Author mishy Posted January 29, 2007 Author Share Posted January 29, 2007 I am not going to be bumping into him anywhere. Its extremely unlikely. WHat right do I have, as the dumper, to ring him and ask to resume contact? Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted January 29, 2007 Share Posted January 29, 2007 WHat right do I have, as the dumper, to ring him and ask to resume contact? People change their mind. You did. Be the first to crack. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mishy Posted January 29, 2007 Author Share Posted January 29, 2007 i feel really stupid though, because i said to him that it was definately over and i would not be changing my mind, because i made the decision weeks ago and had not had any doubts during that time. And that there was no way i was going to change my mind. I'm an idiot. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted January 29, 2007 Share Posted January 29, 2007 I'm an idiot. Are you sure? Link to post Share on other sites
brisman Posted January 29, 2007 Share Posted January 29, 2007 Mishy, he's likely to be hoping you'll change your mind and call him and he'd be delighted you called. If he chooses to make himself himself feel better at your expense if you do change your mind, then you can take that as an indication that you were right after all. If he truly doesn't care if you want him back, then you've lost nothing, except for maybe some hurt pride. But at least then you'd have been true to yourself and not caught up playing power games. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 You have nothing at all to lose.The only thing i would say is to be 100% sure its what you want.Im in the situation your ex is in and believe me when he ended things with me i tried everything i could to make him change his mind but as i said in my earlier post he was sure in his mind he had made the right decision. I cant tell you the amount of times i wanted to contact him asking if he,d had second thoughts,(i did a couple of times)but his decision was still the same "for now"he said.If he had only just once phoned and asked me for another chance i would have taken him back with open arms but he didnt. I had to give up because of my own sanity but from my point of view his silence told me he had made his mind up and no longer loved me and that hurt because we had had a really good relationship or so i thought. How can your ex know how you are feeling if you dont tell him?How do you know hes not thinking the same as i was that your silence tells him you no longer care?If you truly want to try again then let him know he can only say yes or no,you wont know unless you ask him. It might turn out he will be afraid of giving things another go but you know what,at least he will know that you dont hate him and im sure that would mean alot to him.Phone him.at least you will know 1 way or the other,good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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