. Look at any city block, there may be a solid block of a large hotel and only one door. The hotel DOOR may be at 123 Main Street, but their dining room might be at one end and that may by GPS rules be 125 Main Street. I doubt that something is going on. I mean how can it be when you are paging him, and he is aware that you are tracking him by GPS each time he goes to take a ****? Certainly not the ideal circumstances for an EA. But, I will tell you that if I were in his shoes, I would be inclined to send you a text message saying: "I want a divorce. GPS this" and then toss it into a lake! Sorry to he harsh, but I mean really come on. I did not read the entire thread again, and I suppose he may have cheated before, but honestly we can be rehabilitated---and with all the checks and balances you have on him. Sheesh! Link to post Share on other sites
sadbuttrue Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 OOD, you are still with the man that cheated on you so many times? of course you are paranoid. what do you BS always tell us OW? once a cheater always a cheater? i think you should get someone to follow him or do it yourself just so you can see what he is really up to. then leave his a$$ if he cant stop cheating on you. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 Hire a PI and this way you'll know 100% for sure what he is doing. You can't live like this and neither can your husband (that is if he isn't cheating and has nothing to hide, the checking up on him must be driving him nuts) but if he IS cheating, then the way he is acting and lying to you again is digusting. I feel for you. But now it's time to do something, so look into hiring that PI. Not knowing for sure is killing you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author outofdarkness Posted April 5, 2007 Author Share Posted April 5, 2007 I am sorry but you are way off the deep end here and I am not sure that you guys will survive. I know I could not live like that with a jealous spouse checking my every footstep. As to the address info. Hotels typically take up more than one street address. Look at any city block, there may be a solid block of a large hotel and only one door. The hotel DOOR may be at 123 Main Street, but their dining room might be at one end and that may by GPS rules be 125 Main Street. I doubt that something is going on. I mean how can it be when you are paging him, and he is aware that you are tracking him by GPS each time he goes to take a ****? Certainly not the ideal circumstances for an EA. But, I will tell you that if I were in his shoes, I would be inclined to send you a text message saying: "I want a divorce. GPS this" and then toss it into a lake! Sorry to he harsh, but I mean really come on. I did not read the entire thread again, and I suppose he may have cheated before, but honestly we can be rehabilitated---and with all the checks and balances you have on him. Sheesh! thanks but no thanks...you are now blocked. i don't need any more hostility and degradation in my life..had that for 10 years while he cheated... Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 His attitude about this reminds me of the attitude my exH had while he was cheating. Defensive and mean spirited about everything... that was what tipped me off the second time - because that was how he acted the first time. When he wasn't cheating he was always the perfect husband and father. It is not even worth bothering with someone who will always justify their inability to be faithful. They seem to make it all the other spouses fault. I would hire the PI just to put your mind in a place of not needing to wonder anymore. BTW - he sounds like an unappreciative jerk to me. There are really nice men out there - so who needs one who is this mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Author outofdarkness Posted April 5, 2007 Author Share Posted April 5, 2007 thanks for the advice..concern...any more thoughts? exluding sthe one I blocked. And..i think the best thing i can do is shut up for now... Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 you could place one of those voice activated recorders (i think they look like a pen and you can easily hide them) in his car and maybe one in his office while he's away and maybe inside his suitcase or briefcase... i have heard that they work quite well... Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 OOD: I'm really sorry that you're still dealing with this...I think that you are probably the best gauge on whether he is cheating or not... And do what you need to do...why should you have to shut up? (I don't even like to type that!) Unless you're really ready to leave or throw him out, COMMUNICATE whatever you need to! (((HUGS))) Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 OOD: I'm really sorry that you're still dealing with this...I think that you are probably the best gauge on whether he is cheating or not... And do what you need to do...why should you have to shut up? (I don't even like to type that!) Unless you're really ready to leave or throw him out, COMMUNICATE whatever you need to! (((HUGS))) because if she keeps ragging on his ass without proof then it will do nothing but make things worse, and scare him off his fling. That is why she needs to hire a PI and shut up about it. I hardly doubt if she keeps prodding him he will confess. Nor will she know anything without proof ..... nor will she believe he is or is not cheating unless she has concrete proof at this point. Pointless to keep flapping ..... bottom line need proof of it either way for her own peace of mind. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 I hear what you're saying a4a, but unless she's really going to do something with the info, I don't think it matters whether she rags on him about it or not... Link to post Share on other sites
TYASAFAHICSI Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 Not that she will see this, but why come someplace and ask for peoples opinions and advice when she has no intention of listening or even considering it? Why not just preface it and say, I am not looking for advise, I just want to rant and ramble on! TYASAFAHICSI is now going to take his loyal dog and jump off a bridge because he is blocked! Link to post Share on other sites
Izzar Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 (((((ood)))))) Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 I wouldn't want to be him.. She locates his cell with GPS.. it texts him so he knows.. how dumb is that ? I can't figure out why OOD is still married to him and I also can't figure out why he is still married to OOD.. I think OOD is creating just as much harm to her marriage with her games with locating him and GPS that his affair and cheating has done.. OOD.. hire a lawyer and divorce him.. move on from this drama.. Nobody needs this.. not you.. not him... One thing is for sure.. tracking him with GPS doesn't answer anything.. if anything it creates more drama and questions and in the end mistrust Link to post Share on other sites
DepressedWaiting Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 In regards to the following comment mentioned by somebody in this thread: "But, I will tell you that if I were in his shoes, I would be inclined to send you a text message saying: "I want a divorce. GPS this" and then toss it into a lake!" Wow, I can tell you one thing... if a spouse CHEATS and BETRAYS a women then that women has every RIGHT to track his every move for as long as she FEELS necessary. You CHEAT and BETRAY somebody and then have NERVE or audacity to complain that you don't like the consequence! Deal with it... if you cheated then you will pay for it for as long as she NEEDS to make you pay for it. If my husband cheated on me and that was his attitude "GHPS this" he wouldn't live to see tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
Author outofdarkness Posted April 5, 2007 Author Share Posted April 5, 2007 I wouldn't want to be him.. She locates his cell with GPS.. it texts him so he knows.. how dumb is that ? I can't figure out why OOD is still married to him and I also can't figure out why he is still married to OOD.. I think OOD is creating just as much harm to her marriage with her games with locating him and GPS that his affair and cheating has done.. OOD.. hire a lawyer and divorce him.. move on from this drama.. Nobody needs this.. not you.. not him... One thing is for sure.. tracking him with GPS doesn't answer anything.. if anything it creates more drama and questions and in the end mistrust duley noted...reasons for still being married have been outlined everywhere on LS if you're interested. Most imp't is that we have a very ill child...others too..yes, I love him...thanks for the input... Link to post Share on other sites
Author outofdarkness Posted April 5, 2007 Author Share Posted April 5, 2007 In regards to the following comment mentioned by somebody in this thread: "But, I will tell you that if I were in his shoes, I would be inclined to send you a text message saying: "I want a divorce. GPS this" and then toss it into a lake!" Wow, I can tell you one thing... if a spouse CHEATS and BETRAYS a women then that women has every RIGHT to track his every move for as long as she FEELS necessary. You CHEAT and BETRAY somebody and then have NERVE or audacity to complain that you don't like the consequence! Deal with it... if you cheated then you will pay for it for as long as she NEEDS to make you pay for it. If my husband cheated on me and that was his attitude "GHPS this" he wouldn't live to see tomorrow. Thanks, I appreciate the advice...am trying to "shut up" for awhile...at least my mouth, not my typing finger... Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 duley noted...reasons for still being married have been outlined everywhere on LS if you're interested. Most imp't is that we have a very ill child...others too..yes, I love him...thanks for the input... Then try and find some peace and let the past be the past.. It can't be easy having an ill child and then drive yourself up the wall with questions.. Your mistrust is understandable.. but how much is too much ? when do you stop mistrusting him ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author outofdarkness Posted April 5, 2007 Author Share Posted April 5, 2007 (((((ood)))))) ummm, yeah??? What? Link to post Share on other sites
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